My Almost 1 Year Old Is Fighting to Go to Bed at Night Whats Happening???

i'm not sure why you're so shocked. there are lots of 'new' things here. he's only had his own room for 3 weeks, and he just got tubes. suddenly instead of sleeping with mommy, he's being left to CIO for half an hour at a time.
instead of letting him scream for a half hour, then getting him up, then putting him back down to scream, why not go in to him after a few minutes but NOT get him up? sit with him, stroke him, murmur quietly to him. but screaming for that long releases all sorts of stress hormones, then getting up and having his routine disrupted, then back down to scream more- well, no wonder 'going to bed' has been branded a scary and unhappy thing for him.
babies go through phases. you can't expect your 1 year old to behave just like he did when he was 3 or 6 or 9 months.
stay calm, quiet, soothing, loving. don't leave him screaming. don't get him up and put him back down. sit with him quietly where he can see you, touch him gently. stay quiet. stay calm.
and what's in his bottle? it's probably past time to stop giving him anything in his bed, or water only if you must. but don't do it now, while everything still in an uproar.
khairete
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Although you state that nothing has changed, that's not true. So much has changed - not with your routine or the crib or the evening bottle, but in your little baby's brain! At certain points they begin to learn and realize new things. They recognize that they can't see mommy or daddy, that they have a voice that loving people respond to, that crying produces results, that playtime is more fun than bedtime, and on and on. This will happen at many points in your baby's young life, and it's a pretty big change.

It will happen with walking - they go from not wanting you to ever EVER put them down to gleefully toddling away from you as you frantically try to catch up. They go from waving their arms waiting for the spoon to insisting on "me do it" even if that means most of the spaghetti ends up in their hair and as far away as the furthest bedroom.

It's normal, and healthy, and surprising sometimes. Just stay consistent and enjoy watching his brain and personality develop and grow!

Nothing has changed??? Mama HE has changed. He's going to continue to grow and change for the next 18 years.
Why is he crying? Who knows, but he's certainly more aware of his surroundings. Maybe he's eating some solid foods that are giving him indigestion at night. Maybe he's simply not tired and needs a later bedtime or one less nap.
As the mom it's up to you to figure it out.
Having an infant is exhausting, good luck.

Could be teething or ears or over tired or not tired enough.
Some kids go through a regular witching hour (lasts way longer than an hour) at roughly the same time every afternoon or night.
It was nice getting into a routine that worked so well!
Unfortunately, just as you get into a pattern that works, they grow into something else and you need a whole new pattern!

I will say that letting him cry for 30 minutes, and then rewarding him by letting him get up for an hour, is just teaching him that his crying works, in his head. If you've repeated this, you've just reinforced that if he cries long and hard enough, you will allow him to delay bedtime.

I would suggest when he kicks up a fit, go in and speaking quietly and lovingly to him, lay him back down, and walk back out of the room. It will take some time now since he has learned that crying means he gets to get up and play. He will kick it up a notch, and then another, and then another. So you will have to repeat as necessary - be prepared, it may take hours, and it may take more than one night of it. But allowing him to get up as a reward for his crying will only tell him that what he's doing is working.

Now, along with that you have to use some common sense. Google sleep patterns in babies his age and figure out how long he needs to sleep at night, accounting for his nap routine. Adjust bedtime accordingly if needed. Adjust his nap times and routines. Babies at this age still need at least one nap during the day. Most likely he's gotten used to not having to, so now he has decided he doesn't need to. If he is smart enough to cry knowing you'll let him get up to play at night, he's more than capable of putting off naps. Babies are smart, give him the credit he's due. He's training you at this point ;) Good luck mama! You're doing right by reaching out for answers. As far as sleep goes, as I said, the internet can tell you all you need to know about what he needs at this age. I referred to it many times over my child's early years.

Have you had him checked to make sure he does not have an ear infection? if you no there is nothing health wise then you just have to let it play its self out. but stop getting him back out and then putting him back to bed. that is just making it worse. he knows now if he screams you will pick him up.

This is so normal! He's discovering the world and doesn't want to stop or miss out on anything.

At that age I rocked them to sleep and then put them down. It was easier for me, and I got to snuggle with them.

Time to break open your bag of tricks and try a few things. Just know that this is completely normal!

You're very lucky he's sleeping through the night. Some don't sleep full time until they are older...lol.

Ours had a set schedule they almost all went by. We let them set their bedtime and everything. We watched to see when they fell asleep and when they woke up.

Ours would wake up on their own around 7:30am then stay up until about 10 then nap for a while then up, afternoon/early evening nap, then they'd fall asleep around 9pm.

By age 12 months they were all down to one afternoon nap due to being in child care. They take one nap in the toddler room, after lunch. Then the kids would fall asleep on the way home for a little bit. When we got home they'd wake up and be happy for most of the evening.

By allowing them to set the pace we were able to see what their schedule was. My point is that if we'd have tried to put them to bed earlier or fought and fought with them to get them down at a different time we'd have all been frayed and frustrated.

I truly thing that kids don't need to go to bed at 7pm. 8pm...maybe but that's only if they get up at 6am or something. They are required to lay down at school and nap/rest until the 2nd half of kindergarten so they need to nap. Putting them down and an unnatural time then expecting them to go for 12-14 hours without food or fluids is unnatural.

They need to eat and drink every few hours. So I spaced their sleep out during the day and they slept better.

Asserting independence is perfectly normal, annoying but normal. Stick to your guns that this is his bedtime and it will all work out.

This is quite normal at this age. Maintain the routine that you follow daily. Make your baby's bed time very fun – give a cuddle, a warm bath, play some soft music, give a kiss and smile as you watch your child's float in his world of dreams.