I am wondering when I should expect my son to go through the night without an accident. I know this is a physiological issue where his brain needs to tell him to "hold it" 'til he wakes up or his brain needs to wake him up so he can go, but I'm just trying to get a feel of when this should happen. My son turned four in December and we put him in a pull-up each night. We try to hold out on the liquids after dinner and he pees before bed, but he rarely wakes up w/a dry pull-up and will pee through his pull-up several times in a month. We haven't been to our pediatrician to discuss this with him, but like I said, just trying to get a feel. THANKS!!!
As a response to one of the responses to my request. I DO NOT think my son is "naughty" by still having night time accidents, nor is he ever been punished nor made to feel bad for having a wet pull-up. I have already stated I know this is physiolgical, I was trying to get a feel on when other kids have started making it though the night. Please read the entire question/request before you attempt to pass judgement on an individual.
I think it's more of an issue of his bladder being fully developed to be ABLE to hold it all night.
Many, many kids don't achieve full "nighttime dryness" until 5,6, 7 even 8. And it's a physical development issue so I wouldn't bother with the "limiting of drinks", etc. Peeing before bed is always a good thing :)
With my son, when we had a week of dry mornings, he was good to go.
Good luck!
**EDIT: I never implied, that 'you' think your son is naughty or bad. Or that he is.
I just said that in terms of giving an example. I am simply saying, your son is not bad or naughty. It is just a statement. Not a judgment.
Just as I would say, a bee stings and may be dangerous. I am not judging the bee. I am just saying it may be dangerous because it stings.
I never, said nor implied 'you' for thinking your son is bad or naughty. I know you did not say that.
I was not passing judgment.
At no point did I say "You" called your son naughty or bad or thought he was. I know you did not.
But, I am sorry to have offended you.
I did not mean to do that.
That was not my intention, at all.
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He is fine.
Keep in mind, that day time pottying/dryness is a whole different thing from Nighttime dryness. Night time dryness is a different timeline.
Nighttime/nap time dryness, is something that is NOT fully biologically attained, until even 7 years old.
And this is normal.
It has to do with the body's organ maturity.
it is not the child being "naughty."
My daughter was in nighttime diapers, even at 5 years old.
My son is 4.5 years old, and still wears a diaper for naps and bedtime.
Even if they were potty trained already.
Your son, is not bad.
He is still learning.
Children have accidents. It is childhood.
My daughter, at even 7 years old, had nighttime accidents while sleeping. No biggie.
Even ALL of her Teachers, from Preschool, Kindergarten, and 1st Grade, ALL said, kids these ages have accidents. But the parents won't admit it.
Normal.
Your son is young.
I don't know of any child that age, who was error free with pottying nor do they have complete 100% control over their bladder or bowels, yet.
It is a biological and physiological, attainment.
Each child is different.
Just get a waterproof bed pad to put directly under him, in case of accidents or leaks.
I have 4 of them that I rotate under my children.
I do not limit fluids for my kids at night.
I go by their body maturity.
This is completely individual. There is a percentage of kids who will wet at night at all ages. My daughter gradually had more dry nights over time. She is 9 now, and I'm hoping we're done with the extra laundry, as she had only 2 or 3 wet nights at age 8. But some kids wet through age 12.
I have 6 and 7 y.o. boys and they still have accidents about once a week. We do however wake them up in the middle of the night to go potty. This has seemed to help out a ton and helps with the laundry too! Our doctor told us to stop with the pull-ups at when they were 5 and that they would figure it out. Even though I know it is easier on me to put them in the pull-ups I don't think it is helping them any at all. After about a week of no pull-ups even if I wanted them to wear them they say no they are not a baby and I don't want them to feel like one. We do whatever we can to keep them out of the pull-ups. I have had both of my boys tested, but everything came back good twice.
When did you and his father finally stop wetting the bed? This may play a huge role in this as well.
