Potty Training Question - Toms River,NJ

Updated on June 09, 2008
H.B. asks from Toms River, NJ
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I have a 4 1/2 year old girl who is not totally potty trained. It was hard to teach her because I worked full time and my husband did not make much effort, but now that I am home, I really need to get her out of the pull ups befor school starts next year. Any suggestions? I dont want to have her go naked because of fear of ruining my furniture or flooring if she has an accident. I have tried giving her a quarter everytime she goes, we have tried setting the timer and having her go every hour, but she always seems that she wont go because she is too busy playing and what not.

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C.M.

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Lots of praises. If she attempts to go to the potty - praises, if she sits on the potty - praises. "What a wonderful job", "yeah you did it", while clapping. Big hugs and smiles. Worked for me and my boys!

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A.R.

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Good luck. I have a 3, almost 4 year old who refuses to use the toilet. I have tried everthing, from bribes, blackmail, threats, etc. if you figure something out let me know. i know this doesn't give you much..sorry

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C.S.

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Hi, I have a 3 yr old baby girl who is fully potty trained. First I would suggest to get rid of the pull ups. They give children a false sense of security. Once I pull my daughter in "big girl" panties we were on a role. My daughter is a Dora fan so I went to Walmart and brought her Dora panties. She didn't want to soil her Dora's, so she was more deligent than when she was wearing the pull ups. I know it sounds simple, but it really works. She was fully potty trained by her 2nd bd. Good luck...

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U.O.

answers from New York on

Get rid of those pull-ups! At first they seem to help things but after a while become a major hinderance. My daughter is 2(turned 2 in October) and she is fully potty trained. Her major problem still is going poo on the toilet. She won't go on herself..she will try to hold it as long as possible.

When we were in the final stages of potty training where I was trying to train her to get up in the middle of the night. I realized that if I kept the pull-up on, she would wake up wet but when I put her down for her afternoon nap in her panties...she would wake up dry. Got rid of the pull-up and now she gets up when she has to go.

As for letting her go naked, that didn't work for me, I think it works better for boys(for the visual). Maybe instead of the timer, you be her timer. When you think she should go..take her. Also taking her with you when you go works well. Potty training can be nerve wracking, so be patient and give plenty of praise. When she goes..jump up and down and yell...make it seem like a huge deal!

Sorry so long winded, hope this helps some.

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R.M.

answers from New York on

Hello H.

I am having the same problem with my 2yr old twin daughters. I let them walk around the house with no pamper on and put their potty in their room by the television. Sometimes they do not like the potty chairs and they want to use the regular toilet, but i only have one toilet. Also try putting panties on her instead of pull ups and let her know she is a big girl now and big girls use the toilet. Good luck and I hope this advice works for you.

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P.M.

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I know it is hard-but I think you need to get rid of the pull ups. put her in underware or let her run around naked in jus one room of your house. Everytime she starts to go-quickly pick her up and put her on the potty-she will finish up on the potty so you can give her a reward-a sticker or an M& M or anything. If you devote your entire attention to her for one day-no phone calls-nothing-she should be trained by the end of the day.
Yes I know you did not want a mess-but it is limited to one day-then steam clean like crazy.
It worked when my daughter wsa 18 months old.

Good Luck!!

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C.

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The way I did it worked for me and a lot of other people I know. Pick a weekend or 3 days in a row when you can devote all your time to her. Pick a room or two in your house with hard floors. Then you need to get over the fear of her having an accident. It will happen but within 3-4 days it will all be over. Lock yourself and your daughter in the room with gates or whatever, bring a potty in if the bathroom is not close by. She should have plenty of toys or a tv to keep her amused. Then, off come the pullups and pants. Put on the big girl panties. I left my daughter with nothing on but a shirt and panties but I know someone who kept socks on her daughter because the girl hated wet socks. Ask her repeatly if she needs to use the potty. She will most likely have a few accidents but will figure it out soon enough. If you see her starting to go, you can try to say stop and put her on the potty really fast. Keep a lot of paper towels handy and extra panties to put on her. I did not let my daughter on the furniture but did keep a couple of her plastic chairs around. If she makes it to the potty, give her a treat such as stickers, a few m&ms or whatever works for you daughter. I started this on a Friday and by Monday was able to send her to daycare in panties. She had a few poop accidents Monday and Tuesday and was completely done by Wed. Your daughter is definately old enough, if she doesn't have a choice about wearing pull-ups anymore, she should be fine.

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L.P.

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when my son was potty training he ALWAYS knew when he had any form of a diaper on!!! I would take off the pull up and just put her in underwear and even sweat pants or stretch pants or something. I did that with my son. I didn't let him walk around teh house naked...sometimes he was just in underwear, but if we had people coming around and stuff, I usually would put pants on. And yeah, i was doing a lot of laundry, but he got it rather quickly. It wasn't a big deal...but I think the fact that if he did have an accident he felt it made it click easier! Hope it goes well for you. She'll get it. Don't worry.

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V.G.

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I am currently potty training my daughter. When we are at home, she wears panties. Yes, she has peed on herself a few times. She didn't like the feel of it and she cried. I explained to her where she should go so she won't feel it. And everytime she goes, I put stickers on her potty and we have the Potty song. I have been doing this for the past few months. Another suggestion I have heard (it didn't work for me though), try putting the potty in front of the t.v.
Good Luck!

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D.

answers from New York on

Since she isn't starting school until next year you can always start to push her this spring and summer. You can let her run around outside then and you don't have to worry about cleaning up pee in your house. I hear it's easier to let girls go naked be cause they pee down...boys pee out so it really wouldn't work to well. She may not like the feeling of pee on her and this may be the push she needs.

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T.S.

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I feel your pain. My son is now 4 1/2 and really has just in the past 2-3 months become really well potty trained all the way thru the night too. I too avoided the going naked thing I was in college and then working but after I did it started to click. It still took another 2-3 months to really have him well trained and perfected, but until I did it he wouldn't even go on the toilet at all. He was a little past 3 1/2 at the time I did this since I was really hoping pull-ups, stickers, treat bribes etc would work but nothing did.I didn't really have help from my husband with the potty training either, and its probably one of the hardest things I've had to get him to do ever besides sleeping through the night. That was a nightmare too

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