Daughter Gong into 6Th Grade

Honestly I was about 15 before I started wearing makeup. You could let her wear some lip gloss. I wouldn't let her wear a bunch of makeup at her age. That is my opinion. I say let them be kids as long as possible.

I think 6th grade is too early. I have a pretty, popular granddaughter in 7th and she isn't interested in make-up yet. I'd see how the other girls look and maybe offer a small compromise if it seems like a huge deal- like a light, pink lip gloss. I'd put it off for a year or two if you can.

I believe I was in Jr. High when I was allowed to wear make up. (My school wouldn't allow it until then anyway.) This was late 80s early 90s. I was allowed to wear mascara and lip gloss at first, then by the middle of 8th grade, I graduated to a little blush and eye shadow as well. Good luck!

H. -

I have a 13 year old daughter with loads of friends. In 6th grade, it was lip gloss only. Toward the end of 7th grade, I noticed some blush on her friends, too. Now, as we begin 8th grade, they're adding some mascara, but the make-up is still very minimal and I think the girls look very natural and pretty. I never specifically told my daughter she could or couldn't wear any of the above. It just evolved slowly and she's making excellent choices. Right now, of course, she's very tan and the little bit she wears enhances her natural beauty perfectly.

I have two older sons, so this is my first time hitting these "girl" milestones. My children have all been raised with a healthy amount of freedom and they know that I will trust them and honor their decisions until they give me reason not to. So far, I've had no problems and letting my daughter experiment with a little make-up and come into her own on her own terms has worked beautifully for us. L.

Hi H.,
My daughter is going into 7th grade, and she does not wear makeup. Last year, most of her friends did not wear makeup- maybe a little bit of lipgloss. She did have one friend who wore makeup, and it looked too heavy for such a young girl. My daughter agreed. For school pictures this year, I allowed her to wear a light pink shimmer eyeshadow- barely noticeable, but it make her feel good. She doesn't fight me on it, so I don't have a problem with her. It's my 5 year old that would love to wear makeup. Good luck in your decision. BTW, I wasn't allowed to wear makeup until 16, but times have definitely changed since then.
K.

Well, now would be a great time to teach her about the skin care that goes with makeup - starting with a clean palette to avoid breakouts and such, cleaning the environmental grime before sleep. Maybe a little subtle gloss (one that conditions) and blush is okay now, but probably not ready for foundation or eye shadows.
I guess I would base it upon her skin condition - is her color uneven? Teach her that makeup is meant to enhance her natural appearance, not to look obviously made up.

Wow- it seems like our children are growing up too fast these days- 11 seems like just a child. There is so much social pressure these days. I remember wearing some make up in 7th and 8th grade. One thing that I never knew until recently is that most cosmetics are full of chemicals that are absorbed through our skin. Some of these chemicals are very harmful and can cause health problems (remember they found lead in lipstick last year). Every morning, women put dozens of chemicals on themselves, in the form of cosmetics, hair products and lotions. Is it any wonder that many women are developing cancer, and the age is dropping. When your daughter starts wearing make up, make sure that it is safe and pure. There are good companies out there that produce safe cosmetics, like Arbonne and Shaklee. I have a good friend that sells Arbonne products, or you can check out my Mamasource business "M. Goes Green" Good luck with 6th grade!

13 was when I was allowed to start wearing limited makeup... lip gloss/stick and mascara (or was it blush) that was a long time ago. My son is now going into 9th grade and I started to see girls wearing makeup in 6th grade, but there weren't many of them. I would say 10% started in 6th grade. There are still a lot of them who didn't wear very much in 8th grade (13 and 14 yrs old, I am sure that will change this year) I only say that so that you might have something to judge by when she says that everyone wears it, go to the school and check it out.

Check out fyiarbonne.com (for young individual) skin care and make up. An awesome web site with awesome Arbonne products. I am a Arbonne Consultant with a 5th grade daughter who loves them! So do all her friends. Now would also be a great time to indtroduce good skin care techniques along with the makeup. Yes, I agree with the others. At this age a lip gloss and maybe a sheer...I mean very sheer tinted moisturizer (offered by Arbonne). My daughter likes a tiny mascara as well and it looks very natural. My consultant number is 15995508 if you would like to place an order online. You can also get back in touch with me for more exciting info about Arbonne's awesome product lines!

Start minimal. Like a lip gloss. Gradually add an item. But I would make a deal here. Ask if it's to feel good about herself, to attract guys, or to fit in with a certain crowd.
Please don't allow the 'Gothic' look.
You could take her to a make up artist and have her show your daughter how to apply, how to enhance, etc without looking painted and gawdy.

Hi H.,
I completely agree with Carrie C. I would show her how to wear it correctly and then limit what she wears.
Chris

I personally do not think make-up on young girls looks good, however I'm sure her friends at school are doing it and I know I did at that age too! My suggestion is to take her to the mall and head to a department store make-up counter and ask for a "back-to'school makeover", which they should do for free! You might take the artist aside and let them know it needs to be minimal! Or just let her wear very little, like a lipgloss and light shadow and powder on her face. I would explain to her that make-up is for enhancing your natural beauty and to make her feel good and not for impressing anyone else (boys)!!! Also explain the dangers of sharing make-up so that she does'nt get to school and head straight to the bathroom to apply all of her friends make-up either!!! Good luck, I'm very glad my oldest is only six!!!! :)

I was in the 8th grade when I started wearing makeup, but that was more than 25 years ago, lol. I don't remember when my 16 year old started wearing makeup, but I'm thinking that she was around 13 or 14. Are any of your daughters friends wearing makeup? I would prolly try starting her off slowly, like letting her wear it when she's home or out with you, but not to school yet. Hope that helps!

S.

When I was in 6th grade, I started asking the same thing. My mom took me to Merle Norman and had then show me how to put it on and gave really gentle colors. I don't know if they are around anymore. You could always go to the mall and do the same thing, but the make-up there is expensive so you could take color schemes and go to another store to purchase. For me, it was a thrill that went away and I only wore it for a little while. :)

C.

I think at 13 I started wearing lipgloss and blush. Then my mom found some clear mascara and I was allowed to wear that too. No eyeliner, eyeshadow or foundation until around... 8th grade I think? It's been a long time so I can barely remember.

Definitely show her how to wear it and that it doesn't have to be caked on to look pretty.

The guideline we set for our girls was light lip gloss in 6th, light eyeshadow in 7th and eyeliner in 8th. If at any time they are late to class because they are putting on makeup or mess with it in class they loose the priveldge until the next year.

I was in 8th grade when my mother let me wear limited makeup. Honestly, I think 6th grade is too young. I mean, just last year they were in elementary school! Too many young girls look like hookers because they wear makeup and belly shirts. And then we wonder why things like teen pregnancy are such a problem!

Whenever you decide, do it because you feel your daughter is old enough to handle it responsibly. I would ensure she has a good skin care routine that she follows daily first. She is entering that puberty age when the hormones erupt all over the face. Having a good skin care routine will help with that. Once that is established and she understands the immediate and long term benefits of good skin care, then move on to make up when you feel it is appropriate. Make a special day of it. Take her to a makeup counter where they can show her how to appropriate apply the makeup without looking like a clown. I think sometimes coming from mom it just doesn't have the same impact. ;-) They can choose some colors for her that will enhance her look and not be overdone.

Good luck!

6th grade is when I let my daughter start wearing a little makeup. You can now buy mascara that is clear so it doesn't go on dark and think, it was great. I also let her wear a little lip gloss and very light eye shadow. I did find myself fighting with her about black eyeliner; I would suggest you buy a brow or dark green. Let her have a little trial and if it gets out of hand you can take it away.

Hi H.,

I would suggest letting her wear a little mascara and maybe
a lip gloss....it will feel like she is wearing makeup -
without looking too made-up.

Is she concerned about her skin...at this age she should also
be into a Skin-care regimen...cleansing in the AM and PM...
I am a BeautiControl consultant and would be happy to meet
with you for further suggestions.

My daughter, now entering 9th grade, asked the same question at that age. We were very relaxed about the idea and suggested she start with light shades of eyeliner and lip gloss and very little blush. We kept things very natural and stressed the point of not wanting to look like a clown, persay. Since then she has gradually gone to some darker colors in the eyeliner and uses mascara but, she also knows how to apply it. That is one very important issue...they must know how to apply it correctly. If you know of a make-up consultant (i.e. Clinique, Mary Kay, Lancome, etc...), it might be fun to meet with them and try some fun ideas. It is best to instill good cleansing if she is starting to use make up as well. Good luck.

Hello H., As long as she is only wearing it lightly, it is not a problem. It's about fitting in with the other girls. Boys are competative about sports, girls are about fashion. If however, it seems to be about attracting the attention of boys, or to appear older than she is, that is a major red flag. Just make sure she keeps it light and simple. Good luck.

Hello H.,

If you are uneasy about your daughter wearing make-up and she is pressing the issue, I suggest have a professional teach her what to use and how to apply it. I have a friend that does just that. She is not expensive and has been in the Hair and Make-up industry for over 40 years. She stays current with the current trends and attends classes regularly. She will explain the importance of skin care as well as the correct way to apply the make-up. If you are interested her name is Rita Cohen and she is located in White Lake at Elizabeth Lk Rd and Williams Lake Rd. Her number is ###-###-####. Good luck.

P.
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I can remember wearing it in 7th grade but only powder and lip gloss. I suppose that 6th grade would be fine as long as she was shown how to do it and not go over board.

I remember starting to wear make-up in junior high.
I think that if you allow her to wear lipgloss, a tiny bit of blush, and a light shadow with mascara, that should be good enough for a year or so.
she'll be happy to have on makeup, but she won't look all painted

Some girls in 6th grade will wear make up but keep it simple. My daughter is a freshman this year and still only wears some mascara. There are girls that wear way too much make up. I told my daughter she could wear make up as long as no one 5 feet away could tell she was wearing it. In other words it should accent her features, not be like stage make up. She also met with a Mary Kay consultant on colors and personal hygene. This may be a great way to get her to pay attention to that as well. Acne is right around the corner as well.

My daughter is the same way, going into the 6th grade. I feel she does not need it, she is a very beautiful person. So my husband and I decided she could wear nail polish, and is she can show she is responsible we will let her wear make up to the dances. This way it not a constant but yet she gets to feel grown up. We figured if we did not compromise in one way or another she was going to do it behind our backs. This way she also feels like she is wearing some make up.

I know her friends have been wearing make up for the last two years, way too young in my opinion.

Michele

I have 2 daughters, one starting 8th grade and one 6th grade - neither are wearing makeup (my husband won't allow lip gloss either). I personally think middle school is too young for makeup. The purpose of makeup is to enhance your features to attract the opposite sex - yes it also makes us feel pretty and confident inside (I'm not a prude, I wear it everyday myself!) But at this age, girls are naturally beautiful and should be encouraged to let that show through. To me there is nothing worse then seeing a young girl with full blown makeup on and you can't tell if she's 13 or 17.

13 was the magic age in my family. It was our special teenage right of passage.

Some schools don't allow them to wear makeup. But at ours they where allowed to so they could only wear alittle bit. Good luck.

I think 6th grade is a bit to young to be starting the makeup.I dont mind my daughter wearing lipgloss,she's going into 7th this year.I think if you feel ok with it then limit the amount she can wear.I feel in the middle schools girls shouldnt be painting their faces with makeup.My daughter isnt a girlie girl but she does occasionaly wear lipgloss.Its up to you as her mother to set the limit or not allow her too.

Good Luck!
~J.~

We also had age limits for everything in my family. I couldn't get my ears pierced until I was 10. I could wear make-up at 13 but my mom had veto-power if I got carried away.

i wore makeup in the 6th grade. powder, and eyeliner but my dad didn't like the eyeliner too much.

That is actually a tough one for you I bet. I don't know that I had an age limit when I was growing up (I should have, I wore quite a bit by the time I turned 13 lol), but I think the most popular age for parents is 13. I would say go with your gut feeling on this matter. If you think she is too young than set an age you think is appropriate. I would think things like lip gloss and nail polish is ok right now even if you do set a certain age in the near future. They just grow up so darn quick, don't they?

first, check with her school about if they have rules for make up. some middle schools don't allow it.

second, there is make up and then there's MAKE-UP. I started pale pink lip gloss in 6 grade, but didn't get to do eye make up till high school. Kids that have complexion trouble in 6th grade should be able to wear concealer.....

Now I go into my "nurse mode": stress to your daughter the danger of sharing make-up. If you do not let your daughter have her own, she may be more prone to borrow a friend's, and that is a great way to pick up a skin infection or an eye infection. Sometimes it can be an eyesight-threatening eye infection. Make sure she knows that unused eye make-up goes in the trash every six months, whether there is still some left or not.... for hygienic reasons.
good luck, L.

my daughter is exactly the same yes just light though no heavy my daughter weres light brown eyeshadow a little cover up and MAYBE lip gloss/stick so hope this helped

My mother never showed me anything. My middle sister and her friend taught me around 6th-7th grade. They showed me how to put all make-up on correctly and told me what each brush was used for. I only used lip gloss and blush for a long time. I would suggest showing her how to put all of it on but set limits. I see too many girls trying to grow up too fast and load up on the makeup, especially eye liner. They try to look older instead of using their natural beauty and only enhancing it. You'll know what is right for your daughter. Good luck!