O.k .our new horrid attached neighbors which we have many issues with have a two year old boy the screams and I mean like he is being beaten type of scream. Many MANY times a day for long periods. I know we are not the only ones affected by it (we are attached in a condo) our other neighbors are annoyed also. How do we handle this. Our landlord knows about it and they might be leaving (they are having relationship issues I guess) but until then it is ear piercing and quite frustrating to hear after our kids go to bed when it is quiet time. A side note they live a different schedule the kid goes to bed at 2am. So as you can see 9 at night is a rough time to be listening to a child scream when our are in bed. There is no guarantee they are moving and they don't have him stop. They are young parents like us and I know we wern't perfect in the beginning but seriously I can hear them and they do not discipline him at all over this when they are outside. She has already given us the excuse for him banging at 4 in the morning and that is because he has RLS but that is no excuse for not teaching him to stop screaming.
I am going crazy here :(
Thank you for your thoughts, issues has been solved.
call the police over an over-also call CPS..something isnt right..kid being beaten..molested...starved..??...you can make annonounymos calls...i wouldve been calling long ago....
Please take a step back here and get some perspective.... You are talking about a child as though its a barking dog....
I had PTSD as a child and so I only slept 3 hours a night and would often wake up screaming unable to be calmed (just made it worse if people tried to touch or talk to me) and during the day I'm told I would go into trances where I would sit and scream for 30 minutes straight for no reason and my poor dad would sit next to me and just cry. By the time I was 5, they found a good cognitive therapist who was able to help me and my parents start to cope, but for two whole years my parents lived in a constant nightmare.
It sounds like you have other issues with your neighbors that leads you to believe they are not fit parents. No matter what this child has been diagnosed with or is going through to make him scream, he needs help. There are free child/family counseling services in every state. If you are able to put your differences aside and in a friendly manner, recommend them to a place to seek help then do so. If you are not able to suggest this in a nice way, then anonymously call the police and mention the counseling service to them. When a peace officer or cps representative comes to their house, they will have a way to suggest or enforce that the parents do what is right for their poor baby.
If the landlord does not do something about this situation then its time to let the police do the job. I would stay out of it because you may end up having to live beside these people and its unbearable now, getting involved could make it even worse. It sounds like the police should be involved anyway, no child needs to cry that long. I have 4 children and I know they are all different but none of mine have ever cried like that or any of the children that I have taken care of unless they were hurt or sick. Even then with a bit of comforting and TLC I was able to calm them... In the meantime try leaving the radio on with some soft music playing, hopefully it will drown it out...
GL!
Start calling the landlord everytime this child is screaming no matter if its after a decent time for phone calls or not. He rented to this couple so it's his responsibility to take care of it. Or all the neighbors who have a problem should also start calling I bet 10 to 1 after a few nights of this your landlord will put a stop to it or put them out, also maybe a few calls to the police and mommy and daddy will do something about this childs fits.
Call the police (non emergency dept). You can be annonymous, just tell them you don't want any contact with the police officer, but that the noise level is unbearable and disturbing your peace. They may not realize how loud he's being and at least this way you can do it from an approach where you won't have to be the "bad guy". There's laws against this type of stuff, I have a 2 yr old and I can't imagine sitting around letting him scream his head off all day, that would drive me crazy so maybe they can use a good wake up call. Who knows, maybe the police need to get involved, the child could be screaming from them fighting or from neglect, you did say their on the road of separation, so who knows whats going on in there but that type of constant screaming doesn't sound right. Good luck, hope everything gets resolved.
I don't really see where a landlord can do too much in this situation, it sounds more like an issue for the police dept or CPS. I have 3 children, soon to be 4 and have never let my kids scream uncontrollably for any reason. If they are sick, hurt or simply throwing fits, I do whatever I can to calm them down, and we live in a house, where no one but us would be disturbed by the noise level!
We lived in a condo many years ago, back when I had only one kid but I remember every Summer the unsupervised pool kids would get SOOO out of control, the screaming went on all day long, to the point I was ready to pull my hair out. I had never called the police on anyone but after many weeks of daily screams, I placed a call to the police departments non emergency line and made a report. Then a few days later, I did it again until the kids finally got the point that the noise level was out of control.
So looking back now, I wish I hadn't waited so long and stressed so much about what to do. I didn't want to be the mean lady in the condo always telling kids to be quiet so by calling the police dept, they had no way of knowing who called and everyone takes better to a police officer then a grumpy neighbor. : )
Good luck to you and your situation, hope everything works out for you and this child....doesn't sound like everythings ok in his household.
Dear H.
My son has an Autism Spectrum Disorder, sometimes he has meltdowns and things, and he can cry and scream for hours at any given time, my neighbors know about this, and still have had called CPS on us!!, I know that it is completely different from RLS, but maybe the boy has something else that they don't know about, and its really hard to calm him down???
Like someone who has been on that side of the bench, I cant fathom her not trying anything to calm him down ( I dont know) Anyway the thing our neighbors did with us was a meeting with us and our landlord, but I was so offended by it, I moved, because really what can you expect me to do to just stop him crying?? Its not like he's doing it on purpose, they wanted my child to just not cry at night, and it was really, really difficult.
Hang in there, and hopefully you can get something out of a meeting with your neighbors, share parenting tips or concerns. I just wanted to give you my experience as being at the other end. Hope you find it helpful and can work something out ok? Good Luck!
PS. Have you suggested medication for her son, I've heard there's medication for RSL I dont know if he is maybe too young?
In many ways this sounds like my house. I have a 6 year old that screams and screams. She knows nothing but loud. We do not just sit back though, we try everything. That is one reason we did not rent an apartment where things to bug others. I think if it is really something the child and parents can not control they should at lest think of the others around them. I hope things get better. I think the landlord should be the one to handle this. I hope they help you and the others that it is bugging too.
Oh my goodness, that is awful! I would get fans as background noise to drown out the noise at night. I'm sure you can file complaints and such but in the mean time, try drowning out the noise. Good luck!
H., I grew up living next to a boy with autism (for about 10-12 years), he would scream at all times of day and night. My father had us sleep in the bedroom that did not have the adjoining wall and explained to us that the boy had autism and that we should be kind and respectful to both him and his parents. His screams became a noise that we became used to and that didn't bother us probably because of the way my dad chose to handle the situation. I'm sure if my dad got angry and frustrated each time it happened then we probably would have acted differently.
That being said - I don't think I am as patient as my dad was and can understand how frustrating it can be to hear outside noises when you are relaxing at home. Maybe you can talk to your neighbor, she could probably use a friend (just imagine how frustrated she must be!). Also - instead of trying to get them evicted, maybe you could talk to the landlord about some extra insulation in the walls - this may or may not be covered as a 'reasonable accommodation' under the Americans With Disabilities Act.
Good luck.
