Ok, you guys have helped me so much before, I am back for more...My 4 yr old(will be 5 March 18th) is still wetting the bed almost every night. FIrst of all, I want to know if I am panicking way too early, or should she be keeping the bed dry by now...We have cut out bed time sips (which kills me, because she acts like she is so thirsty), we potty seconds before we go to bed. She actually made it an entire week with no accidents, which got her a trip to Target to pick out any toy she wanted. I thought we had conquered it. I really am starting to think she has a tiny bladder. She still lets a few drops out in her panties before going to the potty during the day. I have watched her drink a small cup liquid and literally go to the bathroom 3 times in 45 minutes (and it is a good amount)...this of course would be a physician issue. I guess what I am looking for is, how many other kids are fully trained at this age, and should I be worrying now or give it some time?
Night "training" isn't really training
It's biologic.
night training happens when her body is physically able to wake her up when she needs to go or hold it all night.
I have a 6 yr old that still wets the bed unless we wake him up twice a night to go. and believe me that gets OLD fast.
My oldest was dry starting at around 4.5.
I just have to chime in to, again, say that it's perfectly normal for a 4 yr. old to still be wet at night. My older kids were all at least 8 before they were dry at night. My 9 year old daughter is still wearing pull-ups and there is not a single night that she's dry. I assume my toddler will be the same way. The kids really cannot help it. Sure, there may be some kids who just don't want to get out of bed to go and pee in their pull-up ( we had that issue with my daughter at one point and she got grounded). BUT, during the night, when she sleeps, she cannot wake to go. My kids sleep SO HARD, their bodies just don't hear the "Wake up- you have to pee" signal. They sleep through fire alarms, house alarms, storms, dogs, etc. Your daughter may just be one of those kids who take longer. No worries.
It is perfectly normal for children to be 5 or 6 before they are physically/neurologically ready and able to stay dry at night. My son was just shy of 5 when he started staying dry. The body has to be able to hold urine all night, produce a hormone that aids in nighttime dryness or they wake to urinate. It just takes time. I wouldn't cut out the sips of water that she's asking for(I wouldn't give her a lot but a sip isn't going to change what's going on). When she's ready, she's ready.
Her bladder has not caught up to the growth of the rest of her. It is perfectly normal for a child not to be dry when the wake up until they are 5 or 6, maybe later. We used "Goodnights" until my kids were between 5 and 6. Don't worry!
My son is 3 1/2 and completely potty trained and stays dry at night. My neice just turned 8 and still has accidents at night. I was a bed wetter through 3rd grade. I really think it is an individual issue and it can be hereditary. At her age, I wouldn't worry about it. Just put her in a pull-up at nighttime. When she goes to the Dr. just ask and see if you should be concerned.
My daughter is 8 and she has wet the bed less and less frequently (she was completely trained during the day at 2). We have had several months now of dry and this morning, I'm doing laundry again... When she gets extra tired so she sleeps very soundly, or also I've noticed if she's growing extra (appetite is also high) this still happens. We've learned not to let her drink any sugary drinks before bed (not that these were ever common, but there were times that these were treats at a bday party or something) but have not limited her drinking water before bed.
I would not limit your daughter's fluids, some advise to increase fluids so that the awareness of having to go is higher. From all the reading I've done, I don't think there is anything to do at this age but be patient and they will grow out of this.
I too have a 4 almost 5 yr old who still wets the bed. I also have an older daughter who wet the bed till she was around 14. I took her for all kinds of test and they could never find anything wrong with her. She has told me that these test traumatized her. Anyway, I am trying to be patient with my 4 year old at least for a little while longer in hopes she outgrows it. I know this does not help you solve your problem but I just wanted you to know there are others out there that share your pain.
My son was day trained at 3 1/2 and night trained at 7.
We kept him in pull ups at night till he woke up dry 14 days in a row.
We never shamed him about it.
I just didn't want to deal with a wet bed/sheets/blankets/stuffed animals/pajamas every morning.
He slept too deeply to wake up when he needed to use the bathroom in the night (and he was growing so fast he needed that deep sleep - I wasn't about to wake him up for a midnight bathroom break).
A few kids can manage it earlier, but many are 10 or 12 before they manage dry nights. It's very, very common and nothing to worry about.
Didn't read all of the replies, but I wouldn't try to "train" her at night. My urogynecologist agrees (I'm seeing her for preg-related issues)--her (and my) six-year old still wears an Underjam at night. She said buy 'em and don't fret--just wait. Don't reward or punish for something that can't be controlled. You might want to check out those daytime issues though to rule out infection.
Well, it really doesn't matter how many other kids are trained at this age, does it? Yours isn't.
Many, many kids do not achieve night time dryness until 5,6 or even 7.
Personally, I would let her wear a night time diaper-pant and not cut out the after dinner drinking. It doesn't matter anyway. If she can't, she can't. Might as well make it easy for you and less traumatic for her, right?
Wait until she has several weeks of dry nights in a row then try undies again.
Good luck.
Mine is 5 and not night trained. I wasn't night trained consistently until 7 though.
Lots of kids wet the bed until they are up to 12 years old & I was one of them. My pedi told me there is very little you can do until there young bodies send the signal to their brain to wake(also perhaps their bladders need to grow) She also said not to reward or punish them for something they have no control over. It can make them feel ashamed & frustrated. My son is almost 8, he still wets the bed several times a week & I just have him strip the sheets & put them in a pile. He already feels badly about it so I don't make a big deal of it. We do use pull-ups often but I'm not sure that helps or hinders progress. Kids outgrow it...I don't know any adults who wet the bed..lol!
She is still very young. I wouldn't worry about this for a while. Nighttime dryness is not something you can teach her, she will just do it when she is able.
My son is 7 and still wets the bed. He sleeps very sound and just does not wake up in time. Kegel exercises will help a bunch so have her do that. I wet the bed until I was 12. I was such a sound sleeper I once fell out of my bed and broke my collar bone, then got back into bed all the while I slept through the whole thing. I work up and could not figure out why I was in so much pain! I never punish my son or reword him for wetting or not wetting the bed. He can not help it either way. It is what it is. My mom tried a lot of things with me. At first she tried the rewarding to, but when I wet my bed I felt so disappointed in my self for something I could not help, so she gave up and let me do the laundry so It was just something I took care of. She will outgrow it! Good luck!
My first son, now 7, stopped wetting the bed by 4. But my younger son, who will be 6 in May, still wears pull-up at night and does wet in them almost every night. He even still occasionally wets his pants during the day. I consulted the doctor about it, and even had him tested fir juvinille diabetes, which excessive urination is a symptom, but thankfully was negative. The doctor told me about a couple ways to train him, one of which included waking him up twice in the middle of the night and making him potty, that would let me know what time of the night he needed to potty the most. Unfortunatly I'm such a heavy sleeper I can't get up to help him. There are also other things you can buy such as a waist band that vibrates at the first feel of wetness to wake the child up and lets the child know to go potty. I believe all kids learn at their own pace. My son will be ready when he's ready.
