Poop and Potty-training Issue (May Be TMI)

I would find the "Everyone Poops" book. It has been a lifesaver for us with multiple pooping issues. Also, do you let her watch you go to the bathroom? Maybe if you point out to her that mommy poops in the potty, it will help? And if she is a pooper who poops at the same time, and you can predict it, I would sit her on the potty at that time. I would also discipline for pooping in the floor or putting it in the laundry. She's three, she knows that is not acceptable. But that's just me. Good luck!

don't go back to pull-ups. It really confuses them and if she is at least peeing in the potty, your battle is half won. Look for the signs that she has to go and promptly take her to the toilet and sit with her if needed, read books, play a game. also take her underwear that she has pooped in and dump it in the toilet with her so that she understands where the poop is supposed to go. Good luck, poop is always the hardest-LOL

Poop was hard with both my kids. I'm in the midst of doing it right now with my youngest. She was doing the same as your daughter (hide and poop in her undies) and I just got so fed up. So I put her back in pull-ups (we call them little girl undies) and told her that since she couldn't be a big girl that she would have to go back to being a little girl. As part of this there were other things that went along with it. Little girls:
Don't get to pick out their clothes. They have to wear what their mommies choose.
Have to eat what mommy chooses for breakfast instead of picking their own cereal.
and... there were a few others but I can't remember right now what they were. We did this for a week. Then one day I could tell she was very sad about not picking out her own clothes, so I asked her if she wanted to be a big girl now. We talked for a moment about the fact that big girls go poop in the potty. I also told her that I understood that it would take a few times to get it right, but that when she needed to poop she should tell me so she could run sit on the potty. I also told her that mommy doesn't like cleaning out poopy underpants, and since she was going to be a big girl now that she would have to help me. I also went to the store and let HER pick out things she wanted to earn for pooping in the potty. I tried to keep it in the $1-2 range, but there was a pair of bear slippers that she instantly fell in love with -- so she got to earn one at a time. I enlisted the help of her older brother in getting her excited about earning things (he's 3 years older than her). It's been 2 months since then and while she had a few accidents at the beginning of it she has been consistently pooping in the potty for the last 5 weeks. I hope that these suggestions will be helpful and that you get out of the poop soon! Good luck!

I can't believe how timely your question is for me. I have been potty training my 32-month old for just over two weeks now. He mostly has the peeing down, and has very few accidents anymore, but he has not pooped in the potty once. Well, that's not exactly true. A few days ago I realized he needed more incentive and bought him a couple of Thomas trains and some matchbox cars for him to earn by pooping in the potty. He spent the whole morning wanting to try but then giving up when he sat on the potty because it was too hard (literally...since he hadn't pooped for 3 days...) Finally he did it, I gave him the first train, and then he did some more in his undies. So I took the train away. Bad parenting move? I didn't know what else to do, since I needed him to understand that when you poop, you need to make sure you get it all out. And the whole point here is that we don't go in our underwear!

Anyway, so yeah. He is holding it in until it hurts to go, and then doesn't want to go at all. It's been a few days now since I bought the trains, and he still hasn't earned a single one, even though he talks every day about earning his trains, so I know he gets it. I have let him watch me poop. And I do try to catch him just before he goes, but man, he is quick about it. As soon as I see him crouch down, the poop is out. And it doesn't matter if I asked him 2 minutes earlier if he needed to go, or even if I sat him on the potty.

Don't know if this is relevant, but I took the little potty away before we started potty training, because if he could use that, he would never go in the big potty, and I needed him to be able to use the toilets in public places and other people's houses. I'm wondering if I get the little potty back out, maybe he will poop in there? Because he had done that a few times before we started training. And as much as I hate cleaning that out, it would be better than his underwear. :)

Sorry for not helping, I am just as mystified as you over what to do next. I guess I'll keep checking back for advice myself. :)