Should I Be Worried About Having a Girl??y

Updated on January 04, 2011
L.C. asks from Downers Grove, IL
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Im having a baby in a month and everyone i talk to says "oh you better hope you dont have a girl, they are so difficult" or something along those lines. I have 2 boys and think im having a girl but i only hear negative things about raising a girl. I wasnt the most pleasant child either, but i think that had a lot to do with my broken family, etc. Does anyone enjoy raising their girl???? I will be thrilled if it is a girl, but should i be concerned??? Is it that awful?

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K.I.

answers from Seattle on

I had 2 boys then a girl.

It is going to be great!

~A perfect example of some of the 'differences' I have noticed between the sexes:

All 3 of my kids dumped their laundry baskets from their rooms and were playing in the them. After awhile I told them play time was over and they had to go clean up the mess and put their dirty laundry back in their baskets. My 2 boys, who share a room mind you and are 7 and 5, go in their room and proceed to roll around on the floor and complain..."it's too hard, it will take FOREVER...blah blah blah".........while lil sis, age 2 proceeds directly into her room, bends down and picks up all her clothes in one fail swoop, even bending back down to retrieve the 1 sock she dropped and bam! all clothes into the basket at once! "I all done mom...I go help brudders now".

Little girls are so sweet and mine has a way with paying attention to the details! Just like a Mommy!

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E.M.

answers from Johnstown on

Honestly, not having boys myself and only having them to babysit--I find BOYS difficult. I find my girls are much easier. It all depends on how YOU raise them. Congratulations on whatever you have!

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J.C.

answers from New York on

You know what??? Just be thankful to have a safe delivery and a healthy baby. Boy or girl at least you are blessed to have baby #3.

Peace.

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D.P.

answers from Pittsburgh on

What?! That's ridiculous. If you had two girls and were expecting a boy they's be saying "there goes the furniture, don't get nice carpeting, enjoy the sweat socks......"

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S.U.

answers from Chicago on

I don't know why others are having a hard time with their daughters. I love raising a girl. She's my only child and I'm happy to have a girl. We do have our moments but I would if I had a boy too. Girls are harder because of the emotions but that's part of being female. My mom had 3 girls and she was glad to have girls. In my opinion, it's about how you interact with your child, boy or girl. I would love to have another girl. It doesn't mean you will have problems raising a girl because someone else does. Girls are great!
S.

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B.K.

answers from Chicago on

I LOVE my girls and they are both completely different. One was easy to raise, one was not so easy. It's not the sex of your kid but who they are and their temperament. Ignore dumb comments. People sometimes just say dumb things.

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B.W.

answers from Minneapolis on

People sure do like to insert their unnecessary opinions, don't they!

We have two boys, ages 8.5 and 5yrs old, and we have one daughter who is 3.5. My oldest son is laid back, easy going and smart, very well spoken and calm. My second son is like someone lit his rear end on fire, he hits the ground every third step he moves so fast, he's funny and always making jokes and laughing. He's a character! Our daughter is in between. She can be calm but she has a short fuse. She's very smart too, and spends alot of time observing, but she has her moments.

My point is, each child, regardless of their gender or birth order, is different. Our daughter doesn't share our genes (she's adopted) but she's so much like each of us in her own little ways!

Enjoy your new baby!

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J.E.

answers from Los Angeles on

little girls are sugar and spice and everything nice... until puberty! Then they get a little moody, an attitude, vast knowledge... I have 3, my oldest ones are 16 and 21, little one is 9 months, I love the tea parties, baking, crafts, helping, doll houses & dress up! Personally I prefer little girls, boys are icky little creatures ;) and they smell once puberty starts! LOL

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S.B.

answers from Redding on

Oh my goodness. I sure wish people would keep their comments to themselves sometimes.
I have a girl AND a boy and I couldn't be more happy to have had the joy of experiencing one of each.
My daughter was an only child until her little brother came along about 10 years later and she and I were so close. She was a precocious child, but not difficult. And yes, the teen years were tough, but I think that's pretty normal. Everyone says that boys are harder in some ways, potty training for instance, that wasn't true at all with my son.

I just hope that you have a beautiful and healthy baby. That's really all that matters. God will give you just what you're meant to have, girl or boy.

Just my opinion.

Best wishes.

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M.S.

answers from San Francisco on

Ignore the comments. People always have to find something negative to say about the sex of the baby-you are either trying for a boy or girl boys are harder, girls more dramatic etc. Don't listen to any of it~ Your child will be wonderful no matter what-----Enjoy him/her and forget what people say-only your child will determine if they are difficult or not.

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S.M.

answers from Atlanta on

I've heard many people say that. I dunno. I still think it's all about the individual. My daughter is now 23 and my son is 19, and I must say we had some challenging times especially with my daughter. My daughter was always a free spirit - and very much like me. She and I were like friends until she hit her teens and then she started wanting to live her own life which kind of clashed with my rules. But she wasn't a bad child, and the mischief she got into could have been much worst. And yes, there were the rants about how she hated me and wanted to run away and I was the worst mom in the world...but when she started going through her emotional changes - which seemed to spike close to her birthdays - I read a book series called "My ____ Year Old" by Louise Bates Ames, I think, based on whatever the child's age is. It became clear to me that my DD was a text book case and she eerily mirrored the expected behavior at the given ages explored within the books.

The difference between her and my son is that he was a stickler for rules and she challenged them. As teenagers, he was a conscientious observer and she was a social butterfly who lived in the moment. But was her behavior specifically feminine in nature? I don't think so.

Don't set up any anxiety and anticipation of your child based on the nay-sayers. Enjoy your child's every stage.

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L.S.

answers from Spokane on

I have 3 wonderful girls and have never wished for a boy. Yes, they can be a little more difficult, but it really depends on the individual kid....And anything worthwhile is worth the work :)

I absolutely enjoy raising my girls: playing with dolls, dressing them up and doing their hair and nails (mine happen to be VERY girly), shopping, baking. I look forward to shopping for wedding dresses, watching them become mothers, seeing them follow their dreams. Plus, I'll never be the dreaded MIL to some poor girl who could never be good enough for my little boy ;)

Don't be worried or concerned. Embrace the differences in all of your children and enjoy the ride!! Congrats on your new baby :)

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K.A.

answers from San Diego on

My first 2 are boys, my third is a girl. She's the easiest of the 3! I hear we'll be paying for it when she's a teen though LOL
I'm glad I have my little girl!

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L.M.

answers from New York on

I think what you're hearing is absolutely ridiculous. How could anyone say such a horrible thing???

I have 2 girls. Yes, we have our challenging moments, but we have thousands of other wonderful moments.

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S.J.

answers from Boston on

I have 2 kids ( one boy and a girl) and girls are not that difficult!. My daughter is sweet, warm and kind. She is empathetic and loves to snuggle. NOt to mention fun for me to dress. I don't know why people say that but my daughter is wonderful and I'm sure yours will be too. Ignore them and get excited about all the fun you'll have doing girl stuff with your new bundle of joy.

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A.P.

answers from San Francisco on

Dear Mommyalways -

Ah, you caught me. As the mommy of two girls, I am as guilty as anyone of bemoaning the trials and tribulations of having girls. http://mamadrama.typepad.com/my_weblog/2007/12/its-no-pin...

But I love my girls and wouldn't change them for the world. You will find having a girl equally worrisome, inspiring, fretful and joyful as having boys, the situations will just be different: http://mamadrama.typepad.com/my_weblog/2007/09/mama-miles...

Congratulations to you! Enjoy with no worries.
- A.

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S.T.

answers from Chicago on

Please don't give any of these comments any more weight than you would an awful old wives tale!

I have a sweet, tenacious, caring two your old girl that I couldn't imagine being without- I know you will feel the same way about your little one when she arrives.

I understand your concern after having two boys, I have heard there are differences- but isn't each child different in their own right?

Enjoy the time with your children and know that boys AND girls give equal joy and headaches :)

Take care!

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K.H.

answers from Boston on

I had to laugh when I read this question, and I;m sorry for that. People who say negative things about anything, usually in most cases are going from their own past experiences. Having a girl is great! Having a boy is great! I have a 2 year old son and a 6 month old girl and they are very different, but both enjoyable! My baby girl loves to laugh, do raspberries and snuggle! my son loves to play and is very kind. Good luck to you, and don't listen to negative comments, and only expect the positive!

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T.M.

answers from Philadelphia on

I have all girls. Four of them. I love having girls! My sisters have boys and they are crazier....lol! I have never ever heard someone say that girls are harder.

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K.D.

answers from Los Angeles on

In my experience, there are a good amount of peripheral nay-sayers that heed warning in advance of big life events - marriage, first baby, first house, graduate school, ect... But in my experience, these life events give life its meaning and joy. So, ignore their "warnings" and enjoy these blessings.

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K.I.

answers from Oklahoma City on

I have 2 daughters and expecting righ now , I always wanted a boy but after looking at some nefews , and some kids on the playground I hope I have another girl !! I love my sister's kids but theres nothing better than girls..

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L.C.

answers from Chicago on

Hi Mommyalways,

I have both a son and daughter that are 15 months apart and let me tell you from experience they have totally different personalities...BUT its a joy. Please do not let people discourage you when it comes to having a girl. Although my daughter has a stronger personality than my son she is also very affectionate and wonderful. I will admit that she is a little bit more difficult but I think it's because I have been a little more leniant towards her (since she is a girl). But just like anyone the characters differ. Good luck with the baby and it's a wonderful blessing to have a girl in the home.

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L.C.

answers from Kansas City on

my daughter is A MILLION times easier than my son! my daughter is 5 and a perfect, sweet, caring, mild-mannered soft spoken little angel! now, dont get me wrong. she has her moments when she drives me nuts too, but as a whole she is sooooooooo much easier than my son. i had my tubes tied after my son because he is so difficult!

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M.L.

answers from Philadelphia on

Oh my gosh - whatever you have it is a blessing!! People just want to have something to say :) I have 1 boy and 4 girls -- believe me, they are all with their "issues" and with their graces :) My girls are great!

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A.G.

answers from Houston on

My girls are awesome, ive always thought boys were much more of a handfull.

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L.C.

answers from Raleigh on

haha.....We just had a girl 10 weeks ago and have 2 boys ages 4 and 6. People who tell me that i am now in trouble because we have a girl, only have girls, so they have no idea. After my boys i think i can handle an army of girls:) As of right now our girl is identical to how our boys were as babies, she even looks just like them(i feel like i am having the same baby over and over :)) So yes I am enjoying raising our girl, just as much as I do our boys:) Congrats !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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L.A.

answers from Dallas on

I always wanted boys. In fact, I couldn't imagine having a girl at all. When we got pregnant with our first baby I was so sure we were destined to have a passel of hooligans we didn't even worry about finding out the gender. At 42 weeks, I had an unplanned c-section after 2 days of labor...and when they laid that big blue eyed little girl on my chest I was the happiest woman in the entire world.

We got pregnant with our second baby when my daughter was 8 months old. And we decided this baby would be our last...I was absolutely thrilled when I found out we would be having another daughter.

My daughter IS hard, but it has NOTHING to do with her gender. She's smart and curious and stubborn (hence the 2 days of labor...she wasn't going to change position no matter what we tried!) and I wouldn't trade her for the world. She loves mommy's costume jewelry AND daddy's toolbox, and that's just how we like it.

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H.L.

answers from Cleveland on

lol NO. They do tend to be more dramatic, that's all. They are a load of fun. I've 2 girls and a boy. And I personally had fun dressing up my girls AND my dapper little man. You go ahead and enjoy her!

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D.G.

answers from Jacksonville on

lol I've heard the same things. I also have two boys and I'm expecting my girl in March. I don;t think it has anything to do with the gender, just the child's personality and how you raise them. I've seen sweet and good little girls and I've seen some that make you wanna pull your hair. But you know its the same way with little boys (i'm sure you've noticed). So don't take any of that to heart I'm not lol. I'm excited about my little girl and if that's what you have you'll be excited too :)

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J.P.

answers from Chicago on

I have identical twin girls and I think it is all about the temperment of each individual child. My girls are active, always wanting to get into stuff and very funny. Whereas my neighbor's identical twin girls are a little bit more mellow. I think you could end up with a girl that's not much different than your son or the complete opposite. I wouldn't worry about it....If you learn to adapt to the situation you will do fine.

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A.F.

answers from St. Cloud on

Ignore them! I enjoy my son and daughter equally and they are both so different. They keep me on my toes and I love it!

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N.P.

answers from Chicago on

Girls are amazing, I love them and am so glad I got two girls and no boys!!

I do daycare and have all boys in the daycare, so I have found out that it does not matter if it is a girl or a boy - there are wild girls and wild boys, there are emotional boys and emotional girls - gender means NOTHING honestly.

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S.T.

answers from Provo on

I have a daughter and Iove it!! She is so sweet and caring. Girls are easy to potty train usually are more mature younger. I always wanted a boy first but now that I have my daughter I want another one! I wouldn't worry too much every child is different :)

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W.K.

answers from Washington DC on

that's funny. i have a girl, and i'm scared to death about having a boy. i've seen so many of my friends' boys, and they seem so much harder to care for... more rambunctious, rebellious, active, etc.

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C.D.

answers from Chicago on

Oh my goodness! Don't listen to that stuff!
Parenting is a challenge, it also brings unmeasured joy. God chose you and this child to bring together, so it's a perfect match. Your journey may be easy or filled with head scratching challenges but you are a family and that is a good thing...always.

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M.3.

answers from St. Louis on

Sorry this is late, I have a girl, boy and a girl on the way. I have gotten some of those comments from people, which none of them even had a girl. I just assumed they were jealous because they never had a girl. Girls AND boys are amazing. I love them both more than life its self. As far as difficulty raising, they are both equally challenging. I wouldnt say one is harder than the other. No, I lied, my son has been more difficult, but I just think he has second child syndrome...lol. But that doesnt mean I love one or prefer one over the other.
I have no idea why people feel like they should impose their rude thoughts on a child, especially because of gender. I find it very annoying and wish people would keep their negative thoughts to themselves.
I have a beautiful bond with my daughter and couldnt imagine my life without her and am just as excited to share that with my new baby girl. Please dont worry, she will make your life complete.

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L.R.

answers from Des Moines on

I have a boy 2 and a girl who is four months old. My girl is just lovely and I would say those comments are because generally girls are more emotional and the first couple of months they can cry quite a bit (but then so can boys) That being said my girl is very, very happy smiley baby, whereas my boy just cruised along. Goodluck for the upcoming birth :)

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T.T.

answers from Chicago on

every kid can be a pain! doesnt matter there sex. my daughter can be dramatic, demanding, but she also very sweet and caring. every kid has there phase! i think people may be saying that to make you feel better in case you end up with a third boy ? like you would be so disappointed to have another boy so this would ease the blow? who knows

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L.L.

answers from Dayton on

Hi! I have 3 children. The two oldest are boys and the youngest is a girl. I wouldnt say that you should be worried about having a girl. I loved dressing up my little girl and doing girly things with her when she was little. And I love shopping and doing fun things with her now that she is 15. I will say that at about age 7 she started having her own opinions on most everything which is fine, and once puberty started to set in she became a little more of a handful for example talking back, thinking she knew more than her father or me and just overall moodiness, but I am sure hormones played a big part in that. I dont remember my boys being quite as opinionated or moody. I would say that the boys have been a little easier on me than my daughter. It really probably depends on each childs personality and the way they are raised. I hope this helps to put your mind at ease. Good luck on the birth of your baby!

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M.S.

answers from Chicago on

I have a 3 yr old boy & 13 mth girl... they are completely different, but love each other already. When he's in time-out & upset, she sits by him (we of course explain she why she shouldn't but you get the point). She falls down & he kisses her & tells her she's "ok". She snuggly and really hugs you back. He just sort of lays on you. He's jumping around constantly. She watches & sometimes joins.

I'm from a family of 4, I'm the youngest of 2 boys & 2 girls, if you asked my mom who was more difficult to raise, she'd say the 2nd oldest, who was a boy. Oldest brother was responsible... oldest daughter as well... me I loved everyone & just did what everyone else did. I spoke, walked, read & potty-trained faster than all my sibs.

My point: as others have written, all children are different don't worry until there is something for which you should be concerned. Enjoy your little ones, time is flying and this time will pass quickly. Take this last month to really get some rest, Mama of 3!

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A.A.

answers from Chicago on

Well, I only have a girl and am now preggo with #2 and not-so-secretly hoping for another girl. Must not be too bad =) As long as its healthy, you will be fine!

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L.S.

answers from Chicago on

First of all I agree that it's a shame people have made comments to you like that about girls - or boys. We have a 7 year old boy and 4 year old girl and I would say both are wonderful and both are challenging. Some of it is probably gender-based but I think a lot of it is personality-based and even age-based. Some of the positives I can mention with my daughter are yes, the early toilet training, can run various errands without meltdowns, very observant, great fine motor skills (likes to trace letters, buttoned/zipped earlier) and good sense of pretend play - from animal vet to pirate to princess! Enjoy!!!!!

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M.G.

answers from Chicago on

I swear, if you were carrying the christ child people would tell what a hassle it was going to be .......all that love and understanding and perfection gets really annoying and its better if a boy has a sport.

Love my daughter and sons - all really easy and hard!

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D.D.

answers from Chicago on

I don't like it when people pigeon hole Boys or Girls into a "spot". I have 3 girls and 1 boy. Without both sexes I don't know what I would think.

They are equally challenging...in different ways. There is no such thing as parenting being easy!

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D.B.

answers from Charlotte on

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S.H.

answers from Dallas on

My dad had 4 girls and enjoyed everyt minute of it. We did everything the boys did. Went to camp outs, made camp fires, used tools. I do not think it is any harder than having a boy. My sister has 2 girls and they are really easy going. Like any child boy or girl they do have their days but are wounderful 99% of the time.

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K.U.

answers from Detroit on

I have 2 teenage stepsons. They are wonderful, but the younger one can be as difficult as any kid, boy or girl. Their mom likes to say that she's so happy she had boys but I think that's only because as a teenage girl she gave her mom such a hard time.

My daughter now is 3 and I can't imagine having a sweeter, more loving and adorable child. My stepsons as young boys were a lot of fun, but I was absolutely thrilled to learn that I was having a girl. I think it is so stupid that people would be so quick to generalize about one gender vs. the other. And I can't believe that people would plant such negative thoughts in your head - that seems just plain rude. Some kids have more challenging personalities than others, regardless of gender. I really hope that if the baby is a girl, you will look forward to having a girl and not let all the things you are hearing stick in your head. If you have all these negative expectations, you might not appreciate your daughter as an individual - you will just blame the difficult moments on the fact that she is a girl and it can become a self-fulfilling prophecy. She might pick up on that to some degree and think there is something wrong with her for being a girl, when really, she shouldn't.

Besides, girls are more fun to get clothes for.

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J.S.

answers from Chicago on

I have a two year old daughter and she's AMAZING! She has always slept great, was a great breastfeeder, very, very easy baby, and now is the sweetest, smartest little girl. And now I have a new baby and she's really helpful. Try to ignore people. My two best friends both had boys at the same time I had my daughter, and then both got pregnant again and kept saying they didn't want girls because their boys are so sweet. It was hard not to take it personally because I felt like it was a reflection on my daughter, but finally I figured out that both girls had difficult with their relationships with their own mothers, and I think they were scared about parenting a daughter. I've always had a wonderful relationship with my mom, so I didn't have that hang-up.

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T.C.

answers from Chicago on

Hi,
I wouldn't worry about it. People told me I shouldn't have a boy first because they are harder. Some said I should have a boy first because they are more difficult and I'd get the difficult child out of the way first. I think its all just ridiculous. Now, I do not have a girl myself, we did end up having a boy. Despite what people told me I don't think he's more difficult than any other child. He's actually a really easy 18 month old. :) I think it has more to do with how we are raising him. We are very consistent with naps and what he can and can not do. I think how you raise your child is the most important factor in how he or she turns out. :)
I am really praying that we have a little girl next for many reasons, though one superficial reason is I can't wait to get her cute little girl clothes! :)
good luck!

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M.O.

answers from Fresno on

I have 2 girls and I love it. Benefits of girls: You can get pedicures together, you will be mother of the bride someday, cute clothes and bows, girls always spend the holidays with their parents side.

P.M.

answers from Tampa on

My first born is a girl and it couldn't have been a better start into Motherhood. Sure, girls start talking earlier - which means sassing back earlier... but they are also more social, more apt to concentrate earlier on, more likely to listen better and more effusive emotionally.

My daughter changed my life - and I'm ALMOST positive I would have felt the same if I had a boy first... but I didn't. I had my wonderful little girl first.

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A.W.

answers from Chicago on

I didn't read the other responses but I love having my daughter! She is so sweet and so much fun. I love getting to do girly things with her and having Mommy- daughter time. She is getting into the age where she likes clothes, nail polish, Barbies, and playing with make-up so I get to do all those things with her. Our bond is so special and we get to giggle and have fun doing things, just us girls.
I also think girls mature faster then boys. And my daughter was so easy to potty train whereas my best friend's sons were nightmares. Also there is none of the wrestling, play fighting that her sons are constantly doing.
Good luck! And don't be concerned. You are going to love having a daughter! You'll have it made- you get experience raising both girls and boys!

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C.F.

answers from Chicago on

I have 2 boys then my daughter and she is a joy. their ages are 25,22,15. My daughter was actually easier than the boys as far a school goes. Her grades are much better then theirs ever were. She went through a rough patch when her father and I divorced but she is fine now. Don't worry, just love your child no matter the gender and enjoy.

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D.K.

answers from Pittsburgh on

I don't think it's the girl that's difficult, it's the preconceptions and environment around us. I think it would be very hard to raise a girl who would not be limited by the pink/purple/princess stereotypes that are ubiquitous now.

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C.S.

answers from Chicago on

I have two girls ages 5 and 2 1/2, and they're wonderful. Sure, they have their moments, but as infants, they were angels - good sleepers and eaters. I have found that people who give negative advise are just complaining about their own experiences. If you think positively and don't worry, the baby will feel your vibes and everything will be fine.

Congratulations, I hope everything goes smoothly, and enjoy your new addition!

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M.C.

answers from Minneapolis on

Everyone is a pain in the tushy in one way or another, Enjoy the fact that you might be able to raise both a boy and and girl, We love, love having two girls and a boy...if you ask me our boy is the bigger pain in the tushy and of course he has to be the middle child also! YIKES...lol Congrats on your third!

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M.D.

answers from Chicago on

I think it is so rude for anyone to say that to you!

Girls are so fabulous!!! Our daughter is certainly the best thing that has ever happened to my husband and me. Little girls and their daddies are something to behold for sure. Also, girls are so much fun! Nail polish painting, playing with dolls, playing dress up. A partner to shop with!

This is it though...girls are easy when their little and boys are easier when their in their teenage years. That is what I hear anyway!

I wouldn't trade having a girl for anything! Though boys are sure fun too!

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M.B.

answers from Champaign on

Well looks like you have had a lot of response but here is one more. I have a little girl who will be 3 in may and she is just wonderful. She is very much like mommy likes my shoes and want to dress up in my clothes its great. i always wanted a boy when i was thinkg bout have a child but then when they said girl i was so happy. now i wouldnt change a thing and if i were to ever have another i would want a girl.

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T.C.

answers from Colorado Springs on

I love my daughters! They are such a joy and bring a gentleness and softness to our homes. We had 3 boys first, then 3 girls. I can't imagine our home without them! You'll love whatever you get. Don't let naysayers shadow your joy. People always will be telling you about the horrible days ahead. Don't listen to that! {"Oh, just wait until they're 2...or 12...or 16...etc.-rubbish!} Love your babies and enjoy them all along. We have yet to reach *that* age where we regret a minute of them (my oldest is 18, my youngest is 4). They are wonderful and delightful at every age and this goes for both girls and boys!

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K.L.

answers from Chicago on

I had a girl first and will have my second girl any day now. I was SO excited to find out I was having a second girl!! Girls are incredibly easy and I wouldn't change it for the world. I think every child, boy or girl, is different and it depends on how you raise them. Whether you have a boy or a girl, you'll love them no matter what. Enjoy!

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A.D.

answers from Washington DC on

I had a girl then a boy...they are very different, but both equally WONDERFUL! I am so glad I have one of each...it is a blast. I would say there is a bit more drama with the girls, but there is also a sweet motherly side. (I was sick with food poisoning, my husband is deployed, and we just moved, so no friends or family around...my 3 1/2 year old daughter did her sweet little best to take care of me AND our 1 year old son!!! It was too sweet). Don't worry about it...at least not until they're teenagers! LOL

A.S.

answers from Davenport on

I have two girls. Just like with anything else, some days they are easy, some days they are difficult. My SIL has two boys and she seems to have always had a much more difficult time of it. My sister has two girls and she also seems to have a harder time with parenting than I do. It has nothing to do with the sex of the children and everything to do with personality and parenting style. You will do just fine if you have a daughter...boy or girl, the baby will bring you joy.

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R.S.

answers from Chicago on

Hi there,

I think that these things depend more on the child's personality/temperament and how they interact with yours (the parents') rather than gender. I have a daughter who's almost 3, and we have quite a few friends with boys around her age. She's generally easier to manage (fewer injuries from climbing all over stuff, even though she's pretty gregarious and likes to explore herself) than they are.

Anyway, best wishes for a healthy labor and delivery. Whatever the baby's gender is, let's just hope s/he's healthy!

R.

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M.W.

answers from Boise on

My little girls like to sit and color for a loooong time. I don't think boys do that. They also like to copy mommy and clean up. It's fun!

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D.B.

answers from Chicago on

Hey there,

We have 2 girls and they are a lot of fun. Both of them have their own little "girly rituals" but I don't think they are difficult. They are so cute and expresses their feelings and tell you how much they love you. They also very eager to help you with all kinds of chores. So yes, I love raising my girls! Have fun and don't be concerned!

J.L.

answers from Los Angeles on

I wanted a boy when I was pregnant, and started dreading when I heard the words "it's a girl" (during the sonogram). Honestly, she's almost 2 and better behaved then a lot of other kids around us (boys and girls included). I don't think either gender is harder then the other, I think it's the kid and their temperment.
Everyone comments on our girl's looks, and tells us how we better get a shotgun, and watch out for the boys when she's a teen.....eh, just ignore it.

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K.N.

answers from Peoria on

I have two boys and then my little girl came along! She is by far easier than the boys. I love my boys but a little girl brings a sense of calming and "bringing the family" together. I'm sure she'll be more difficult during the teen age years but she's 3 1/2 and has been the sweetest addition to our family!

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R.M.

answers from Chicago on

I have a girl and it's wonderful.

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V.L.

answers from Chicago on

I've never heard such terrible things...I have two girls (teenagers, now) and wouldn't trade them for anything.

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J.G.

answers from Rockford on

No you should not be worried about having a daughter! I have a little girl and a baby boy. My daughter is kind of a "Daddy's Girl" and sometimes I see other mothers struggle with jealousy about it with their daughters, but my little girl is nothing but a joy! (Granted my son is just as wonderful) I won't say there aren't struggles, just like any other child, regardless of gender, but people should really not make it seem like having a daughter is a curse or something. I heard that many times before I gave birth to my little girl "Oh, Girls are SO HARD" I couldn't find it to be farther from the truth. Every child is different. I'm sure there are difficult girls just like there are difficult boys, but I enjoy my daughter more and more every day!

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A.S.

answers from Chicago on

I don't have any boys, so I can't compare, but for me, raising girls has been wonderful so far. I would guess that there are times when girls are more challenging & times when boys are. I'm sure it just depends on what phase of life he/she is in. A lot of it may just depend on the personality/temperament of the child, regardless of gender. Not all boys are the same and not all girls are the same either. As I'm sure you know, parenting is hard at times. I'm sure that is true with girls or boys. But even though we go through hard times, we wouldn't be without our children, would we? I say just try to ignore the bad things you hear and enjoy your new baby! Good Luck for a safe delivery, a healthy baby & many years of happiness to come, regardless of the baby's gender!!

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S.B.

answers from Chicago on

No worries, I have a daughter with two older brothers. She is a joy and her brothers adore her. I would not say she is more difficult in the least just developing quicker than the boys did (talking, concepts, etc) which I think is common for girls. Enjoy her!

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S.H.

answers from Chicago on

You've already received lots of great responses but let me add one as the mom of a 14 year old girl. She is and has always been easy (our 11 year old son too, but just a couple of challenges with him when younger - potty training, bed wetting, late talker). I guess I've unconsciously internalized those negative stereotypes of raising girls because I keep waiting for the difficult times with her and it's never happened! No terrible twos, no pre-teen angst, no teenager drama - she is a wonderful, caring, intelligent, creative person. Great grades, social, self-motivated, and we have a very close relationship. She is everything I could have asked for and so much more than I expected.

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R.W.

answers from Chicago on

I have a 3 year old girl, who is not only my best friend, but the best thing that has ever happened to me. I'm was absolutely thrilled to find out I was having a girl and even though she was a difficult sleeper (no naps until she was 9 months, didn't sleep through the night until she was 6 months and wouldn't go to sleep without being rocked), I adore her and wouldn't trade her in for anything!! Just remind all of these people who are filling your head with negatives about girls, that there are plenty of people out there that aren't blessed with any children! Good luck if you do have a girl, I am a 100% guaranteed customer!!!

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C.A.

answers from San Francisco on

I too have two boys and now I have my girl! Do I enjoy raising her? YES, YES, YES! I love how different she is from my boys. She loves to dance and she loves animals, and she loves to sing. She is only 16 months old right now and I know this is just the beginning but I am loving every minute of it!

Have fun and enjoy!

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C.G.

answers from Chicago on

I see you have many answers, but I couldn't resist replying too. I have 2 children, both girls, and let me just tell you GIRLS ARE THE BEST! They love princesses, ballet, dressing up, jewelry and pink! For a mom, there is nothing better.

When you hear people say they are difficult, what they probably are referring to are the teenage years. What you hear a lot is that boys are harder as little kids because they get into everything and girls are harder as teens because of all the drama, etc. Plus, worrying about teen pregnancy. When you have boys, this is less of a concern. It's just reality. But in my mind, these things become a matter of good parenting, so whether they are girls or boys is somewhat irrelevant. If you raise them right, they will grow up to be good kids!

Enjoy your baby girl! And don't worry about the future - it will all work itself out : )

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A.H.

answers from Chicago on

I did not read all the answers, so I hope I am not repeating,,,but there is an old saying... "A son is a son until he takes a wife...A daughter is a daughter for the rest of her life". Trust me that this is sooooo true. My 2 sons are wonderful, but their baby sister always remembers me and worries about me for all the RIGHT reasons. I truly hope you have a girl. It is a life changing experience.

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