TTC Baby Number 2

I actually had almost the opposite problem. We tried for 8-9 months the first time before i got pregnant, I then unfortunately lost that one 14 weeks, in. Because of the miscarriage, I had to wait another 3 months before we could try again. After that 3 months, it took another 5 months or so before I got pregnant. I carried full term, and we wanted to wait awhile before we tried again, but forgot to use protection one time, and I had a second daughter, 5 days before my oldest daughter's 1st birthday. The trick, I believe, was to stop trying so hard. Another thing, I was told not to get overly worried until after a year of trying. I hope this helps.

My advice, stop trying so hard. That can stress your body out, so that doesn't help. Just have fun and try not to think about it. I wouldn't go back to see your doctor for at least another few months. That only my advice, I could be wrong but that's how it worked for me. We just stopped really trying and bingo there she was! Good luck

relax, and enjoy the process. it will happen when its suppose to. by now i am sure you have caught on to the fact that things happen when and the way they are suppose to (good and bad) so have faith that the same is happening here. have fun, be spontanous.

they say that worrying to much can delay things, so try (i know its hard) and focus on other things. sometimes being a sahm has its disadvantaging becuz it gives you time to think. dont get me wrong, your busy all the time, but its usually doing stuff you can do blind folded. so your mind wonders.

good luck, happy baby making!

Were you on BC after your first one was born? If so sometimes it takes alittle longer to conceive. With my first, it was right off the bat. With my second it took a few months, and with the one I'm carrying it took almost a year after coming off of my BC. I've also heard that if you're trying too hard and keeping it on your mind all the time that it stresses you out and makes conceiving harder. Anyway, good luck.
K.

Dear L.,,,, itz funny im reading this abt you,,, (not funny) im sorry. But, my daughter in law said the same thing to me the other day an i told her i had 2 sons 11 mths apart,,, so after 4 yrs I wanted another baby. Well,,, we couldnt do it,, we went to all drs. nothing was wrong ,,, did the thermometer,,, everything u cud imagine we tried,,, finally 1 day I said itz hopeless im not doing no more. Well,, 2 mths later here I am pregnant w/my 3rd son (lol). Sweetheart,,,, your just triing to hard i tried for a yr. an cudnt do it,,, so i gave up an now I have 4 sons an 1 daughter,,,lol,,, GOOD LUCK SWEETHEART!!!! (btw) i was a smoker too,,, gave it up when i got pregnant.

Hi L.,
Have you tried tracking your ovulation? I used the Ovulense, which is a little slide and magnifying lense that you "spit" on every day. Seriously, you put some of your saliva on the slide, wait for it to dry, and then check for a ferning pattern. The ferning pattern lets you know you're about to ovulate. I found this easier than taking my temperature or other methods, and I conceived the first time I used it. I bought the Ovulense online. There are other similar devices that check for fertility using saliva.
Good luck,
B.

I got pregnant with my first the first try at 31, and then at 35 it took me four months. There's a book that should be given to every girl as soon as she starts AF called Taking Charge of Your Fertility. The one thing that I found useful was learning that the spermies can live for 6 days, and about the Myth of Day 14. Starting to TTC on day 7 and doing it until day 14 helps.... That book gives you some signs of when you're fertile, and teaches you how to take your temperature. I never did that because my firstborn got me out of bed before I could, but there are other signs to rely on.

Good luck!!

You are far from being to old, or even having numbered days. Ask your doctor if you should be concerned and if there is anyway you can start proceeding with any test if you are that ready. It took me two years and I lost 2 after 4 months in the hospital prior to my daughter coming I finally have a baby so never loose hope. Bset wishes have sex frequently, and stay calm.

L.:

I was 36 when I began trying to have a baby, with no luck. I finally convinced my husband, that I wanted to go to fertility specialist, just to make sure "everything was working well". To my suprise, they found out that I had fibroids and told me that I would have to get them removed if pregnancy was unsuccessful after having an HSG. What luck, it worked. I had a healthy baby girl. As my baby turned 12mos.,
I wanted to try again not knowing how long it would take and found myself again going to a fertility specialist. This time they did IVF it took 3 times but eventually worked, and now I have 18mo. twin girls along with my 3 year old daughter. My advice to you is not wait any longer and go see some one - I went to Delaware Valley Institute of Genetics and Fertility, and I have to tell you that they are the most nicest people you will ever deal with. They are great!!! I am so grateful to them for helping me concieve these children!

Chris D

L.,

I use a natural method of conceiving I'd be happy to share with you. Please email me and we can talk.

K.

A very good place to start is calling your OBGYN. Speak to them and ask them if they recommend anyone specifically for you to see. Depending on your insurance, you could try the Reproductive Science Institute. They work wonders. They are located in Wyomissing, PA. I am not sure where you are. I work in an OBGYN office and that is the protocol we use!

L.,
I too had trouble conceiving my second but out of the blue she popped up when I was 39. And I did see my MD and took some ovulating hormones and was told I had low foliculating hormone due to the early onset of menopause. I was told low probability of conception due to this. So I decided that I had one great boy and that would be that. In the mean time I decided to be alittle pro-active with my health. Most of the time little things will help. This is what I did.

I started on a more macrobiotic diet(whole foods, seeds, nuts,veggies,fruit organic meats nothing artificial)I wanted to loose a few pounds because adapose tissue (fat)secretes estragen lowering your ovulating hormones.

I started exercizing...nothing hard just walking and Curves 3x week.

And I cut out alot of other artificial chemicals that I had been using that are supposedly linked to lower ovulation rates. They are things like cosmetics that have laurel sulfate in them....this wasn't that hard because with a little boy at home I often didn't get to shower everyday or put on make-up. Think of all the extra artificials you use regularly...make-up, hair spray, gel,cream rinse,shaving cream, deodorant,tooth paste,fabreeze on the furniture, smelly candles,cleansers, fabric softeners......I'm not saying go out filthy, but just cut back on all those chemicals....I also stopped eating and drinking out of plastic containers....there has been a link to a homone used in bonding plastic that leaches out when you microwave it put it in the dishwasher etc.

Now, I know that sounds like I'm a litte fanatic, but really I didn't turn into a complete granola or anything I just did subtle changes that didn't hugely impact my way of life. And guess whatI felt great and had lots of energy and my body must have liked it because I got pregnant....and we really weren't trying very hard or often if you get my drift.

I hope this helps and Good Luck.

Hi L.,
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A.

See your doctor. You may just need some clomid (I think that's what it's called). It's a mild fertility drug. I was TTC for a while, I took one dose of that, and I was pregnant that month. The anguish of TTC took a toll on my marriage, and my husband ended up cheating on me. We're now divorced, so just try to keep things light and not so pressured. See your doc ASAP so that you don't keep having the anguish of another AF, and you can then get back to a stress-free sex life.

This is becoming more and more common for our generation. Women who got pregnant with their first one just like that and then have fertility problems with the second one. I would talk to your doctor. Have yourself checked to make sure your ovulating. If your not releasing an egg then well no baby. I know someone who this happened too. Her and her husband finally went to an infertility clinic and she had stressed herself out so much that she stopped ovulating. In the end she was artifically inseminated after a year and a half. Most docs want you to try for a year before any intervention but talk to your OB/GYN and tell them your concerns. They may be able to easy your mind.