Smoking Pot

Yes. I cannot even imagine getting high when my kids were 7-weeks old. I was so exhausted from caring for them and being up during the night, my head would be asleep before it hit the pillow; I don't think I would wake up if I was high. Plus, her judgment is impaired, so if anything were to happen, she would not be able to make the best decisions, or take the baby to the ER. Also, second-hand smoke inside the house is VERY harmful for a baby, no matter what kind. And please tell me she doesn't breastfeed...

Does she do it occasionally/socially or every night to "relax"? I would look at the underlying issues for her using drugs: Does she feel overwhelmed? Exhausted? Like she lost her freedom and this is her escape? Many new mothers feel these things. It's a major life change and she needs an outlet for her stress. She should talk to her doctor, join a gym, go for a walk. Regardless, if she is unable to stop while her child is a NEWBORN, then it is a sign she has an addiction and should seek support or develop a more supportive social circle.

(Now I am NOT anti-pot. I don't think it is really any worse than alcohol, but I do agree with the person that said it is not like having a glass of wine. You smoke to get high. And it's not like her kids are older. SEVEN WEEKS is a very delicate age. By you even posting this question, I think you know it is not normal...)

It depends. How much is your daughter smoking? How often? Is she neglecting her daughter and her other responsibilities? Is she stoned all day? Is she driving stoned? If she is just smoking occasionally, I have to say I don't think it's a big deal. It's a little like drinking - if someone is doing it all day every day, it's a much bigger problem than a beer every night with dinner. I think pot is in a whole different category than other drugs & narcotics. If she's not smoking near the baby and is otherwise responsible, I think you can let it slide. I know it's illegal but...exactly what can you do about it anyway? However, if there is any semblance of neglect going on, then that is an entirely different story. You can try to talk to her (which I assume you have done to no avail) or you can call the police or Child Protective Services and report her anonymously. She may figure out that you are the one who called so you'll have to evaluate the potential effect on your relationship if she cuts you out of her life and that of your granddaughter. Only you can assess the risk.

yes you should be concerned!! If your daughter is smoking pot, she is impaired. Is not like a single beer. People smoke pot to get high!! Not because they just like the taste of it or it goes well with dinner. If she is smoking then the baby could be getting high as well. What if your daughter is highand hte baby is needing something? Pot can lead to other more attactive drugs. Then there is the whole post pardarm (spelling) depression aspect. Yes you should be concerned and you should take action!

The baby could inhale fumes. Any type of smoking could be harmful.

Yes. At the very least pot makes a person forgetful. Her responses are slowed and things that may otherwise be concerning to a mother might seem funny. At the most, I think the smoke would be harmful to a baby, especially if your daughter is nursing.

I guess the level of concern would relate to when your daughter smokes (e.g. after your granddaughter is in bed) and how often she does so.

Well, while it would be best to quit, I'm sure, I have had friends do the same with no issues at all. In fact, I have talked to doctors about this issue specifically, and they are not too concerned. If pot is the only issue, it's actually fairly safe. Alcohol and tobacco, however, are another story. If she's mixing any alcohol and tobacco into the mix, OR if she's using any other drugs, I'd be more concerned. Pot alone seems to be fairly benign.

Yes,the health and safety of your daughter is also a concern. It is a nasty habbit that carries a very bumpy road. Mood swings as one of the biggest, along with the cost, and the negative health risks.
Good luck trying to convince her.
S.