Miscarriage Questions - Petaluma,CA

My first miscarriage I had a D&C. I had a second miscarriage 6 months later and did NOT have a D&C. We had moved so it was with a different doctor. I got pregnant a month after the second and that pregnancy was fine. Both miscarriages were at 5 weeks or so. I have sort of regretted the D&C I had the first time because it I felt it was "unnatural". My first miscarriage I found out at the ultrasound and the second miscarriage I started bleeding. Maybe that was the reason for the D&C for the first - to expel the pregnancy because it wasn't expelling itself. Good-luck.

I had to have a D&C after my miscarriage, but I was further along than you. I'm glad you're feeling ok about it; once I looked upon my miscarriage the same way you are I felt fine about it.

Hi C.- I'm so sorry about the end of your pregnancy. It sounds like you are dealing with it really well. I too had a miscarriage at about 10 weeks in between my girls (now 6 & 10). It was really sad but I also looked at it from the perspective that that fetus wasn't viable and nature took it's course. I really didn't want a D & C and was able to avoid one. Some doctors will push this so if you'd prefer not to be prepared in case yours does. It was a very simple and relatively painless process. A few days of cramping and no more blood than a really heavy period. I did not use tampons as I felt emotionally and physically I wanted to let my body take care of it. Be sure to take care of yourself as it is an emotional process no matter how well you deal with it. Don't expect a lot from yourself for a few days and be sure to allow yourself to mourn a little if you need to. I found I was mostly sad about a loss of expectations and plans. It was hard to change my thinking from pregnant person to non-pregnant. I was told to wait three months to get pregnant again and found that I was carrying my second daughter almost immediately after that. Since we only wanted two kids I sometimes think I wouldn't have my sweet baby girl if it wasn't for the loss of that second pregnancy. Take care of yourself and remember to take the time to rest and let yourself feel whatever you need to. Good luck!

I'm sorry! I just wanna give you a big hug. I did'nt go through this but I know people who have. Hang in there.