A colleague of mine is getting married. I wasn't invited (which I totally understand and do not have any bad feelings about). Another colleague/friend was invited and has asked me to be their guest. I said yes - and am looking forward to a fun wedding. But, now for the gift part...do I get a separate gift just from me? If so, how much should I spend? Or should I 'go in' on a gift with my colleague/friend? Or am I not expected to bring a gift because I am 'just the date' of the person that was invited??
If this matters at all, it the couples second wedding (both have been married before) and this will be a small gathering rather than an elaborate wedding.
Thanks!
Thanks for all of the great advice. I will go in on a gift with my friend. :-)
I agree with Scarlett.
I would probably go in on a gift with my friend, but either way is absolutely fine.
Go in with your friend.
Go in on a gift together... she's the "invitee" and you are the "guest"... chip in on whatever she was going to purchase!
I would still bring a gift.
I think either way is appropriate - getting one with your friend or getting one alone. I would spend about $50 either way. So, take a look at the registry and talk to your friend. See a $100 item you want to get them? Split it and both sign a card. If not, get them something around the $50 mark (cash or gift) and call it a day.
Have fun!
I think going in on a gift would be totally appropriate. Either a registry gift or a gift card (like a Visa card that they can use if they have a honeymoon).
I wouldn't go to the wedding.
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I would "go in" on the gift for give a small cash gift, you do still work with this person weather you were invited by the couple or a date attending the wedding.
I didn't read the responses, but I'd suggest offering to go in on a gift with the friend who invited you to accompany her. Typically if you go as a date, the person who was invited is responsible for the gift, but since you also know the bride/groom, it's appropriate to offer to chip in for the gift.
