Telling People You're Pregnant

You can tell people you are pregnant whenever you feel ready. There is no one time that is best. Although with both my pregnancy I waiting until I was 12 weeks to tell. They say that the chances of a miscarriage go down greatly after that point so I just felt is was safer to wait. I just didn't want to tell everyone I was pregnant and then have to go back a few weeks later and tell everyone I lost the baby. That would just be too personal. But some people want everyone to know so if they do have a miscarriage they can have support from their family and friends. So again it is totally up to you.

I told my boss the next work day after I found out. I was their only employee at the time, and it meant they'd have to replace me, so I wanted to give them as much time as possible to get ready for that.

However, you probably aren't in that situation.

As long as you're planning to have the baby, no reason to hide it. They'll find out eventually, anyhow. Sharing the news will make them more understanding of why you're feeling miserable.

With my first I found out at 7 weeks and we started telling people right away. I told my boss right away also and was fired 2 weeks later!! This time I found out at 4 weeks and only told a few close friends and family members right away. Now I am 12 weeks and have started letting everyone else know. It's really a personal decision. Sometimes people wait just to make sure everything is okay with baby. One of the reasons I told people right away was so everyone would understand why I was so exhausted and sick! Congrats!!!!!

I told everyone as soon as it was confirmed by the doctor.
You could wait a bit longer to tell your boss, but if you are feeling ill it might be a good idea to let him/her now.

I think being out of the clear means, there is less chance you'll miscarry. So, you'd be out of the clear of misscarrying your baby. If I'm wrong correct me please.
Congratulation and we started telling everyone ASAP especially the boss man, who was single and no kids, so he'd know why I was puking in the bathroom and such. Good luck and God Bless.

With my first two pregnancies we waited until toward the end of the first trimester. I miscarried with my third child and it was sooo difficult to "act" like nothing had happened at work. All I wanted was for it to be okay that I was sad. Going back to work with no one knowing felt so fake and uneasy. Once people found out (and they always will), they were very respectful of my feelings and gave me support. I wish I had shared the news earlier so that people didn't find out about me losing my baby the same time they heard I was expecting. My boss gave me a sweet card and flowers, and of course people thought it was for my birthday or a special day. If I had it to do all over again I'd share sooner than later. Good luck.

from experience this is what i did - i told my boss as soon as i found out, that way if i felt sick or had a dr appt she knew. i told a one or two others at work but not till i was about 3 1/2 months - i finally broke the news to everyone at work after i had the sonogram pictures. i had a experience in the past where i told everyone and then had a miscarriage so i did not want a repeat of that but its how you feel about it - good luck

I was so sick with both of mine that we told immediate family right away then our friends not that long after 2 months I did tell me boss right when I found out but we were a close nit office. Congrats!!

We waited until we were out of the clear before we told any one. I would suggest the same just in case something bad were to happen.

"Out of the Clear" means after 12 weeks when the chance of a m/c goes down.

Just want to clear something up that was in another post. You are not LEGALLY required to tell your employer at all. You'll want to eventually because of your leave request. You'll want to familiarize yourself with the company policies of how much advance notice you must give to request leave. And , they have to give you leave but it does not have to be paid.

Like others have said it is your personal preference and your own decision. I told people right away because I was so excited. I did tell my boss earlier than I liked but my job requires someone else to cover my job while I am gone and didn't want them to wonder why I was taking off so much for dr. appointments. I did have some people tell me I should have waited to tell people but just blew them off. I felt that everything would be fine and if a mc happened I would deal with it then. Congrats and wish you a happy and healthy pregnancy.

“Out of the clear” usually means out of the first trimester and then the risk of a miscarriage is greatly reduced but not a 100%. If you feel people are noticing there is something different about you or that you are acting differently you may want to share it earlier. Maybe share it with a few close friends or co-workers or your boss but ask them to keep it hush hush until you are ready to tell the world!!! Good luck with whatever you decided. Here there is no wrong or right way it just depends on the type of person you are. For example, for my first we told immediate family and my boss until we were 12 weeks (I had suffered through a miscarriage at 9 weeks). Now, second time around I told a few close friends and family but mostly waited till I was 12 weeks.

It's a very personal decision when to tell people. I was an open book and told people as soon as we knew.

I also had the same approach when diagnosed with cancer. I had just returned from Maternity Leave to a new sales territory and had to introduce myself to people and explain why I may be friendly some visits and grumpy others, why my appearance might change.

I wanted to let people know before they made false judgments.

But, it's a completely personal thing.

Out of the clear refers to getting past the first trimester which is the time you're most likely to miscarry (though it can happen at any stage of the pregnancy).

Good luck and congratulations.

We waited until the first appt. with my OB to make sure all was well. It is likely that those who know you well have a "feeling"...mothers intuition! As far as the boss...wait until you are comfortable. No rush! You have plenty of time! Congratulations!

I guess I never thought of 'being out of the clear' with any of my 8 children. I thought of them as a gift from God and never thought of miscarriage. Yes, it could happen, gift or not, but I never planned on it. I told people when I wanted to share how happy I was and if they were someone I wanted to share that with. I did tell my boss when I was pregnant with my first as I was so sick it was obvious. Other than that it's up to you when to share this news and with whom to share it. I know in the beginning it may not even seem so 'joyful' if you're sick and not up to your normal self but you don't need to explain anything unless you want to.

With my first one I waited a long time, until my 4th month. With my second, I obviously showed quicker and told at about 8 weeks, and my boss said she already knew. I had a co-worker who let everyone know at 8 weeks and then had a miscarriage, and had a very hard time telling everyone, but had to since everyone knew. I would wait the 12 weeks, especially since miscarriage is so common. I had a miscarriage before my first son and was glad no one except my close friends and family knew. It just makes it easier if something does happen, not to have everyone know.

Congratulations! I'd wait until you are as close to 12 weeks as you can. A lot of people are going to begin to suspect anyways. When I was pregnant and finally began to tell people they all responded with "Finally we can say something." People will know. If your boss questions you and you feel you need to tell him/her just ask them to keep it quiet. Good luck!

i would wait at least until after your first tri mester. i did not tell anyone until i was 6 months. out of the clear is the possibility of a MC. just tell people you have food poisoning, you will start feeling better here real soon. good luck

Out of the clear mean that your risk of miscarriage has gone down significantly - which occurs around 12/13 weeks. That is why most people wait until they are in their 2nd trimester to tell people.

If this is your first pregnacy, I would wait a few more weeks. Have you been to your first doctor's appointment? You can always tell your close friends and family before extended family and coworkers. I do not think legally you have to tell your boss until you are like 16 weeks along.

Ultimately it's up to you to tell people when you want. My personal story - I found out at 5 weeks I was pregnant, told the world and had a miscarriage two days later. Then I got pregnant about a month later and when I found out, I didn't tell anyone until I was three months along. For my second child, I told my family and best friends around 6 weeks then everyone else at 8 weeks.

I shared with close family right away, but did not tell anyone else until my 12th week just to be sure. My sister told every one right away, and than she lost the baby (miscarriage is most common before week 12). Months later she still had people asking how the baby was doing, and she would have to tell it all over again, keeping the wound from healing.

I didn't read the responses, but would like to answer your ? about "in the clear". The first trimester is the most difficult, with the majority of issues occuring before 12 weeks. Nobody likes to say "the worst", nobody wants to verbalize the issue of miscarriage.....& without even reading the responses......I would bet that's what's being referenced.

Another aspect would be.....most (or at least a lot) pregnancies become easier on the expectant Mom after that 1st trimester. Less nausea, less deep-down-bone-tiredness....you usually feel more energized, more at Peace. Soooo, without being a "nay-sayer", some women do wait until the beginning of the 2nd trimester to share their good news! Peace!

I told my boss around 6 weeks, because I felt it was important to let him know why my job performance and morning arrival/work hours might be temporarily impacted. However, I also said that I wasn't ready for coworkers to know and wanted to wait longer before everyone else knew.

By the way, I started feeling better around week 8-10. Good luck!