Stressed and Don't Know What to Do

Updated on March 10, 2008
S.S. asks from Arverne, NY
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my daughter is at that phase where she says no to everything and talks back to people. my son is starting to stand up and can't seem to without my daughter coming behind him and pushing down on the floor so hard that he hits his head its like this everyday i tell her to stop i put her in the corneer i send her to her room and still nothing works.

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thanks everyone for all their advice it has worked wonders my daughter listens to me now and she no longer fights with her brother

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K.S.

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I just lost my job and my husband lost his job 6 months ago and he doesn't want to look for a job right now and i don't know if we can make the rent next month .I on the other hand am looking for a job but no luck.whay do i do

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M.A.

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hi S. my name is M.........my best advice to you is to use time out but you have to be persistent with it and not let her get up for a certain amount of time if she keeps getting up put her back until she gets the point.......you have to let her know why you are putting her there or else she will be confused i hope i was of some help to you----good luck and god bless

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M.L.

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Unfortunately, children's programming is just that: it teaches kids how to act. Females lately have had some hostility issues I feel come from television. Maybe they can cut back, if you do allow tv viewing, and put her inthe corner when she misbehaves. If she comes out of the corner, stand there with her and hold her there, or keep a privaledge from her till she behaves. She might be looking for attention, good or bad.

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A.L.

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If a chair doesnt work I know that the playpen works for time outs with my daughter. She is 2 but is VERY tall and it still keeps her in fine and she cant go anywhere, run away, or do ANYTHING until I let her out.

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S.T.

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Yeah I agree with Judy D. Maybe having your daughter help with the baby will settle some of the difficult behavior. I am a mother of 2 : step son 12, daughter 7 , and am 8 months pregnant. I have enrolled myself and daughter in to a sibling class to help me with the transition of her having a baby brother. From my understanding this one day class for a few hours will help me give the appropriate jobs to my daughter. I found this class through my local motherhood clothing store.

Good Luck…Staci

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S.R.

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Ooh - Tough one.
Time outs are a joke. Sorry ladies. All it acomplishes is enraging the child and giving her emotional issues. It's like the old "DUNCE" hat.
I have stepsons, and let me tell you they are a handful. When they have been told too many times to stop running, or something like that I always tell them
it's time to chill" and they get on the couch for some TV time, (sans wrestling and pillow fighting)to me that is a time out.
When your little angel is acting out, do you really want her to feel more alone, punished, kids go to extrmes..
"mommy hates me, I hate the baby. I am in the corner because of the baby"...
You need to spend one on one time with her, you have to teach a child respect. Have her do learning activities with the baby. Make sure she feels special and helpful. Not "bad".
Teach and reward good behavior. Don't punish and fuel bad behavior.

Ideas...
Make a oversized calendar for her to collect her stars on, give her different color coded star stickers for helping play with the baby, for helping fold towels, or answering the phone like a nice young lady.

Let her star in videos teaching the baby how to walk, how to play with certain toys..

think of something besides the corner, please.

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J.D.

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I am a single mom too and my boys fight all the time. You should let your daughter help you with your son so maybe she will feel included instead of threatened. Reward her for the good things she does so that she will feel like a "good big sister".

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A.E.

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Thank God for your gift. You children are your gift from God. Stop and thank God. Read Psalms 101, 98 and 100.

I will focus much more when I receive your reply. I am quite tired tonight.

However, Just remember how God love you and that being a Mom makes you a rich woman.

God bless you,

A.

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L.H.

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Punish your daughter, and make sure you are consistant about it. I dont mean hit her, but make her sit in a time out spot, an uncomfortable spot while you play with the little one. Be firm, and if she is bad tack on time, and use a kitchen timeer. Tell her when she calls for attention, that she was naughty and you cannot talk to naughty girls. Great book: Supernanny, authro is Jo Frost. Just trust me on this, it is a wonderful read chock full of ideas. She will learn that she will not get your attention when she is bad, and baby gets attnetion without her when she is bad. Kids are smart, keep your ground. Kids can easily take over a home at this age and overwhelm a parent. Keep your chin up.

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