Last time her period came it lasted 1 1/2 month and was very heavy every single one of those days. By heavy I mean she bleeds through super + tampons within 2-4 hours. This also a big obstacle at school to deal with. We went to the pediatrician and did a blood test, they said she also has mild anemia. Also they said it could be stress and my daughter is going through so much and this and now this on top. After all that they said it is normal. She also had fever during that 6 weeks. It started today heavily and she is freaking out and is so hard to deal with. I need some help please. ( when I said ‘she’ i meant myself , my mom I see only 2 times a week for 1 hour😭) I have no women to help me.
The doctor ir right. It's very normal. Most girls will not experience a consistent cycle for a few years.
It is normal to be irregular in the teen years, in frequency, flow, and duration. My own were inconsistent until I was 20.
That said - it is not at all normal to bleed heavily for 6 weeks straight. She needs to see a gynecologist because something is wrong. Could be fibroids, endometriosis, cysts, a hormonal disorder, clotting issues...she needs specialized care now, not a pediatrician or GP. Blood tests are in order as well. A gyno can rule out some things and refer to other doctors if necessary.
see a gyn. there are birth controll options that can regulate the period and decrease the flow. many also have iron in the period week pills to help with anemia
I was 10 when I stared but don't ever remember any lasting that long att that age. I agree put mattress protectors on her bed. If she's hurting give her something for pain. You said you took her the Dr and they said it was normal. Was it her ped or a gyn if you are concerned take her tho a gyn or for a second opinion.
Don't you remember this from when you were 11?
I started at that age and it was exactly what I went through.
There was no telling when it would come.
Keep a mattress protector on her bed because she'll wake up bloody sometimes.
It will be several years before her period becomes regular and predictable.
She needs to start tracking when and for how long her periods last - a habit of a lifetime at least until menopause - I'm sure there's an app for that - we used old fashioned calendars back in my day.
She's just going to have to carry a tampon in her purse or backpack to she has what she needs with her when ever it starts up.
Irregular periods at age 11 are totally normal. It's far too soon to know what her "normal" is anyway. She may not settle into a real routine for some years yet. And she's not used to any of this, so freaking out after such a bad experience is totally normal. If she can speak to a doctor herself who will help her calm down (which is even more important than you having less to deal with, as difficult as I know tweens are for parents), that would be great.
But I'm concerned, if I understand you correctly, that her period lasted for 1 1/2 months (6 weeks) of heavy bleeding every single day. If "heavy" means something like "going through a pad per hour" then I'd get another opinion. If her pediatrician was the one who said "it's normal" then I'd either get a new one (if this pediatrician has brushed you off before) or I'd have her see a gynecologist. If it were me, I'd have her see a woman - someone who can assure your daughter that she's been through this before and knows how annoying periods can be. I think an exam from a woman doctor is easier for girls this age as well.
It's not just the annoyance of so many days of bleeding - it's a question of anemia from blood loss. A second opinion from a physician you can actually talk to when you (or she) describe symptoms is far superior to an internet forum of amateurs.
Talk with her doctor again, something like the pill could help regulate things. For protection has she considered a cup? I bleed very heavy and tampons were hard for me because they didn't last long enough, I have had much better luck with a cup. The Diva tends to be long and stiff but there are smaller more flexible cups that are better for younger teens out there, possibly something like the Lunette.
Not sure what we can do to help. To me that is not normal/typical - although everyone's cycle is different (as you know and am sure the doctor told you).
My concern would be heavy bleeding - anemia.
Personally - I'd get a second opinion. No way a kid at 11 should be going through that.
I was put on an IUD because of my cycle which was not as bad as that. Not that I recommend that, but that gives you an idea of what is considered acceptable. Keep a log, and get another opinion.
Were any tests done? Anything ruled out?
I'm surprised they haven't suggested some birth control pills to help regulate it. I would definitely ask about that. If she is already comfortable using tampons, I would suggest both a tampon and a maximum strength pad. Go to an actual gynecologist, not a pediatrician for this issue. Pediatricians aren't experts on this.
