Single Mom Dating - Henderson,NV

Updated on September 12, 2011
A.L. asks from Henderson, NV
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I am 23 years old and I have a 7 month old son. Since my sons father left us I have been on a few dates but not with the person I want to be dating. I have a good friend who I have been wanting to ask out but can't build up the nerve to. We have a flirtatious relationship and we did work together but don't anymore. Since we stopped working together we have hung out a few times but I want it to go to the next level but I'm scared of making that first move. Does anyone have any advice for me on how to take it to the next level? I'm afraid of ruining the friendship but I'll never know if I don't try. Any advice on what to do would be amazing!!

I'm not recently single never said I was my sons father left me when he found out I was pregnant. I do keep my dating life separate from my son and my sons father wont babysit because he's a dead beat. I'm just asking for advice on how to take a friendship to the next level.

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S.W.

answers from Minneapolis on

I guess I'd think of some place or some event that you think he'd like and then next time you two are hanging-out, ask him! I'd probably keep it kinda casual. Then if he says yes, you can move things slowly in that direction. But, you know him best, so maybe he'd appreciate the direct approach better!

I have a girl friend (with 3 kids) that had a guy friend at work and they talked over coffee all the time. Then she got divorced, and one day she just "laid it on the table" (her words) that she was interested in him. They are happily married now!

And we single moms do date all the time...it's not a sin... ;-)

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S.Q.

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Just say, 'I want to ask you out on a date. So here goes, will you go on a date with me?'. Then you can say, 'If I'm being an idiot, and the thought of going on a date with me makes you gag and want to run away, that's OK. I thought the same about you in the beginning,' and smile.

Just because you're a mom, doesn't mean your not a person who shouldn't have a bit of romance and love. Good luck.

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L.S.

answers from Spokane on

I think the best partners are friends first. I say go for it! Just ask him out on an 'official' date - be a little cheesy and goofy if that's your personality.

My husband and I were friends in high school and I SO badly wanted to ask him out, but was too stubborn to just do it. It took him over a YEAR to work up the nerve to finally ask me out. We've been together for 13 years, married for almost 8 and have 3 amazing little girls together.

Just ask. You'll always wonder about "what might have been" if you don't. Good luck :)

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D.P.

answers from Pittsburgh on

My best advice is to keep your dating relationships completely separate from your child's life. If you can date while your ex has your son, that would be best.

But seriously, I think this post might just be a punk because you have a 7 month old, are recently separated and you're ready to "date" already?

All the best to you and your son.

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J.W.

answers from St. Louis on

I always find it funny when people are afraid to ask a guy out because it might ruin a friendship. Doesn't the fact that you want to ask them out, you want to date them, that you think about that every time you are out with them ruin the relationship anyway?

Just ask him, he is most likely picking up on that uncomfortable feeling anyway. Heck if you are right he is probably on some message board trying to work up the nerve to ask you out.

Just do it!!!

I asked my husband out, I just grew tired of waiting for the world to happen to me. I just lets me down too many times. I wasn't about to miss out on dating a great guy just because I was too chicken to ask him out.

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P.G.

answers from Dallas on

Don't have input on this, but make sure when you date for "serious" that the person gets it, REALLY gets it, that you are a package deal and if they are NOT ready to look at being a husband and father, then keep it casual.

Have some responsible fun :)

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K.K.

answers from San Diego on

Hello, I would go for it. I like Suzie Q's approach. Good luck. You deserve some happiness.

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G.H.

answers from Chicago on

my first thought was, you are young with an infant so you shouldn't be worrying about taking it to the ' next level'........i was a young single mom too but just dated for fun ONLY when my daughter wasn't around.....i didn't want to be in a serious relationship because I thought it would be a distraction between my relationship with my daughter.

so i guess my advice would be to do the opposite of whatever happened to your ex & you..........and don't get pregnant!!!!!

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