Need Support and Advice - Black Mountain,NC

As hard as it may be, I think it's time to let go. Your daughter is almost an adult, and she thinks she has it all figured out, so let her be. Your health is suffering, and that's not right. I would tell her not to bother to come home. This will probably break your heart, but explain your reasons to her. Don't let her use your home as a laundromat. My kids are young, but I believe in natural consequences: if you tell them not to do something and they choose to do it anyway, they have to live with the consequences. Hopefully, it will not take her long to realize she's made a mistake, but if she does eventually come around and you decide to let her back in your life, make sure there are clear boundaries and be clear about how you want her to act. Good luck, and take care of yourself.

TELL HER IF SHE HAS IT ALL FIGURED OUT TO STAY GONE~~IT SOUNDS AS IF YOU HAVE YOUR HANDS FULL. AND IF SHE WANTS TO BE GROWN UP LET HER PLAY GROWN UP AND WHEN SHE RELIZES THAT IT AIN'T ALL FUN AND GAMES MAYBE WITH ALOT OF PRAYER AND A LITTLE LUCK SHE'LL REALIZE THAT LIFE ISN'T A CAKE WALK. BUT SOMETIMES YOU JUST HAVE TO CUT THE APRON STRINGS AND LET 'EM GO AND FROM THE SOUNDS OF THINGS SHE'S GONNA DO WHAT SHE WANTS ANYHOW. I'D TELL HER THAT SHE CAN COME TO VISIT BUT I'M NOT A GROCERY STORE, A LAUNDRY MAT, OR AN ATM. SO UNLESS YOU HAVE JUST COME TO CHIT CHAT THEN JUST KEEP ON GOING. IT SOUNDS ROUGH BUT SOMETIMES TOUGH LOVE IS THE ONLY WAY TO GO!!GOOD LUCK~T.

Hi C.,

May I suggest changing the locks. Catch her attention. If you change the locks she'll know you are no longer available for her every need. Ensure your windows are locked, she'll be surprised that you're not going to allow her to come and go as she pleases. She won't like this, most likely she'll ask questions and be angry. However, act with patience and love and just tell her you are no longer going to support her actions. If she's sleeping somewhere she can do her laundry there. Reassure her of your love and stand strong as a woman and a mother. We all need love but we don't need to be walked and stomped on. Health is very important. I would suggest you to evaluate where you stand in your own life and how you can better it for yourself. I wish you lots of luck. I was once this rebelious child also, your daughter will come around with time and patience. Continue to pray and love her unconditionally.