Temper Tantrums or Separation Anxiety

Are you an AP mom? Have you tried using a sling?

My son did that too, and then he went from Grama to daycare and it even got worse. Just try to have him help out in any way you can, like in the kitchen I pull up a chair and let him "help" with mixing things or doing dishes, he loves to play in the sink. I believe its a phase and it will get better :) It will subside soon!!

Read the book The Five Love Languages of Children by Gary Chapman and Ross Campbell. It tells you how your child accepts love: quality time, physical, objects, etc. This same situation happened to me. When I got home, I wanted to go to the bathroom, get a drink, answer phone calls or e-mails before starting dinner. Of course, my son wanted me to play and sit with him, etc. Once I found that his love language was quality time, when I got home, I would give him 10-20 minutes of undivided time. After that, he would give me an hour of freedom and play quietly by himself.

Going back to work is always difficult for us moms and the kids. It's a time of adjustment. Eventhough gramdma is probably giving him more than enough attention during the day it just doesn't replace the attention from MOM.

My son also had a difficult time adjusting. Always wanting my attention from the moment we got home. My husband and I worked out a system --- If he wanted me that night (as he did most nights) my husband would cook and I would play with our son. Some nights our son would be ok playing with daddy which allowed me to cook. Once a week my husband and I would cook together but my son was right there on my hip so it limits the things you can do ~ That's why we did it together or we would have been eating at 9 o'clock.

You may try putting him in his stroller with some toys and parking him in the kitchen or just outside where he feels close to you but you still have the ability to cook.

Try giving him some toys in an area close but out of the way and that will keep him busy for a few minutes but HURRY, this won't last long.

The good news is that together you can figure out what works best for your family and it won't last too long. They adjust over a few months.

Dear Grace,
Please bear with your child. It is hard for a young child to understand what's happening and tell a parent why they feel the way they do. Be consistent, loving and do not let the child have his way, but lovingly talk, guide and discipline them through this stage of their life. Continue to be the great mom that you are and he will learn to be flexible and follow your lead. It just takes time, think of how long it takes us to be willing to do things sometimes.
Sincerely, C.-(I'm a mom of three, a grandma of seven, was a director of a preschool for twelve years and a teacher for twenty three. Each day gets easier.)

It may have to do with him learning to differentiate between Mommy-appropriate behavior and Grandma-appropriate behavior. We have a friend who watches our 2-year-old a lot during the day, and he is very lenient. So it's sometimes hard for my son to understand when I try to be more strict with him than "Uncle" is.

Does Grandma hold him constantly and give him everything he wants when he cries? That might contribute to the problem. It's possible that over time he'll adjust, but you might speed up the process by getting Grandma to be a little stricter (if this is indeed the case).

it's so hard!!
I would hold him as much as you can!
he's getting so big so fast!

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~L.
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