You're not a baby - you J. have a different love language. There's series of books about love languages (love language and kids, for spouse, etc)- for some it's acts of service, or touch, or gifts.
etc.http://www.5lovelanguages.com/learn-the-languages/the-fiv...
My love language is acts of service. When I want to show that I care I want to do something for you. One year for Father's Day I spent an entire, hot, sweaty day cleaning out the shed thiking my DH would cherish this gorgeious clean shed as a valued gift. (We have a large, fully packed shed.) My husband was not even slightly impressed. His love language is gifts. On Christmas morning he counts how many gifts I've given him. As ift regard sthe kids he makes sure we've gotten them the exact same amount and value. He asks M., ahead of time, how much did I spend on him? He feels it must be kept even. I couldn't care less. By the way, he's 47, I'm 52 - we're together more than 20 years, sharing the same bank account for 17 - so the money things shouldn't matter - it's coming from the same wallet!
My DD's love language is physical touch. She needs to be hugged, to lounge on top of us on the couch, she'll come and sit on my lap (she's now 2 inches taller than M.). My son's love language is words of affirmation. He really responds when I tell him how proud I am of things he's done, work he's accomplished, etc.
Once you can identify yours and others' love language it's like you can suddenly speak their language and you realize you've lived in a foreign land all this time not fully understanding what they've been trying to say!
Check it out - see if your local library has the book - or buy it - it's well worth the investment!