Posting About Moms

It does not matter either way, typically if I happen to post about someone on here they will find out from me because I will tell them. I rarely discuss something about someone w/out talking to them about it at somepoint; maybe I came here for other views first or to gather the lynch mob ... either way I try not to talk about people with out letting them know how I feel to their face.

I live by the rule that I won't say anything on the internet that I would not willingly say to a persons face. I am not sure what other mom's do, but I think that it is important to have an outlet. If a person is really concerned about some one they discuss finding a not so great post about them there is the lovely option not to use your real name.

One reason I rarely read Mamapedia anymore - so mean and/or judgmental at times. I have recognized several people I know on Mamapedia - however they have never posted anything negative or mean so it isn't an issue.
My favorite is telling people what to do without really thinking it through.
I've also noticed that many moms see their children as an extension of themselves - and in some way they are. In many more ways they are their own persons and not an extension of the mother. It might help the tone of Mamapedia (and other relationships) to realize that and not judge ourselves or others so quickly. When complaining about others, how often do we (me esp.) do we stop and ask ourselves if the problem is really ours - not theirs. Their behavior bothers us - but isn't that really our own problem?

I joined this because moms were nice and supportive - making suggestions but not telling each other what to do. Now I rarely read it because it seems so petty at times - and I'd rather enjoy my young child. They grow up so fast and what would I'd rather have for a memory - working up negative feelings about others and complaining online or going outside and having my 6 yr old show me a dinosaur shape in the clouds?

Hi Jen, Anything on line is not confidental. This site to my knowledge was set up so moms could seek advice from other moms, BUT it has turned into a gossip site. A lot of people don't understand that anytime you are talking about another person, wether be your neighbors, co workers, relatives it is gossip if you are talking about them in a negative way. You can ask advice without mentioning people's names or their position. J.
Wanted to add something after reading the last post whether you use your real name or not, if you talk about other people it;s still gossip. J.

If you are posting or venting about another mom from school or work - it's like the Carly Simon song - You're So Vain - they might not recognize their own behavior.

But for me? As if you don't know already - I don't say anything here I wouldn't say to your face.

I bet the smelly cheerleader's coach and the loud gum chewer's office mate wish those moms were on Mamapedia.

ive always wondered if people i knew were on mamapedia but im fairly certain my two neighbors i have complained about do not come on here, although if they did and they saw me complaining i wouldn't have a problem with that because i come here as a last resort! those neighbors already know what i think of them!

i worried so i got a nickname and use my hometown, not current town.