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Guilt Trip into the Woods: Do Kids Really Need Nature?

Photo by: Michel Filion

Last summer, my husband and I wrestled with where to take our seven-year-old son for vacation: Someplace wild and natural? Or a few days in New York City? Part of me longed to spend a week at the beach; we could turn off the computers, we could spend all day outside, we could commune with nature like poets or saints, or at least wiggle free of the media snake for a few hours. It would be good for our son, Nick, I told myself dutifully, even if I knew he’d rather listen to my iPod.

The Big Apple won out. We arrived in New York on a warm July day and headed straight to Times Square after dinner. Staring up at the ten-story movie ads, scrolling numbers, and cartoon characters, Nick danced as if the sidewalk were on fire. He gazed in wonder, like all the other tourists, many sitting in lawn chairs on one closed section of Broadway. He begged to go back to Times Square every night, and we did. My husband and I loved it, too, and more surprisingly, we loved our son’s response.

Maybe I was wrong to choose the asphalt jungle over the forest primeval. I’d always assumed that nature was better for my child than anything else. Oceans: beautiful, good. Giant M&M’s leaping on flat-panel displays: ugly, evil. But after witnessing Nick’s delight in Times Square, I began to feel not so much wrong as barraged by a dire message at every turn: Your child is being damaged by a lack of contact with nature. If you don’t fix it now, he will turn fat and fearful; he’ll be rudderless, adrift in a sea of enervating boredom.

My son is not a glassy-eyed blob tethered to a screen. He’s an enthusiastic dynamo, and his love of manga and anime and digital cameras and computer games and PowerPoint to create his own stories has made me question if nature has become his generation’s version of castor oil. Is it really true that Nick and all other children are in a state of natural crisis? Or is this just another round of Oldsters versus Youngsters, with boomer oldsters re-claiming a familiar refrain? These kids today are going to hell in a hand basket.

Front and center in the movement to call kids back to nature is a book by journalist Richard Louv, Last Child in the Woods. Published in 2005, it was followed by an expanded paperback edition in 2008. That same year Louv received the Audubon Medal for, in the words of the National Audubon Society’s website, “sounding the alarm about the health and societal costs of children’s isolation from the natural world.” Louv is now the chairman of the Children & Nature Network, an organization that he co-founded in 2006 and which was sparked by his book. The nonprofit based in Santa Fe, with its “news service and portal” website, is devoted to promoting nature programs around the country and kicky slogans like “No Child Left Inside.”

Louv’s manifesto is deceptively calm in its early sections, almost sad, as if he knows he needs to reel in skeptics like me. In it, he argues that children are rapidly losing the free-roaming experience of outdoor play. Kids now know a lot about global warming, but few can name what birds they see in their own backyards. They’d rather stay inside, watching nature on TV, and for Louv, that’s a disaster.

His crusade is far from a lonely one. Since the publication of Last Child in the Woods, a mini-boomlet of nature activity books has appeared, including I Love Dirt!, Nature’s Playground, and The Green Hour: A Daily Dose of Nature for Happier, Healthier, Smarter Kids. The Children & Nature Network promotes everything from the Children in Nature Action Plan created by the National Park Service to learning gardens in Buffalo schools. (According to the website, “C&NN has identified over sixty regions that have either launched or are assembling grassroots campaigns to connect children with nature.”) Each book and campaign and after-school program urges parents to expose their kids to the great outdoors; each tap-taps away, creating yet another anxious drumbeat, hectoring us about what we’re doing wrong.

No parent believes kids should sit in front of a computer 24/7. But I can’t help but feel irked by the hyperbole in statements like, “To take nature and natural play away from children may be tantamount to withholding oxygen.” And I object strongly to the assumptions behind Louv’s message. As a feminist and white adoptive mom of an Asian son, I’m disturbed by the belief that what’s “natural” is always best for kids. This feels like ’60s nostalgia—the kind that wishes women’s liberation and the Internet hadn’t ever come along to mess things up.

In addition, the back-to-nature movement demonizes its perceived enemy—the siren song of high-tech leisure options—to an unrealistic degree. A number of studies funded since 2006 by the John D. and Catherine T. MacArthur Foundation have found that children’s involvement with digital media is not just passive and addictive. Whether they’re creating photo collages and videos, hip-hop mixes, blogging their own stories, or modifying the rules of video games, kids can become empowered creators online. They’re not only sexting and aping celebrities.

The more I examine the work of Louv and his brethren, the less I’m persuaded that when boomers share stories of magical childhood times in a tree, “their cultural, political, and religious walls come tumbling down” as he claims. I just don’t believe that wonder can be reduced to one essential experience any more than motherhood can. And perhaps most disturbing for environmentalist moms and dads, I’m discovering that the nature movement—green and forward-thinking as it appears at first blush—looks an awful lot like a conservative message cloaked with some liberal fig leaves.

Last Child in the Woods isn’t telling a new story, but at the beat-me-whip-me level it’s an undeniably compelling one. Louv covers plenty of well-documented bad news, including the rise in childhood obesity, ADHD diagnoses, and electronic addiction.

Like most of my parent peers, I feel guilty—a lot. Every morning, when there’s barely enough caffeine in my system to cope, NPR seems to pummel me with stories about why our multi-tasking, Internet-chained pace isn’t good for kids… Continue reading on Brain Child’s site

Martha Nichols is a freelance writer in Cambridge, Massachusetts. Her work has appeared in Harvard Business Review, Utne Reader, Adoptive Families, Youth Today, and other publications. She is an instructor in the journalism program at the Harvard University Extension School, and a contributing editor and blog manager at Women’s Review of Books. She also blogs at Athena’s Head and Adopt-a-tude.

Brain, Child magazine: The Magazine for Thinking Mothers was founded in 1999 by Jennifer Niesslein and Stephanie Wilkinson, two friends who had babies under a year old. The pair, both with backgrounds in journalism, were itching for writing about motherhood that spoke to them.

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We all feel guilty about something. And part of being a parent is deciding what to feel guilty about and what to let go. But, there are more immediate consequences of not being outside - Lack of sunlight and time outside is linked to many forms of cancer (all of them, actually, except skin cancer). Children who go outside often, who play with animals, who get dirty in nature, are healthier, have less asthma, and are less likely to suffer from all sorts of diseases throughout their lives...

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This article is ridiculous. Does the author really have to go the other extreme and belittle Richard Louv's rational and well-written book to justify a trip to NYC? There is no justification needed. A trip to NYC would be fun for a kid - and then the next trip to the beach would be great too. I am sure you want to expose your child to different experiences. No one can MAKE a person feel guilty unless they are struggling with a decision that was made they are not at peace with already...

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A child should be excited by every new experience they encounter whether the bright lights in the city or fireflies in the country. I am pretty sure that your 7 year old would have been as enthralled with running through a dark field with a jar catching bugs as he was with the signs at Time Square. A child needs to be exposed to all walks of life. Nature is a very important and lost aspect of many children's lives today...

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Why does everyone seem so angry these days? Can't we just assume that NO ONE really knows what's truly best for our kids. Variety is a wonderful thing. But really, don't you think it's important for children to connect with what is supporting our existence. It is kinda important to have a little respect for the planet- after all, it is hard to have technology without a place to live and food to eat...

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I just took my 4-year-old city kid to Jackson Hole for a day of hiking at Yellowstone, river rafting and fly fishing. He found it delightful, rolled in the big grassy meadows along the creek, begged the rafters over and over for a chance at the oars. I felt great about it, and if I could I'd do more of it.

I moved to Tribeca specifically so he could play outside in the big park here. But city parks don't deliver the freedom that kids need.

I thought this title was a joke at first. Of course children need nature. I won't get into all the facts about the decrease in time that children have spent outdoors or how little free play children have--clearly the author has disregarded all of those facts. Nor will I describe how I feel that nature can challenge children and make the strong and inspired leaders. Who do you think will take care of our environment, our national parks--nature--if we don't teach our children that it's important?

Guilt?! Why can't we appreciate the city? Why can't we appreciate what technology has to offer. My children are now teenagers and we have been blessed to be able to camp and hike as well as visit museums and statues and arcades and amusement parks. It is ALL good! There are times and places for everything and I think that my job as a parent is to be the one to teach them that - not to withhold the experience...

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Honestly our children (the future) will be the only ones left to fend for mother earth wich is sadly being destroyed by people of our generation without empathy for endangered species, the dwindling rain forests, the ocean, melting glaciers etc. As parents we teach our children all sorts of things. But we all know about half of it goes in one ear and out the other. The only true way to really get the point across is to let them see and experiance the beauty of earth that has not been 'urbanized"...

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I think kids need the outdoors. When I was growing up my friends and i played outside from morning until bedtime only going home for dinner. i am not old by any means. I am only 27 so not part of the boomers you talk about in your article. I remember going on vacations when I was younger. The ones I remember the most and hold dear are the ones we took to natural places. Camping, hiking, beaches, national parks etc...

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Wow. Did some of these responders read the entire article? I found it insightful and well reasoned. I struggle with these issues too--am I giving my kids everything they need? Time in nature, time with friends, time alone. I also am haunted by my own nostalgia, remembering the woods, the creek. But I also remember longing to see something else, to be immersed in a different environment, at least for a while. And those trips were seldom...

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Wow, painful to read Nichol’s blog minimizing the benefits of nature on child development and skewering Louv’s book to shreds –sloughing it off as some “hyperbole”, a “demonization” of our high tech world. I think he was trying to say that a balance has to be struck. Children are inundated with high tech at all waking hours...

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I love the book last child in the woods and think that it does a fabulous job of explaining how unstructured time spent in nature in not only beneficial to kids but is a must. However, nowhere in the book does he talk about this being 100% of the time and although Louve does talk about wide open spaces he also discussed how that's not possible for all but we should still try to give them to build imagination and creativity with unstructured play...

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Balabce and moderation are always good things. I raised a daughter single-handedly and our outings and travels were a big mix - we'd stay in San Francisco, but go hiking in Muir Woods; we'd visit the museums and the big department stores in downtown Chicago, and also go swimming at the Indiana Dunes in Lake Michigan. Kids may grow up to fear the unfamiliar, whether it is place, food, people, etc...

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I am really enjoying the comments posted above. I was surprised to not see any comments yet about the author's statement "As a feminist and white adoptive mom of an Asian son, I’m disturbed by the belief that what’s “natural” is always best for kids." I am not sure why all of these statements are places into the same sentence...

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I agree with Beth. We don't recognize the extreme drop in outdoor time for kids. Especially in the city - kids get a fraction of the carefree outdoor time that other kids around the world get.
It's about free play too, not just sunshine. we think that an intense 2 hour little league game every Saturday is going to make up for running and playing and inventing games outside for hours on end day after day...

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