Bruises - Lakeside,CA

Real conversation between my husband and I:

Husband: Hey babe, did you see this on Kai's head?
Me: What is it?
Husband: I don't know...
Me: Oh, It's just a bruise.
Husband: (Laughs, high-fives daughter) it's huge!

Granted I'm a SAHM and I'd probably be more concerned if she were at daycare but definitely NOT over just a tiny bruise or a bruise on her leg. As long as it didn't look like someone (an adult) grabbed her then it's whatev, kids get bruises.. If she wasn't getting banged up I'd be more worried.

they are looking for things to complain about.....my exhusband took pictures in a burger king of my daughters legs and took me to court. the judge looked at him and said i see a child with normal bruising from being a child. and threw it out of court. bruises happen its a fact of life.

Are you kidding me? My daughter looks like we beat her shins with a stick...seriously. The ONLY time she cries is if she is in real pain. Now, if the bruise was large or like someone mentioned on the face then I would probably be more likely to question it.

Honestly, when my daughter was at daycare I may have asked the woman if she knew how she got a bruise. But, it was usually in the Hmmm wonder where that came from? The same question I would ask myself or my daughter. Not in accusatory way at all, just curious. Sometimes I would get an answer, because sometimes it was witnessed. Like, "Oh Raven bumped into a wall." But most of the time no one knew where they came from, and that was ok with me.

Children are klutzy and lack coordination. They bonk into things and get bruises, scratches, etc. If they aren't babied and treated like little wusses, they don't even cry about it.

Don't worry too much about it.

HA! If I were to log and account for every bruise, cut, scrape, scratch, or temorarily swollen body part I would not have a life. Now bites, those I check for frequently and take photos of and keep records of. My son was the victim of a biter problem was we did not know who the biter was because my son's sensory issues cause him to not be bothered by the bite. Two in one day! So, honestly, you are fine in my opinion; I expect my son to get hurt daily and I tell him "Chicks Dig Scars, and you will find that out when you are older" if you should disagree look at Seal and Heidi hello!! One of the hottest women alive and one of the most "notoriously" scarred men (plus a voice like butter).

My son sometimes has so many bruises up and down his legs that he looks like a leopard. He rarely complains about them and hardly ever knows where they come from. He is a wild child. Always jumping off of things, throwing himself onto the ground, rolling around. So I know that they are often self inflicted. Or, the kids run into each other a lot in his class this year.

oh my !! the bruises that my kids have had on them? WOW!!

Bruises on faces and hineys are the ones that concern me. Elbows, knees, shins, forearms - all common - and 9 times out of 10 - my kids don't know where the heck they came from.

I wouldn't stress over it unless they come out and accuse you of doing it.

At my son's two year well check the doctor lifted his shirt and his back was covered with little bruises here and there...he had some on his legs, but I didn't realize that he had a few on his back too. The doctor smiled and said that they were totally normal and showed he was playing well and physically active. I thought for a moment, "oh no, she is going to think I am abusing him or something"...she called them little boy bruises and moved on to checking other things.

So uh, yeah my kids and I for that matter end up with small bruises all the time...unless it was huge I wouldn't worry about it.

Yep I see them on my 5 year old DD all the time and it seems like she never even knows how she got them. Even on rare occasions when they look like it must have hurt lol.

I see them all the time on my little guy, he'll be three in April, is active, and if he doesn't cry when he gets hurt i usually don't know HOW he got them.

I have a similar story to Carrie's, when my SD was around 10 or 11 and playing soccer she had lots of bruises on her legs. On a visit with her mother the aunt, grandma, and mom all took pictures of her legs AND her whole body in just panties. When they showed them to her social worker the worker said she saw nothing out of the ordinary, asked how they could humiliate her like that, and told them if she ever found out they did something like that again she would have charges brought against THEM.

I agree with you completely. I hate it when other parents point out bruises on my kids. Yes, my boys will have bruises from time to time. They run, they jump, they kick, the climb, the don't always watch out for other kids, they stumble, they fall, the slide, they dive--they're kids--they will get bruised.

One of the problems is that often, a bruise doesn't show up until later, as the blood pools beneath the skin. You may not see it at the time it happens, and just don't think to check an "owie" later if there wasn't an obvious sign of injury.

I wonder, with these same parents, are they absolutely watching their kid every second, to see WHEN they happen to bump into the table or something....yet they expect you to be able to tell them when their child bumped into something?

Lol!
Yeah, they've got bruises all over their legs, and I've got bigger things to worry about.
People! ;)

Ever since my son could crawl he has had AT LEAST one bruise on him somewhere. Most of the time he has three or four, especially on his knees and legs. If I can't keep him bruise free, how am I suppose to expect daycare to keep him bruise free? If there was a major fall with a huge bruise or blood involved, then yes, I will want to know or ask some questions if I'm not told, but otherwise the little bruises don't bother me.

Hello, I totally agree. I did licensed daycare for about 15 years. Sometimes these things happen. I have babysat all of my local grandkids. Currently, I am co-babysit my three year old granddaughter. Her Auntie also babysits her on alternate days. Between my home, my grandchild's home and her Auntie's home, we often will not know where a bruise came from. Nobody ever thinks one of the others is abusing her. It just happens.
As a funny story, I had to take my second child (a son) to urgent care for falling off on his bike and hitting his stomach real hard. When the doctor came in, and proceeded to check him, he noticed three "bruises" on my son's upper arm. He asked what happened and I began laughing. The doctor shot me a nasty look and I told my son to tell him what it was. My son explained that we had been coloring Easter eggs and that he had wiped his hand on his arm and it had stained it. Life is never dull with children around.
K. K.