June 24, 2009,
B.N. asks from Redford, MI on June 23, 2009
Brothers Sharing a Room
We are getting ready to move this week and because of the layout of our new house, it makes sense for our boys to share a room - there is one room next to the master bedroom and the other 2 bedrooms are on the opposite side of the house, one of which we need for an office and we want to have a guest room as well. They are 3 and 1 and both good sleepers. They both nap in the afternoon and have the same bedtime. Any tips on how to make this work smoothly?
C.M. answers from Detroit on June 24, 2009
If they both have the same schedule I don't see a problem. They will probably like being together. Congrats on your new home!
K.T. answers from Detroit on June 24, 2009
This is exciting news B.!
A new adventure for your 3 year old and your 1 year old will just roll with the flow. Make the fact that this is their room together...an adventure for your big guy...many brothers and sisters have shared rooms for decades. I shared my room with 2 other sisters and my 2 brothers shared their room. We only had 3 bedrooms and 1 bath, only with a tub - no shower for 7 people....and we can all say now that we survived the space together!
You can do this! New house - home...new layout - rules.
Enjoy your family.....those little ones will grow way faster than you can ever imagine. God Bless
N.P. answers from Detroit on June 23, 2009
Seeing that the kids have the same nap and bed time, I don't foresee a problem with them sharing a bedroom. My boys are now five and three. When we converted my youngest son's crib into a toddler bed he refused to stay in his own bedroom any longer and would get out of the bed all night. We moved him into the room with my five year old and he was fine, no more problems.
A.B. answers from Detroit on June 24, 2009
My boys are 4 and 1 and they share a room. They love it! I put my 1 year old down for bed 1st then my 4 year old a half hour later. Otherwise they just play in there.
E.R. answers from Detroit on June 24, 2009
I had plans for my boys to be in separate rooms. They are now 5 and 3, but when the youngest was 11 months, we went on a trip and they slept on the same room. My oldest was very afraid at night and sleeping with his brother was like seeing the light at the end of the tunnel :) so they have being sleeping in the same room ever since. You should not have problems specially sharing the same bedtime and nap times. The only thing, now that they are older, sometimes they have too much fun until they finally fall sleep... specially if one of them is not very tired :) But that only happens on ocasion.
S.W. answers from Detroit on June 24, 2009
what a wonderful adventure. given that they are both so young, the adjustment should be a little easier. when we have faced adjustment challenges in the past, we have focused on framing things in the most positive way possible.
since the 3 year old is starting to develop memories and impressions regarding his environments, one thing i would suggest is to get him a little "big boy" gift (a thomas train, a book of his own, or a stuffed animal...something small) to demarcate his transition and show him how proud you are of him accepting and embracing this transition.
the other thing i would suggest is to let him find a part of the room, a shelf or a cubby of some sort, to call his own. this way, he has a sense of ownership in the room and will be more likely to share the rest of the space without argument. take the time to spend with them both in their new room and i foresee a smooth transition. :-)
best of luck!!!
L.K. answers from Detroit on June 24, 2009
I think it is a wonderful idea. My two boys have always shared a room. They are now 12 and 14 years old, due to hormones coming into play we are thinking of splitting them up, but have not as of yet. Unlike you, we do not have a guess bedroom to give to one of the boys and will have to move one to the basement, if it comes to it. But for now let them build their bond as brothers and take it from there, you can always change it later.
Hope this helped.