Sick Toddler

All you have to say is "my child has a fever" and practically everyone will prefer that you stay away. Even if she were well, children of that age aren't the best guests at funerals. I remember when my brother-in-law couldn't keep his 3-year-old son quiet at a graveside service. It was very distracting for everyone and took away from the solemnity of the occasion. They could have easily gone for a little walk, but no, everyone heard what the child had to say but nothing that the preacher was saying. Bummer!

I know this sucks... but how would you feel if someone brought their sick children (or self) to a funeral, and the next day you came down with the horrid flu that lasted about a week.

Put yourself in the other people's shoes that will be attending. Also, keep in mind, that if an elderly person is near you guys, and they get sick, it's less likely for them to get over the illness.

I know it's a bummer, I totally feel for you, but I think I would, at this point, stay home with baby. Great Grandma knows why you were unable to go to her funeral, and that's all that REALLY matters. She knows your heart is with her... she'd rather you keep her legacy healthy and happy ;)

Dear S., I am sorry to be the harbinger of bad news but you should STAY HOME with your sick daughter. If she has had fever for 2 days, she is not well. She should be fever free for at least 24 hours (without the aid of Tylenol, etc) before you take her out.A funeral with a lot of people is not a good place for a sick child to be
(both for her protection as well as those in attendance). Mrs. M (I'm the director of a child care center for 35 years).

If you feel you need or your husband needs you to be at the funeral, then I would suggest staying in the family room at the funeral home. That way you are there for support through this, you have your opportunity to say your goodbyes or otherwise have closure and you are still able to keep your daughter seperated from the other guests. You can post a note on the door stating "Feverish Toddler Inside" or something to that effect. That way, you will not be exposing people, they will make the choice whether or not to expose themself. If it is a grave side service, you can stay in the car with your daughter, but still be there. Either way, if you need some time to go pay your respects or say your goodbyes, your husband can sit with your daughter while you do that.

Here's another option. If you have a friend or neighbor that doesn't mind going with you, s/he could sit in the family room/car with your daughter so you can be present with your husband for at least part of the time anyway.

Hope I have been helpful. My thoughts and prayers go out to your husband and family.

L.

You are absolutely right! You have the right idea about not taking her to the funeral.I do understand wanting to be there and be of support to your husband.Think what it would be like though to take a child with fever to a funeral!!Not just your child but you would be miserable also. Think this one over!! Warmly,A.C

I feel the same way you do about not wanting to take sick kids out around other people when they are sick. I hate it when people bring their sick germs around my kids, so I try to give same respect. However, your hubby probably needs you right now too. If she acts like she feels good enough to sit thru a funeral with you, then I don't see what it would hurt bc chances are, she won't be the only sick person in that room! Just see how your hubby feels about it. :)

Anyone with a fever is considered contagious. Anything she has could be passed onto others. Also, if she were exposed to something else, she would be more likely to acquire that illness as well since her immune system is working hard to fight whatever she has now. It's best to keep her at home. Hopefully your family will understand.

If she has been running fever for two days you definately do not want to expose her. She could have the flu and you need to have her checked as soon as possible. If she has the flu, she could give it to anyone she is in contact with. Hopefully he will understand. My daughter had the flu for a week. The tami-flu meds they gave her worked really quickly.

Hope both of them feel better soon.