My Daughters Do Not Want to Go with Father

Seek help through some type of agency to get the support you are entitled you and deserve.If he was able to get more time with them, you need to step up and get child support on a regular basis.Also be sure to document EVERYTHING. Write down when the girls go with him, what they did during the time, who they were with, when you receive child support, how often he calls them etc etc. Contact as many people/organizations as you need to until you find someone who can help you get what you and the girls deserve.

D.,
I feel very bad for your situation. It must be so hard to watch them go through this. If he has been granted this visitation, I don't think you can do much about it except encourage them to see their dad and pick up the pieces when they return. Try not to let them see your disappointment or disdain for him. He will never break the bond between you and your girls. As for the "goes weeks without paying support" part...I'd take him to court sooner rather than later.
Good luck to you and your girls. God Bless.

Wow... I feel for you! He left you with two little children! That is quite a blow, but now you are on the road to a better life, and you have to "take the bull by the horns". Are you in Allegheny county? It is pretty simple to get child support through the courts and then the money just appears in your bank account every week. They make sure he pays. You have to file a petition at Family division in the county courthouse downtown on Grant street in Pgh. There are interns there who help you with the paperwork. Do you have any family members that you can trust to help you see your way through this? and maybe watch your girls while you take care of business? You are stronger than you know. You have to find that strength within yourself, pick yourself up and hold yourself in the highest regard. Think about the kind of example you want to give your daughters -- a martyr/doormat, or a powerful, purposeful shaper of her own destiny. It is not going to be easy, but it will be better than your life was with him.
God bless you,
N

Hi D.,

Honey, Honey, Honey, Go to the next available Co-Dependence Anonymous meeting in your local area.

Learn how to put yourself first.

Find someone to love your 3 dogs.

Call the Family Group Decision Making (FGDM) coordinator
and ask about having a conference with your husband.

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See if they can help you all with the custody, money, and selling of the house.

Good luck. D.