What Do You Give as a Wedding Gift?

Yes, you give a gift at the shower and at the wedding.

Cash in a card is a very much appreciated gift. $50 is respectable. More if you're very close.

I always give a gift for the shower and a check for the wedding. The amount of the check depends on what you can afford and how close you are with the couple.

I think how much is spent is going to vary widely based on geographic cost of living differences and wealth of "the crowd" as well as the fanciness of the wedding... I personally don't like to give money. Maybe bc I never went to a wedding of a very young couple starting off who really needed cash. To me cash is like paying an entrance fee to the wedding... But I know not everyone feels that way. I tty to get something from the registry though so I'm not giving something they don't want. And if you go to both the shower and wedding, you have to give two gifts and not sure the amount spent on the wedding should be less bc you went to the shower. They are separate events. But it's also why I didn't want a shower. Hated the idea of people feeling like they had to get us two gifts... I think cash and small gift for the wedding is fine whether there was a shower or not though. It just depends on the "total spend" for the event.

Yes, I get another gift-something from the registry-what I spend depends on how well I know the people getting married and if they sent a thank you note for the shower gift.

Either something off the registry or a cash gift and it is a gift it is what you can afford. We generally try to give at least $100 for the wedding. More if it is a really close friend and we can afford it.

I give one gift. If there is a shower, I give it then. If there is no shower, I give it at the wedding. I pick something off the registry that is within my budget.

2 $50 bills in a card, more if it's a close relative. Nobody doesn't like cash.

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I usually check the gift registry.

We give cash. Further, if close, we ask if the couple would like the cash in advance of the wedding. For some, it can go a long way towards offsetting costs and incidentals paying for a wedding.

Best,
F. B.

I usually give something smaller at the shower, something more for the wedding. If you've already given a nice shower gift, choose something smaller from their registry if you don't want to do cash or can't afford enough cash to feel good about what you're giving. Couples always love getting things from their registry! For less than $50 you can buy the salt and pepper shakers they asked for and include some nice sea salt & peppercorns, or a small cookbook or favorite recipe you have; include a note that says you hope they remember this beautiful day every time they use the item you give. It's more about being thoughtful than some dollar amount.

i do either/or. if I'm invited to someone's wedding, i always hope it's because they want to share a lovely event with me, not a present grab.
i suppose i'm a little jaded. but it usually feels like a present grab.
that being said, i avoid showers like the plague, so i'd be more likely to attend just the wedding, and either buy something off the registry or give $50 in a card.
if i'd done the shower gift, i'd just do a card for the wedding.
khairete
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I give a gift for both. If it's a younger couple, I usually do money for a wedding gift. The amount depends on how well I know them and if I had to travel for the wedding, etc.

gift off registry for shower, and cash for wedding, at least $100.