Personal Possible TMI Question... Sex Pain

J.,it 's probably feels embaressing to you,but it's just a medical condition like everything else.Do you think men are very happy to go and have their prostate exam? Or talk about erectile disfunction?
Just do it,who cares what they think,for them it's an exciting episode it their boring everyday rutine.The question is-if and how they can help you.This is what's important.
You probably have done some research on this,here is some info.
http://www.isna.org/faq/frequency
to the previous poster-I didn't really get what scent has to do with intersex?

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Well, I would certainly talk to an obgyn, do some research on someone who really knows a lot about this, It may be more common than you think. Some cases are fairly simple and others are more involved., there are a myriad a things that cause this, from simple birth defects to genetic disorders. Just relax and remember, obs see some pretty crazy stuff every single day. It's their job, they chose to tackle these issues!

Secondly, in the meantime, do more oral and less intercourse, it may help with the pain? If you need/want a procedure done, then that is possible too depending on how technical/formed everything is down there.

Lots of helpful information here:
http://www.apa.org/topics/sexuality/intersex.pdf

This may be a "rare" occurance statistically, but I have known three women personally with this type of condition. Two were in my high school class and one was my stepson's girlfriend. I agree with what Dawn said, see a female doctor and insist on getting empathetic help in determining your physical condition and addressing your feelings about this.

There can be medical interventions to make sex more possible and comfortable for you, my high school friend had a procedure done as a teenager.

print what you wrote and hand it to a doctor-they will help you-and it is probably something simple

First - this is a completely reasonable question - don't feel bad asking!

You more than likely have something called vestibulitis. It's just a skin condition that affects the "vestibule" or outer area of your vagina and it can be extremely painful to have intercourse while it's flaring up. Having your period, being in chlorine, using certain detergents or body washes, certain brands of tampons/pads, most lubricants, etc. can cause a skin reaction. If you've stayed away from those things, you might think sex is just fine. If, however, you've done/used some combination of them, you've probably had a reaction and didn't realize it.

Please just go to your gynecologist and explain that you're having pain with intercourse on occasion. The doctor will ask if you're currently having pain and do a brief visual exam to see if your vestibule skin is red. If it is, problem solved. If not, he/she may diagnose you based on symptoms described. The "treatment" is to put a steroid cream on once a day for a week or two to strengthen that skin, and then to always use some sort of barrier (such as zinc oxide) on your skin during intercourse. If it flares up easily, you may also want to avoid colored/scented body washes and lotions (at least for awhile), switch to pads instead of tampons for a couple of cycles, and wear white cotton underwear during your period especially so you're getting better airflow down there and not putting dyes right next to already sensitive skin.

Hope this helps and that you get the treatment you need before it gets worse for you!

Yes. I know what Intersex is. You THINK you are a hermaphrodite. okay. got it. You don't want to state why you THINK you are a hermaphrodite. Okay. got that too.

Nothing is ever perfect. So stop setting yourself up for perfection and deal with what you have.

Talk to an experienced OB/GYN who can deal with hermaphrodite issues. It is OKAY to ask the receptionist these questions - you wouldn't believe what they hear. So this will be nothing new.

You obviously feel comfortable enough with the situation to have sexual relations...talk to a doctor who specializes in hermaphrodite patients...then take the next step after that. You don't know for sure until you are diagnosed...treating it? from what I understand, there are surgeries that are done to help you be one or the other.

GOOD LUCK!

I had endometreosis and it was painful sometimes during but mostly after sex. You can get tested for it in an outpatient test...I highly recommend you get tested so your love life can get back on track!

Ok, my girlfriend had this issue. She is highly allergic to anything w/ scent she uses everything scent and perfume free. Everytime she would have sex she would be in SO much pain. She had him switch to a scent and perfume free soap and even detergent and it worked. There is nothing wrong w/ you and dont ever think there is it happens to women all the time. Try this to see if it works if not then see a female physican. Good luck.