What Age Did You Let Your Dd Get Highlights?

No highlights on kids!!! Just my opinion. To me even kids with stringy brown hair (like mine) are adorable :) Especially if it's to send the message her hair needs to "look better" ? She's too young for that mode of thinking. I thought you meant "for fun" But I'm not even into that for kids. I say nay on the highlights, personally.

My mother let me begin getting highlights when I could pay for it myself & I agree with that. In addition, she allowed my sister to perm her hair in the late 80's early 90's when she could pay for it herself as well. I suggest you go on you tube and find fun hair tutorials and advice for kid's hair vs putting chemicals in her hair.

When she can pay for it herself.
IMO there is no need whatsoever to nurture a sense of vanity or a feeling that she isn't "pretty enough" with what nature gave her in a pre-teen.
Good luck.

She's way too young to get started doing something like this. For one, it's so expensive and needs to repeated every 6-10 weeks for it to stay looking good and "natural". Also, at age 9, why get her thinking that her natural appearance isn't good enough? First it's the hair, then what?

I started highlighting my hair in college, with my own money and continued to do it for almost 10 years. I hated when it started to grow out, it looked awful and I have light brown hair. I FINALLY stopped doing it and am back to my natural color, and it looks great and I feel so free. I no longer cringe when I look in the mirror or at pictures of my hair when my roots started growing out. Let her be natural, let the sun lighten it in the summer.

I also wanted to add, that the only time it really looked great was when I did a full foil of high and low lights...talk about expensive!!

i dyed my hair teal when i was 14. if this is going to be a continual thing and not J. for fun i;d ask why its that important at 9? my daughter has the same kind of hair but uses tons of cute headbands and clips. sometimes she likes it messy and down. she;s 6 and i dont mind enough to fight. i was a tomboy

i wouldnt want to set a prescendent for needing to get all prettied up at such a young age. while let her think looking perfect is so important? there will be enough years of that in the future. at 9 some kids are wearing mismatched boy clothes still. why does she have to look so cute and perfect?

I'm going to fight coloring of any kind as long as possible. So far, no one in my DIRECT lineage (mom, dad, grandparents, etc.) has ever dyed/highlighted their hair. Here's to keeping the streak alive! :)

Beware of little girls and a focus on vanity and appearance. Both my daughters are pretty, like to shop and care about their appearance. That being said I am dismayed at what seems to happen to girls around 10-11 years old, at least where we live.

With middle school comes an extreme emphasis on looks for many girls. They start wearing skimpy clothes, fake nails, extensions and yes, dying their hair. They spend a lot of time on maintaining their look and revel in the attention they get. At the same time it seems boys are getting "noticed" for their good grades or athletic achievements. It isn't all girls but it's a fairly large percentage of them and it makes me sad.

At nine your daughter isn't quite there yet, I'm sure starting to dye her hair doesn't seem like that big a deal and it really isn't. Just be careful of the message you're sending about what's really important.

At nine Is SHE really concerned about her hair being flat and stringy? If so do you want that to be something she focuses on? The message is your hair isn't good enough the way it is, you need to spend time, money and energy on making it look better. Between hair, nails and clothes it seems we are expecting our little girls to spend a lot of time on appearance and that has to come at the expense of other pursuits.

I have a ten year old who does like to paint her nails and curl her hair on occasion, it is fun to be a girl. Honestly, when she's up on the pitcher's mound in a dirty softball uniform, hair in a ponytail and huge smile on her face we find her more beautiful than ever.

I am a medium blonde with thin, fine, stringy hair. I was 17 when I got my first highlights. I regretted it, since it is something you have to maintain or it looks awful. I have never touched my color since. The best thing to do is keep her hair cut shoulder length, and use hair accessories to keep it out of her face.

hmmm, nine seems kine of young to start that but I have been accused of being a little conservative when it comes to my daughter. I don't let her wear daisy dukes or spaghetti straps, etc. That being said, back to your question. I let my daughter get about 10 foils for her 13th birthday plus she got a really trendy blunt haircut that I swear aged her five years! LOL Anyway, I let her do it again this past spring and she is already asking to do it again as a Christmas present (she turned 14 in August). When my daughter was your daughter's age, she went through a couple of years where her hair was kind of drab, too. It's really just part of the growing up process I think. As she gets older and learns how to take care of and style her own hair, I bet she will see a big improvement. Till then, pony tails are a girl's best friend some times :-)

Not until at least 16, and she has a job and can help pay for the upkeep. Once you go down that road, it's hard to stop, and it's expensive!

I think highlighting hair too young sends the message that she's not pretty enough. We all aren't born with fabulous, thick, naturally perfect colored hair. Most girls I know (my 9 year old daughter included), leave the house with their hair looking fine, but by the time they come home, it looks like a rat nest or they've been in a wind storm. haha.

Trust your instinct mom, and let her be a kid. Your stylist wants to make some extra bucks off your daughter.

when she can pay for them herself

I got my first highlights last month at 42, and only because I had a groupon. It was a good age to get them because they hid the gray hairs that are creeping in. Anyway, at nine I would robably french braid it or something.

My mom let me dye my hair when I was 16 or 17. SD got highlights (and looked like a zebra) when she was 10. DD has gorgeous hair and I hope she doesn't mess with it much. I will have her wait til 13+ to start messing with color. My sister has thin hair kind of like your DD's. I should ask what she uses. Your DD may not need as much conditioner as another kid, for example. And IMO coloring is just color. It doesn't add volume and it can potentially damage hair. My SD said her mom's hair was not soft and I kept my mouth shut, but when SD started to say her hair was brittle, I gently suggested she stop frying it and let it grow out/dry naturally. Have you tried things like Infusium? My mom likes their leave-in as a light spray.

I would instead get her fun clips, headbands or let it grow out to braid or put up in pigtails or pony tails. She might also like those tiny colorful claw clips that you can put in a row instead of a headband.

Well, my older kids were around 9/10 when we started doing little things, like highlights and such. I went to school for it so I was comfortable with it.

I would honestly try to first find a different cut or style.

I did hightlights in my granddaughters hair for her 8th birthday. I used a Clairol brand for the lightest white. It was so faint you had to look closely to see the stripes.

I plan on using one again and will do it a bit more intense. It was so faint that you had to look closely to see it.

I also have very thin hair. At that age, I suggest a cut with lots of texture, like a bob or a pixie. Long layers will just make her hair look even thinner, so stay away from that. Don't let the stylist cut layers into her long hair. When your hair is thin, layers are only good when your hair is short.

If her hair is going to stay long, cut the ends very straight and blunt (no razoring). It makes her hair look thicker. Also, get some "Sun-In," and spray a bit (don't soak it, just dampen) on the TOP of her already dry hair, and then blow it dry again to get some lighter color on top that will give her some depth (it will leave the underneath darker and make her hair look thicker). It will add some very mild highlighting that is appropriate for her age and won't grow out looking weird.

Hope that helps!

I would think around 16. Have you considered a really short cut? Might work better with her hair and less upkeep.

I think most highlights look bad. If you have the money and go for a whole head of highlights and lowlights, it can look really nice but it's very expensive. Ignore the hairdressers "suggestion".

When my daughter was in 3rd grade she wanted red hair. She was a dishwater blond. I said fine and dyed it here at home. She was an adorable red head ! It didn't hurt her hair at all, and in spring when she wanted to go back to being a blond we just redyed it. She had a great experience that really was no big deal in the long run but sure made her happy and made me an awesome mom.
Now when I let my other daughter dye her hair rainbow colors when she turned 13, that was a bit more of a dye job and we went to a salon. LOL. She looked awesome with all those colors by the way.