My parents are divorced, and have both made very poor choices in there lives. I tell my parents all the time, "my first responsibility is to my family at home." Alhough my issue with my parents has not always been being harsh on my children, I have always been serious when I tell my parents you will do what I think is right for my child, or you will leave. I always have family functions in a public place, or at my house when possible. I have has 2 situations where I really had to put my foot down. My mother has has a lot of different boyfriends since my parents divorced, some that were nice to me as a kid, and somew that were not. When I became a parent I told my mother no boyfriends. She showed up at my daughters 3 birthday with a boyfriend. I told her to leave and come back with out him or stay gone, it was up to her, but I would call the police and have them both arrested for trespassing if they did not leave. She left and came back without him. She did not stay very long, but she also has never brought another boyfriend. The second tiem I was very harsh was with my father. My brother has four boys. They have behavior issues outside of the norm, and it has gotten worse now that there parents have divorced. However they are kids and they still need love, especially from family. Parents are there to discipline. My nephew kept bumping in to this end table while he was playing catch with the dog. Hewas having fun and not paying attention to what was behind him, typical 6 year old boy stuff. My dad grabbed him by the arm, hard, and yelled at him because he knocked something off the end table and it bounced on the tile. I with out thinking went right over and told my nephew he could take the leash and play with the dog outside and told my dad that at my house we treat children this way, and if he wanted to treat his grandson different at his house that was his choice, but at my house we love the kids. He left soon after and did not say good bye to me. After a few days I called him and told him that I loved him. I also told him that I loved my nephews, and I know he does too, but he needs the boys to know he loved them. He agreed that as long as there parents were there he would let there parents discipline them, and he would love them. I treat my parents like they are children pushing there boundaries, and that need to be reminded about good choices. That does not work for every parent, but my parents divorced when I was very young and they forced me to grow up so they did not have to. It works in my family. Good Luck and remember what I said in the begninning, "my first responsibility is to my family at home."