Wanting Another Child - Lancaster, TX

i would say, given your health history and age and your only reason being that you want a sibling, then no don't have another child. if you were 5 years younger and less health issues and wanted another child for the sake of that child, then maybe it would be worth a shot.

I am not sure I understand your post.....Do you want another child for your son or for you? What does your hubby say? It is a joint decision.

Your health is priority, especially if you want to be around for your 3 yr old to grow up.

I have a 14yr old daughter, only child, no step siblings or anything and we have a very close, tight family. People ask her if she is sorry she has no siblings and she is adamant.... NO, she loves it this way. My house is always full of kids, especially on weekends. Sometimes it is like we have 3-4 kids, LOL

We did not have her to secure our retirement or take care of us when we are old......we had her because we wanted a child to love and raise. Our family was complete with 1 child and we have no regrets.

There are opinions both ways about only children....yes, my daughter has everything she'll ever need, more importantly support and unconditional love from her parents. She is not some spoiled brat...we nip that behavior when we experience it (YES, we see that pop up on occasion). She is well rounded, very social, and honors student planning for her college at this time.

She went to preschool, met friends and still has some friends from preschool. If you just want a playmate for him, join a play group, preschool, make friends for him.

The choice is for you and what is right for you, Best wishes to you.

I am also 40 something and have a 3 year old and her sister is 15 years old so I have felt the same way, but what helps is that I belong to a mom's club group and she gets to play with other kids that way. If I were you I would not try to have another as people who have had high blood pressure during pregnancy tend to happen again only worse the next time.

Here is a website that might help you find a play group:
http://moms.meetup.com/

Check with your insurance about fertility treatments. Most people don't know but they suggest if you are over 35 to go right away. Dr. James Madden in Frisco. He is the best. They have medicne for high bp and pregnancy. In Luke chapter 1 versr 37 it talks about Elizabeth who they say was too old but she concieved.

Good for you! I am only child, from my point of view, please try to get pregnant. About your medical issues, just consult with you doctor, but it doesn't sound too complicated. go for it!

I don't think it's ridiculous for your child to have a brother/sister... but it shouldn't be the driving factor in the decision.

I talked about this with a friend of mine last week. She's about 10 weeks away from giving birth to her 2nd child and her oldest is 4 years old. she said she didn't mean for her kids to be that far apart in age b/c she wanted them to be close so they could be better playmates. Then when I casually mentioned that personality has more to do with how close siblings will be than age, she remember that she's not even close to her brother b/c they are COMPLETELY different even though they are 2 years apart in age.

Another friend of mine has 3 kids and his middle daughter is SUCH an introvert that she's not close with either her older or her younger sibling, even though she's close in age to both of them.

My point is that your plan may backfire on you, so make sure that the sibling factor isn't the only reason for having another child.