Co-workers Daughter

Updated on February 03, 2008
S.T. asks from Kansas City, KS
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A friend at worker is having alot of not so good issues with her 13 year old daughter. What would be a good gift to say I'm think of you and your family? She's not one to really show her emotion but I know she is hurting inside and I want to give her a little pick me up. S.

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J.H.

answers from St. Louis on

I would say like a little relaxation kit. Bath stuff, a candle maybe a little poof. Take a trip to the dollar tree! You can get a whole bag of goodies for $10

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A.P.

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The gift of time is always the best option, just go out for a cup of coffee or a lunch where she can talk. Other options are a massage gift certificate for her to relax or flowers, especially this time of year, are a real pick me up.
Good luck. You are a good person to care like this.

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R.A.

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Hi S.,

Perhaps a journal (so she can vent), some chocolate (because chocolate always makes us girls feel better), and just let her know she can use your shoulder whenever she needs to.

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A.C.

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A note telling her just that; that you're thinking about her. Perhaps she should join mamasource. If you think she'd accept it, you may give her a list of good resources like this one.

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T.T.

answers from Oklahoma City on

I think sometimes people just need to know that there is someone out there that cares and can offer a shoulder to cry on or an ear to listen. Maybe just a card or flowers would be nice.

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A.K.

answers from Tulsa on

I would think about take to lunch or shopping so that maybe she can loose up enought to tell you her problems. Sometimes it is just good for a teen to know they have somw in their corner that are not her parents. I had a lady who I could talk to her when I could not talk to my parents about things. I hope this helps some.

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K.B.

answers from Kansas City on

I think a simple card to let her know you are thinking about her is enough.
You can always offer to take her out to lunch.

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T.T.

answers from Oklahoma City on

I suggest a card with maybe a note in it that says you offered up a little prayer on behalf of her and her family. I have a girlfriend who sends me greeting cards when she knows I'm in a struggle and it always lifts my spirits in a simple sweet way.

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K.B.

answers from Oklahoma City on

How about a gift certificate for mom and daughter to get a manicure or to go out to dinner?

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M.O.

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Maybe a gift certificate for a pedicure.

A.S.

answers from Kansas City on

What about treating her to lunch? I agree a card would also be nice, or even an e-card. Hallmark.com has some good ones.

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M.S.

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A giftcard or certificate for massage or manicure/pedicure etc. In other words, something for HER so she can escape, relax and indulge. :)

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K.B.

answers from Austin on

How about some really great and relaxing bath salts? Or candles...flowers even. I know I'd appreciate any and all of these things if I were going through a hard time.

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S.P.

answers from Kansas City on

I once arranged with a nearby florist to provide a very small vase with a single flower or a few flowers to a struggling friend of mine every single week on Monday morning. Having something of beauty to look at helped cheer her up.

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C.B.

answers from St. Louis on

It's hard to know what someone needs if they don't show their emotions, but what about a small flower arrangement with a card that says, Thinking of You....I'm here if you need anything. Sometimes just knowing that someone is there to help if needed, even if it's just to vent to, makes things a little easier to take.

R.A.

answers from Tulsa on

I think a great gift to get her mind off things would be a spa giftcard for 30 min to an hour.

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M.W.

answers from Topeka on

It sounds like she may need a break. My mother took in 3 grandchildren and became a bit overwhelmed at times. My sister and I took her to a nice lunch (of course after we made arrangements for a sitter mom had used), we then took a walk downtown in the shopping center. Mom stopped to look at a manicure shop so of course we went in. The point we didn't really have a plan just to get her out and relaxed. I think she loved it.

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K.T.

answers from St. Louis on

Hi 13 is a hard time for kids and I think for girls mostly. They have so many emtions going through them and hormones and some girl always has better clothes and is more popular. I remember my daughter got up one day and i took her by the shoulders and gently shook her and asking what she had done with my real daughter and bring her back right now HAHa.
As I frined a card onece in a while helps and just stopping by and asking how she is doing maybe going out to lunch just the two of you or maybe a movie but just asking helps and lets her know she has someone who is concerned. In one of the cards you might give her you phone number if she doesn't have just in case.
I think you are already a good friend just wanting to help
Good luck
K.

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R.R.

answers from Peoria on

I would say a massage would be a Great pick me up for any mom, dealing w/ problem kids or just everyday life. Maybe a manicure too.

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S.K.

answers from Springfield on

Hi there tack her to lunch & let her know you are there. With no judgements just an ear to lisen. S.

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M.L.

answers from Tulsa on

Once, someone did this for me with a card and It was extremely appreciated. Another time, when my first baby was born and I was overwhelmed with a huge baby and an unexpected C-section, a afriend came over to my house with a whole meal prepared. I'll never forget that.

I would suggest, depending on your circumstances: A meal, flowers as others have suggestd, or a nice card. Not all, just one. Great idea S.!
M

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M.M.

answers from Oklahoma City on

S.,
Depending on how close you are to the lady, I would get her a very sweet card and express your feelings in it. That might make her feel better! I would also suggest maybe getting her flowers and just saying that you are thinking/praying for her and her family. Also, make sure she knows that you are there to lean on or talk to if you need her (that is if you all are that close).

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