Un-happy Mothers Day?

Updated on May 16, 2011
L.M. asks from Elizabeth City, NC
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So today has sucked and I anticipate will continue to suck. No holiday for me. Anyone want to share their un-happy Mother's Day stories?

To clarify: I am a firm believer in the "change your mind" approach to happiness. It often works quite well for me. However, the Hallmark holidays do tend to put things in stark relief when you are surrounded by sentiments that are very hard to ignore, but just not available to you.

My unhappy comes from having an autistic three-year old, seven-month old twins who had one of their worst nights of "sleep" since they were born, and a deployed husband. This is going on the list of holidays to re-do once my husband gets home. But amidst all the "Happy Mother's Day" wishes and fun stories shared, I wanted to provide an outlet for other mothers, like myself, who aren't having a great day.

Please keep the stories coming. I think there is a chance for real catharsis in this. :-)

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So What Happened?

Many thanks to those who participated in the sharing. I don't like to think of it as a pity party so much as a communal acknowledgement that not every day is awesome just because we were blessed with our children, and that's OK. Sanctimonious preaching has no place here, so many thanks to those who abstained from that. It is with sincerest hope that I wish everyone a happier Rest of the Year.

As to my "what happened", I was right. Yesterday did continue to suck. Today was worse. My cat got out, my dogs attacked it, and now I have no cat and my husband wants me to get rid of all of the dogs. He says they're not safe around the kids if they would attack a cat we've had for a decade. <sigh> RIP, feline friend.

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S.M.

answers from Kansas City on

It's all up to you. You will enjoy the day or not and it matters NOT what other people will or won't do. Choose something you want to do and do it.

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H.V.

answers from Cleveland on

What's Mother's day?>??
This is technically my 3rd. But It has never been really celebrated for me.
My husband is sick. Also he SUCKS at doing things for holidays. Money is tight, so I wasn't expecting any kinda of present. But so far...its 1:37pm and I haven't even heard a "Happy Mother's day" from him.
My entire family & his family has called me. But nothing from him
I understand he is sick, but it's still disappointing. Every year for Father's day i have made a big thing of it. Even without having any money to spend for a present.
So here I am, taking care of two kids & my husband. No presents, no nothing. Ya mother's day.....

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M.P.

answers from Provo on

I was hoping that my son's dad would do something nice. Nope instead all weekend he has ignored me and been depressed about how his life is .. . which he put himself in that situation. He says he's getting me something, which I could care less about. I just want to feel appreciated and not "oh here is a gift to make you happy on this pointless holiday." He isn't much of a holiday lover. I honestly have no idea what I saw in him.

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A.D.

answers from Norfolk on

Today sucks! I have been on my own with our two small kids (2.5 and 8 months) since Wednesday morning, while my husband has been off drinking for his brother's 4-day long bachelor party at a beach house 2 hours away. It's now 2:00 on mother's day and he still isn't home..still hasn't called or texted me to even say "happy mother's day!". On Thursday night he got plastered and was on the phone with his ex-girlfriend from 1:00-2:00 a.m. (i stalked our cell phone usage records to find this out) while I was at home with a screaming infant all night. I feel unappreciated, unloved, and unmentionable today. My kids are being difficult also. I hate today.

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M.E.

answers from Chicago on

I'm right there with you. My husband and I got into a fight on Friday night and haven't spoken since. I've got a lot of thinking to do about our marriage. It feels like the scales have become quite unbalanced between give and get. So, I'm at work, catching up on a lot and feel good about that. Hope the rest of your day goes well!

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D.P.

answers from Seattle on

I woke up with pink-eye! I'm sending my husband and son to a Mother's Day Brunch at a good friend's house while I stay home to wash bedding and wipe down everything in sight. LOL ~sigh~ !!

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L.B.

answers from Biloxi on

Well my day sucks so you are not alone.

Almost cried through church sitting next to my 14 year old who has been nothing but ugly all morning. I ask for two days a year from him - for him to be respectful and thoughtful towards me, and to put me first. My birthday and Mother's Day. He already royally screwed up my birthday - so, I thought, maybe, just maybe, since I have expressed my desire, no, my need, for just one day of being important to him, that today would be different. Yup, wrong. He is currently sitting on the sofa watching cartoons, and I know waiting for me to say something about going out to lunch and a movie. Which were my original plans, but, REALLY, why would I want to spend the rest of my day with a kid who is only concerned with himself. He wouldn't even go get me a cup of water from the church kitchen before services. His response "You should have gotten something to drink before we left the house".

Have I raised him wrong? Has dedicating the past 14 years of my life to ensuring that he have the creature comforts and providing unconditional love to him, no matter what he does, not matter. Oh, I know I have spoiled him, but we also volunteer within our community, believe in God, and show respect to our elders - so why can't he show to me, what he shows to others? He is basically a kind and funny and smart kid - except when it comes to being kind to me. What am I missing? Is he still angry that I didn't buy him McDonald's chicken nuggets for lunch yesterday? And, no I am not talking to him right now because today's sermon about parenting while angry is still ringing in my ears. Trust God to send me the message I need to hear, when I need to hear it.

And that is what I am going to try and take away from today - today's sermon and the message and love of God.

Anyhoo, I will get over it - my feelings are hurt though, and I am acting liking a child. I may go buy myself a pretty dress - I have a 15% off card from Kohl's. I may just take a nap.

L. - I am sorry that you are having a bad day also. I am sorry for all the Moms who are having a bad day. I send you all love and hugs and peace.

Tomorrow will better -right?

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S.L.

answers from New York on

This thread actually cheered me up. Thanks for starting it. I cant complain about my Mothers Day, it was great. but I had a moment today when I broke down and cried. It had nothing to do with my expectations of the day but my overall expectations for my oldest son. I was unable to happily share in the joy of another child's success and felt like a horrible person for being bitter and jealous. I said I had something in my eye and hid in the bathroom. Now I feel less like a horrible person and more like a human who, like all of you, wanted to reach out and vent to people who will hopefully understand and not judge us for not being better people. Life can be hard, people die, loved ones are in danger, children have physical and emotional problems we can't kiss away. We thought today would be easy because Hallmark said so, but real life has a way of creeping in. I remind myself that the worst thing that can happen to us mothers is to lose a child and Thank God I have not suffered that.

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J.K.

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For the third year in a row (1st - I was pregnant so I can let it slide, 2nd I had an 8 month old, 3rd -this one- I've got a 20 month old and am 5 months pregnant) my dh has done nothing to recognize me. The first year I said nothing (even though my own dad sent me flowers - I was pregnant with our first child), the second year I said nothing, this year I bought myself a $40 charm bracelet last month (that I've been asking for as a gift for the last 2 years). I joked to my husband that I had to buy myself a mothers day gift because he wouldn't be getting me anything and his reply was "Yup".
I'm tired of not being appreciated. I spend all my time taking care of our kids and home. I'm going to get myself a pedicure today and maybe go out for lunch. ALONE. My husband shouldn't mind too much - after all, he slept in while I cleaned the house and fed the baby this morning.

I don't even care about the holiday. It's a 'hallmark' manufactured holiday as far as I'm concerned. But really - everyone else is getting recognized. Why can't my husband just buy me some stupid flowers or something? Make me feel appreciated? I always appreciate him on the 'hallmark holidays'.

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J.G.

answers from St. Louis on

I don't know if this will help or not. I mean I had a great day, it wasn't an easy day but it was great! I got to sleep till 9, granted anyone with a seven month old, let alone twins, has no chance of sleeping that late even with their husband home. Chin up, they will get older and you will find that little nugget of happiness from today and remember it as a great day. It is sorta like labor, when you look back you can't remember what the fuss was about. :)

So Troy is a homebrewer and our hops needed their ropes to grow on. We just couldn't put it off one more day. I needed pea gravel to finish the pool area because we needed to get the pool filled for my little one's birthday party in a couple weeks.

So Troy and I went to Lowes, got everything we needed. We spent the afternoon attacking both tasks, some by ourselves, some together, some the kids helped. I have my knee surgery next week so you don't want to know the pain I am in right now.

Here is the happy part, I survived, I have Vicodin and Scotch (don't judge me it is just a shot :p). I SURVIVED!!! and now we have the hops happily growing on their cables and the pool is filling. :D We spent the day as a family working our asses off.

Best mother's day ever!!!!

Oh my third is autism spectrum. Every year I look back and he is a whole different child than the year before, always for the better. :)

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P.M.

answers from Honolulu on

Yep, I hate today too. My DH is sweet, but he NEVER remembers to plan in advance for anything for me. Today I woke up with the kids in a terrible mood, cleaned the cat box, swept and mopped the entire house, cleaned the kitchen and did two loads of laundry. I don't have so much as a crayon 'happy mothers day' card to show for it.

Pity-parties are not something I let myself have often, but today I am feeling pretty damn sorry for myself.

Hang in there with the deployment, momma, I have three mothers day's under my belt with DH deployed so I feel for you.

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B.M.

answers from Dallas on

i didn't have a BAD mother's day. but every day is mother's day for me...not saying that to sound all mushy, but it is b/c i'm a single mom and i'm always spending time w/my angel. hmmm...this isn't coming across right. i don't have the spouse to help my kid write me a card or do breakfast or lunch...my mom passed 1.5 yrs ago...so i can't dote on her or even hug her which breaks my heart to no end.. :(
so today, was just like any other day or wknd for us. went to church, came home & took a nap, picked up the house, had supper, bath, stories, then bedtime. nothing bad but nothing SPECIAL. :( but i don't expect that, but my mother's day just doesn't have that sparkle to it. (hope i don't sound ungrateful, b/c i'm unbelievably blessed to have my angel...just sometimes wish i had a spouse and most definitely wish i had my mom) :(

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A.G.

answers from Houston on

My husband is in the middle of a desert working. But i am going to celebrate anyway, my kids and I are about to go eat then to a movie, and later rollerblading and frisbee and ice cream at the park.

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D.S.

answers from Dallas on

Today is just another day- as is any holiday. Sometimes people put too much build-up and anticipation into a day or event. Then the time comes and it is a big let down.

I'm sorry to hear you are having an unhappy day, but change your thinking. Maybe today is the perfect day to finally read that book that someone recommended or to get those nasty weeds out of the flower garden. If things are sucky because you still have lots of icky, not fun things to do, then find a way to make them fun. Throw on some of your favorite music and dance around a sing while your putting away the laundry or dusting.

Whatever the case may be- choose to make it your day.
Happy Mother's Day!

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H.W.

answers from Portland on

Well, at least the good came first: wonderful man took me out for "Mother's Day" last night. Alas, something I ate made me sick in the middle of the night. (I now know that things cooked in butter is on my expanding list of "can't eats". ugh.)

The first hour awake was rough. But thankfully, it was my day to sleep in, so it could have been a lot worse. So maybe this doesn't qualify as entirely unhappy, but it wasn't the start of the day I was expecting, that's for sure.

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S.H.

answers from Phoenix on

This is my first mothers day without my mother (she passed away 3 months ago but it seems like yesterday). I can't stop crying and I have no patience.

My husband is away for work (like always)

I woke up to an hour of picking up the house. Not cleaning, just getting it to normal. Now on to about 8 loads of laundry.

Also woke up to my bank account being overdrawn...thats always fun.

The good...made it to yoga, my son made me eggs....going to see Sussical today, so hopefully it gets better.

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J.L.

answers from Los Angeles on

I'm a little grumpy that I got up super early with the baby, after she didn't want to go to sleep last night (so staying up late)...while he's snoring in the bedroom. But no fear...he'll pay for that. On my birthday I didn't change 1 diaper....he better rest up, lol. ;)

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J.C.

answers from Rockford on

I hope you get lots of great re-dos! Your husband is sacrificing for our country, and you, as his wife, are sacrificing as well and are supporting him. I thank your husband and you. What both of you are doing is noble.

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M.C.

answers from Washington DC on

My hubby had an emergency appendectamy on Friday night. So the Saturday picnic with friends was cancelled. He can't move well or lift anything so instead of him doing all the chores and me chillaxing, I"M doing all the chores while he sits there.

Then he's giving me orders, and making comments about why I'm not taking the kids outside to play right this second. How he had promised to plant the tree my son brought home 3 days ago, and so now I need to do it .... it's my 'day', so when do I get to choose what I want to do??

Sigh.

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C.L.

answers from Charlottesville on

Right there with ya. Truly, the only thing I wanted yesterday was to be happy. The morning started out pretty good- I got to sleep in and my son brought me b'fast in bed while they "cleaned". Sounds decent, right? Well the first thing my husband says to me when I come downstairs is "If I'm gonna help keep this place clean than you've gotta keep all these piles off the stairs, bla bla bla!. I was speechless. No happy mothers day, just complaining. Am I suppose to be appreciative for his help when it's just a huge burden to him and all he's going to do is complain about it? No thank you. I'll continue to do it myself. I was in tears within the first 10 min. of coming downstairs. The rest of the day was not much better. My sons were great- they gave me poems they had written at school and we went to the park while my husband stayed in the car. Other than that, just another day in paradise.

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J.W.

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"However, the Hallmark holidays do tend to put things in stark relief when you are surrounded by sentiments that are very hard to ignore, but just not available to you." Aptly put! From one mama of a kiddo on the spectrum to another, I so "get" that.

Now, I love my six year old daughter, as I'm sure you do your son. Like you, I also believe that my happiness has to come from changing myself and not other people. Still, no amount of reading "Welcome to Holland" (ugh) takes away the specific heartbreak of parenting a child with autism. So, on a day like today, I remind myself that since I do not have a typically developing child, it makes sense that my Mother's Day (along with a lot of other "days") is not going to be "typical" either. For example: when a Mother's Day drawing came home in her backpack last week, my thoughts were 1. to go all 'tiger mother' on her for spending like two seconds scribbling color on it -- wow nothing says 'thank you' for scraping the poop out of your underwear like a card you didn't care enough to color for me, despite the fact that you have the fine motor skills to stim on everything that isn't nailed down and to also poop in the actual toilet, 2. feel badly that I thought the tiger mother thing, because I know my daughter doesn't qualify 'love' in the same way a NT child does 3. still be kind of hurt that she can't or won't express her love for me, and 4. great, there's another call I have to place to her teacher asking if anybody sat down with my kid to prompt her to finish the job. Whereas, you know, maybe the mom of a NT child holds her nose and pretends to enjoy the card -- no doubt handed to her with much enthusiasm by her child -- and puts it on the fridge with all of the other silly holiday craft projects. Then she gets ready to go to some fancy restaurant brunch because her husband isn't deployed or her household can afford it running on two incomes, because one parent's job is to orchestrate all the therapy, homework and crappy public school services and therefore unpaid.

You get the idea. Sorry to make you read something so dense when you're sleep-deprived:^)

I'm fortunate in that my hubby is available to take our daughter to a children's theatre performance especially for kids with an ASD, thus giving me the invaluable gift of several hours of "down" time. I know that's not an option for you right now. I wish there was some way I could take a proxy nap on your behalf or something. FWIW, you have a big fist-bump over the Internet from me to you. Keep on truckin' mama.

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K.S.

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Ahh...good to know I am not alone. My Mother's day sucks! For everyone who has told me how strong I've been, here's proof that I am not at all, lol.

My daughters haven't even wished me a Happy Mother's Day. They haven't said a word about it. They are also extremely cranky. While I get that we've been going through a lot, I really thought I deserved at least a hug. I get that we're going through the most difficult time of our lives, and that they're devastated. News Flash: SO AM I! I didn't need any fuss, especially since things have been so emotional. I just wanted to hear, just once, that they love me and are grateful that I have been busting my hump to be there for them. We grieve together, but my focus is on them when they are awake. That's fine, it should be that way. They see me grieving, coping, as well. But I also grieve privately at night when I am alone. That's what works for me. So, hearing them say, "Thanks for being here for us, Mom." or "This has been a horrible two weeks, but we're so glad we have you for a Mom." or anything remotely close to that would be nice. They didn't even have to say anything. A hug, spending some time with me...any gesture would have been enough.

Now, I can't say this to them because we have way too much on our plates and I feel selfish for even feeling this way. But, that's how I feel. Unappreciated. I know that saying something would only make them feel badly and right now they feel bad enough. I get that. So, I am sitting here venting to you instead. Doesn't help that they are teenage girls and PMS'ing or that I have had the worst possible insomnia for going on two weeks. They are great kids and normally very appreciative, so I guess I have nothing to complain about. I guess I just miss how it used to be before this happened. He always made Mother's Day so special and helped the kids do the same. He made every thing special. I miss having him to talk to, vent to, cry to, laugh with. Okay, as I write this, maybe it's not so much about the whole Mother's Day thing. I just really miss him and I miss us.

Thanks for sharing your stories. Feels good to know I am not the only one having a crappy day. Now that I have perspective, I am going to go and try to salvage this day. Or cry. I haven't decided yet.

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K.H.

answers from Boston on

I don't have any stories to share, but I wanted to wish you a happy mother's day. i'm sorry the day isn't turning out as anticipated, and I hope things get better. If at all possible, see if you can get a hug from a kiddo. That always makes things a little happier for me.

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J.J.

answers from Los Angeles on

Happy Mothers Day L., I hope you get lots of little hugs (or big hugs!) and find a way to enjoy your day. Treat yourself :)

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3.B.

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I don't have it as hard as you. I can't imagine a special needs child AND twins! WOW! Plus your husbands deployed.......

But, my day has sucked lol. I'm a SAHM and rarely, rarely do I get a break. I eat,sleep,shower and use the bathroom around everyone else's schedules. I do all cleaning cooking shopping and child raising. Any part that entails work anyways. Feeding,bathing, changing, waking up with. I try very hard to let me husband know I love and appreciate him. I put alot of thoughts into gifts and cards for him, and acknowledge special days for him. And most of the time, I see him run out last minute for me and come back w/ a very generic gift.

This year I told him I didnt want to go out to dinner, too crowded and we have two small kids. Just not worth it. Said I just want to relax, have him cook out, and enjoy my day. Well, last night like many others night this week he stayed up late drinking. So of course he couldn't get up w/ the baby this morning, I did. LIKE ALWAYS. Thought maybe there'd be coffee ready to start, nope. Card on the table? nope. Get up and offer to make breakfast or pick some up? nope.
He slept two hours longer then me. Looked hung over when he got up. I already went and picked up some coffee and a cheap breakfast. He lamely says, oh yeah happy mothers day. I basically shrugged it off. my mood has been ruined since.

It makes me feel very unappreciated, and pretty bitter that he can't do the SIMPLEST things for me, one flippin day out of the year to show that he cares. Next year, I will have no expectations. And fathers day from now....??? Ha! You reap what you sow.....

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E.A.

answers from Los Angeles on

I now you have received so many stories but boy Im glad to see your post! I had a very unhappy mohters day & I feel horrible! My husband had to work, I have 2 very challenging boys & just added a baby girl 3 months ago. I was looking forward to today but I see that its no different from any other day. I cleaned, and was home with the kids alone. My husband works alot so I often feel like a single mom. I thought today we would enjoy a nice dinner or do something fun but instead I made today special for my mom & sister by baking them cake pops & getting to my moms was a disaster! Getting everyone ready, baby was crying all the way, we got stuck in traffic, desserts fell, boys kept fighting all of that just to get there & they were going to dinner & movies :( I had to go home because my daughter has a cold. Came home to a messy house now Im cleaning & crying! Im exhausted & tomorrow I will do it all over again. Hang in there. You are not alone. Atleast you hubby will come home & you can re-do...me on the other hand, my husband is here & I still cant get it together. Maybe next year will be better. Thanks for reading

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D.S.

answers from San Francisco on

no matter how hard life is....be thankful for what you have. even if it isn't ideal or perfect. You have THREE beautiful children god gave you!

You gave birth to these three amazing angles. Embrace them, love them and just because someone said today was mothers day, doesn't mean you have to have that ONE special day, as for any mother, everyday is mothers day.

Life is tough...i get it. Single mom, working w/ welfare assistance, no child support, living poorly, no social life (by choice) but all in all...I AM THE WEALTHIEST, HAPPIEST, MOTHER....all because of the beautiful smile I see every day that my son gives...in between his angry moments, his yells, his tanturms, or laughs.

He makes my life all the better, even when I want to trade him in for the day, lol....he always makes me feel alive. No matter how hard life is, or how beaten i feel from a bad day with my son, I will NEVER EVER want it any other way. Keeps me fresh, alive and real!

Sorry you had a bad mothers day. Chin up and love/hug and cherish those kids!

Oh and i had to work on mothers day...but i got to still be with my son and be with my mom. As i said earlier...everyday is mothers day. Don't need a special day to remind us that we will always be mothers :)

xoxoxox

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A.D.

answers from Washington DC on

I started out having a very nice Mother's Day even though my Dh is deployed and I am here alone with my 2 young kids. I did get some sweet hugs and a card from preschool. Went to lunch with a new friend and her daughters watched my kids (first time with a babysitter ever and they did great!) So...why a bad day?
Got home, went over to feed neighbor's dog (they were away for the day)...was mauled by a 100lb sweet but VERY strong and rough dog, almost fell down the stairs, then knocked out the gate and pulled me to the ground and dog ran away. I went and got my own dog's leash and some tasty treats to entice the dog and back out I went. Another neighbor had her dog out and we were able to catch the dog, but as I went to put the leash on, the OTHER dog grabbed the treat in my hand and ended up biting my thumb...a shallow bite but hit the bone (OW!). Got first dog back in yard, checked to make sure other dog had shots, and went inside. Lasted all of about 3 minutes...my kids were napping safely and I had the monitor. Got inside and noticed my thumb was bleeding pretty badly, my bone hurt badly, and from the tackle and drag of the first dog, my back and neck are tweaked, my wrist is scraped up and swollen, my arm is aching, my shoulder is aching and my knee is swelling, and I'm back inside, alone, with 2 very awake busy kiddos and tonight is bathnight. Calgon take me away!
=0) All in a day's work =0)

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B.O.

answers from Portland on

I know I have a good life and am blessed. I do not need another person to acknowledge that through flowers or a card or a lunch for me to truly know it and believe it. I am surprised at how many mamas need that type of validation.

But my blessings come at the disadvantage of others around the world. Even when I make the best choice possible in my daily life, some of my choices contribute to problems like world slavery and oppression.Today, I just don't have the heart to flippantly send out well-wishes of "Happy Mother's Day" to ones that are already well...instead my thoughts are with those that are unwell. People around the world who are struggling with so much (war, poverty, slavery, death, etc) on this ordinary day...even right here in my own town...I guess I am unable to put the blinders on today:/

Even the worst day in my entire life is better than the best day for many others around the world. And I would have to say I guess the same would go for the majority of the posters here.

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M.P.

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i'm unsure how my mother's day is going. so far its just me and my 2 1/2 year old daughter. my fiance volunteered to work. we have very little breakfast and lunch items at the house, so its been interesting to make meals for my daughter. my daughter has been good though. so that is a plus. i'm hoping my fiance does something for me tonight, because being a single mom for the first two mother's days, i really didn't get anything. and being a sahm daycare didn't make anything for her to give me this year. i know its not about hte giving, but i just want to be recognized. *sigh* maybe one year i will be...

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K.C.

answers from Philadelphia on

Just a regular ole Sunday. Nothing special today. At least it was sunny and the azaleas are pretty. Actually, with no expectations at all, it's turning out to be a pretty decent, regular day.

My son (13) is also on the spectrum, and I remember 3 was a very difficult age for him. My husband WAS around and I was very lucky for that. I can only partially relate to what you're going through, but I truly believe we're given what we can handle. Life can completely suck sometimes. But other times, it's pretty awesome, right? Hang in there, L., I'm sending you good vibes and wishes for a great night of sleep so you're feeling fresh tomorrow so you can conquer the world!

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A.C.

answers from Springfield on

Normally on Mother's Day I celebrate my family and make the day all about them instead of me. However, today I can't because I'm on bedrest! I'm 27 weeks prego and found out I'm 3 cm dilated! If it's nice outside then take your kids in your back yard and have a nice picnic with them. It'll remind you why you love being a Mom! :)

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M.B.

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I actually hoped the kids would not know it was mother's day. lol. every mother's day is actually worse than any of my normal days. don't know exactly why, but this is also true for fathers day and also my birthday and my husbands birthday. The kids just misbehave all day. They are generally well-behaved on other days, and my husband and I are firm and consistent-yet very fun with them, so who knows? It always baffles me why they have to behave this way on mom and dad's special days... the best mothers day would be best spent alone or with my husband! lol!

Today specifically, they woke up early, before my husband and I did, and proceeded to fight, yell and slam doors at each other... I love to wake up to having to discipline them.

Yesterday morning (daddy's birthday) was the same deal: they woke up early and fought and were incredibly inconsiderate. They DID however behave exceptionally well at his dinner. We went to a semi-nice place, and had several people join us, so I didn't want them to mess it up. I will admit, though, I bribed them, for the first time ever in my mom history- told them they would get something special if they behaved. But, I didn't want his entire day ruined. He said the evening was awesome and thanked me:) I was desperate.

Today daddy is working, but will be home before the evening to "rescue" me from them- the day will still be spend with kids, though. sigh. I'm waiting til they get older and develop empathy and sincere caring (oldest of four is only turning 8 in a couple months)

No joke, though... right now they are yelling that they hate each other, saying "NO!", "M.!!!!!!" screaming, etc.. so much for a small "break" :( gotta go... :( :( :(

This helped, though!

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M.S.

answers from San Francisco on

I am normally the happy, cheery one where I try not to be negative about anything, but I have to say this day sucks! It has been so rough! My kids are constantly fighting, I have spent the good part of the afternoon doing laundry 7 loads and went to church this morning-that was nice, but really haven't felt appreciated. I really wish that my hubby would have helped my kids make me a card or something. He gave me a card and signed my kids' names in their card, but its not like it really was from them. I am not a big person about gifts, but once in awhile it would be sooo nice to feel loved and appreciated and doted on! I spent the rest of the day cleaning, doing dishes etc. I really wish this day was over---it has sucked!!!! I read your post and just want to say i really feel for you--- I can only imagine how it is to be in your situation. Hugs to you and hope your hubby gets home soon. Thank you to you and your hubby for making the great sacrifice for our country-- I really appreciate soldiers fighting for our freedom. Take care---

M

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M.M.

answers from Tucson on

My little girl made me breakfast and coffee this morning and painted me a rock with our "new" family on it. Minus dad plus baby due to be born. Really sad. It was really sweet. My 2 yr old colored a picture for me and also painted a rock. And last night i got into a physical fight with my soon to be ex's mom and him and had to call cops. I didnt get to bed till after 3 am.
But your day and night sounds like it really sucked too. Sorry. : (
Going swimming today and to a bbq at a friends house, so hopefully my day starts looking up!

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R.R.

answers from Dallas on

My normally very on it hubby had to make a flying trip 5 hours away to be at the bedside of his older brother, who had a heart attack on Friday. My oldest daughter called me first thing, my 9 year old said Happy Mothers day, and my oldest son texted. That will be the extent of my Mothers Day. Except for when my daughter comes over later to bring my sweet grandson over! But that isn't my mother's day present - she has a heart catheter tomorrow, so I'm being helpful mom and taking the day off to keep the boy. And all that really doesn't bother me, my heart and mind are with my brother in law and sister in law.

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C.B.

answers from Boston on

I spent 1.5 hours on the phone getting switched to 5 (!!!@#$%!!) new folks at Dell since our just-over-1-year laptop just lost a key cap and they do not want to fix it since the warranty just ended. From customer care to tech support to warranty support to out-of-warranty-support, to a supervisor. I guess I could just use the little stub of a button that is below the cap but the expensive laptop is just a year old!! My husband is home and kids are being nice, so I should not complain. Thanks for letting your husband help provide us with the freedom we enjoy so thoughtlessly most of the time. Is there anyone you can call to come help out to even give you an hour of free time? I got to take a long walk without anyone bugging me and it helped a lot. Hang in there, and consider yourself hugged by this mama.

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K.H.

answers from Richmond on

actually my mothers day didnt suck bad at all until i discovered a pile of ground in the rug strawberry pop tarts that my toddler had hidden under a pile of books and a nice bedspread.and this was after having to clean up the kitchen with said toddler under foot and to run to the corner drugstore with said toddler for liquid pepto for her daddy, after he suddenly took sick in the middle of the day.
i know i am going to laugh about later but right now, i just want some coffee and a set of earplugs
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K.:.

answers from Phoenix on

Today was definitely bittersweet for me. I have a wonderful little daughter, and an equally wonderful mother, who came over to our house & ate brunch (that DH cooked) with us. However, DH's mom has been deteriorating rapidly over the last few weeks & on the verge of a very slow death & he hasn't been able to enjoy this day the way I have. I just feel so bad for him. There is not much I can do to lift his spirits or make him feel better. I feel guilty for feeling happy, when he is clearly not.

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D.B.

answers from Charlotte on

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D.P.

answers from Greenville on

My mother's day sucked as well. My husband wouldn't get his butt out of bed to tend to the baby for once. So I got up a 6:00 AM on Mother's day while he slept in until 8:30. Then he waltzes downstairs, sees TV and realizes it's Mother's day. I see terror come across his face- he completely forgot. Needless to say, my day was filled with a lot of babysitting- no me time- while my husband mowed the grass and hid in the yard. And it goes without saying that I got no card, gift, break, or appreciation.
I don't get mad- I just get even. I plan on making this year's Father's Day the worst for him yet. LOL

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P.W.

answers from San Francisco on

Ditto SLM and Delta.

I bought myself some shoes and a purse yesterday. I'm going to force my son to help me with my math homework. I made my husband trim a tree yesterday. My daughter will do something for me when she gets off work later. My friend is getting her family to help her wipe the dog's noseprints off the walls.

Sounds like a good mom's day to me!

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N.T.

answers from Detroit on

L.,

I'm sorry the day is not going well. I've had holidays like that in the past. Treat today as an other normal day, I think, at least for myself, the pressure of the day being a holiday is all too much. You can celebrate being a mother on another day. Call a girlfriend and schedule having a lunch with her next sunday to celebrate:)

N.

T.K.

answers from Dallas on

i'm sorry you had a bad mothers day. Thank you for your sacrifice. My husband was in the Navy for 8 years in the 1st GUlf War, so, I know a little bit about what you're going through.

mothers day is hard for me since my mother died. all the glory my family pays me just makes me feel guilty for all the glory i didn't pay her. sometimes when they really do something sweet for me and tears are running down my face they're beaming thinking happy tears, im actaully crying deep sorrowful tears for not fixing my relationsp with my own mom. nothing like a mothers guilt.

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