Men Are Not Babies When They Are Sick, Babies Don't Act That Badly.

So true. Somehow, my husband gets a more potent strain of whatever is going around than the rest of us. It will have the kids feverish and sleepy for a few days witha little motrin and childrens cold and couch medicine. I'll feel like poop, but keep draggin myself out of bed and getting through my day with Dayquil and kleenex. But my sweet lovebird? Nope, his is much worse. He is down for the count. "Theraflu stat! I think I have the chills. My eyes are glassy, does my throat look red? I think my lymphnodes are swollen, I bet I have an infection."

Rub his head and whisper "Poor Little Bunny", and then giggle to yourself: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VbmbMSrsZVQ

OMG - I burst out laughing when I read the question heading... that is so my husband...

If he is sick he HAS to nap, lets us know how awful he is feeling and how he can't do anthing. And if he has to do something it is like we are asking for him to carry the world on his shoulders....

If we are sick at the same time, I get do rest so I don't get better.

The way I deal with it is to ignore it... my daughter and I go out when we can and gernally try to leave him alone in the bedroom while we do our own thing. Maybe this will work for you? Don't make him a primary focus and maybe he will stop trying to be one...

Unfortnatly (and this is a big generalization) I think "we" teach our children that Mommy takes care of everything when they are sick. Little boys see the women taking care of them and grow up to expect that. Little girls see the same and grow up being the care givers. And the cycle repeats...

Not even sure how to address that, unless we can get more Dad's to stay home when their kids are sick...

(Again this is a generalization, I know a number of Dad's that are stay at home and do a great job).

Any way just my .02 cents!

....and THIS is why men don't bear children.....

I can't stop laughing....sorry.......my husband doesn't moan and groan but oh boy is it the end of the world when he is sick.........the constant "I am so sick" " I feel so weak" and then neediness definitely goes up to a whole new level........so he acts like that when has the sniffles yet when I had my c section he was like you really need to be off your feet and resting for so long.........MEN!

my husband must be a rarity. i always hear about what babies men are, but mine isn't. he's a crabby patty all right, and i'm always dying for him to get better and out of my hair, but he's not whiney or dependent.
he's a little like me, actually. he just wants to be left the hell alone until he feels better.
so i accommodate him. make sure he's got soup, water, oj, tissues, whatever he needs, and then keep as far away as possible.
i don't blame you one bit for being annoyed at all the moaning and wimping. nor have i any good advice. just uploading mental patience and cups of tea to you!
khairete
S.

My husband is the complete opposite about staying home. Stay home??? If only he would. Or go to sick call and get some meds. But no. He goes to work, works overtime, goes to PT and acts like nothing has changed there. But at home? He's a living, freaking nightmare. He moans, groans, complains, refuses to get his own medicine, his own drink or anything else. I actually have to spoon feed cough syrup and hand him the pills and a drink. He completely falls apart. As a result it lasts even longer because he doesn't take care of himself. If anyone else in the house got sick with a virus it would last a few days. With him it lasts longer and, according to him, is worse than everyone else's. UNTIL he goes back to work and then he's Superman. Drives me crazy.

I also, and this is unrelated, can't seem to convince him that tylenol or sudafed and anitbiotic aren't the same thing. He takes medicine for the symptoms and expects it to "heal" him. He'll actually say, "I've taken medicine and it's not getting better."

my hubby wraps himself in a blanket and moans and groans.....my older son has started to do the same thing......well he tried, but i put the brakes on that and told my hubby to get off it and start acting like a human being that he is not dying.

Sorry, I'm kinda like Suz T, on this one. I don't tolerate it. I am a nurse, and it's not that I'm mean, but for goodness sake, they aren't dying! And I was the same way when I worked int he hospital. Sure, people don't want to get out of bed after they had surgery. But if you lay in bed you develop complications, so I never took NO as an answer. Granted my 22 year old son is out of the house now, but he too didn't act like that when he was home.

I'm wondering, back to the husbands though, if it goes back to how they were raised? My husband was the 3rd child out of 4 within 5 years. My mother in law didn't have time to cater to every little sniffle.

One kinda funny story about husbands and illness. Several years ago my husband had his knee scoped. He did fabulous. But the first night he developed some bleeding through the bandage. I went to the closet and grabbed a sanitary pad and was going to tape it on and he freaked! He didn't want that taped on his knee! Now mind you, this man doesn't have a problem buying them for me, but. . . . Anyway I tried to explain that is pretty much what wound care pads are but nope! I headed to the 24 hour discount store to buy proper wound care pads!

I feel for you, my husband is super dramatic about any illness he thinks he may have. I tell him to get the thermometer, no fever, you're not sick. Also 'if you're that sick you better not have any beer, since it will dehydrate you' sometimes shuts him up. After a month or 2 ago I had a fever of over 102 and he went into the bedroom to nap because he was tired... he no longer gets ANY sympathy from me even if he is sick.

OMG, Kate! That video is hysterical, and sooooo true!!!

Sorry C.! Your post made me giggle out loud, and make me realize I'm not the only one with those feelings about sick hubbies.

Hang in there. It is a man thing.

Bawhahahah "Poor little bunny."

Ha ha ha. I know, right?

They get sick. We have to hear about it.

I get sick & I'm invisible. :)

Yes, it's a man thing. I believe very few men on this planet don't act like
this. They are a rarity.

Take a deep breath, leave the room.
Don't bite. It only exacerbates the problem.
Wear a ponytail holder around your wrist to remember this.
Again, turn around & leave the room, leave the room, leave the room. :)

I have a husband who thinks he is superman, thus never sick or hurt. he pushes himself too hard to be better too quickly. I don't know that there is a happy medium sadly.

I swear its like you are describing my husband!! I totally feel for you girl lol!!

Oh my...this makes me laugh. Girl, I am in the same boat as you. My husband does the same thing and it gets under my skin and completely annoys the crud out of me. I'd love to be able to help him with things or ask how he's feeling but I don't dare do that or I get every dramatic explanation of every symptom and details that I really don't care to know. I don't get it either and I dread when he's sick. I wish I could give you advice on how to get past it but even writing this to you, I feel myself tensing up.

All I can say is to take deep breaths....many deep breaths. I finally commented to him this last time he was sick about how annoying he is in a half joking way. It got his attention but it wasn't enough to make him really think about what he does. I just chalk it up to being one of those men things that us super women ;) will never understand.

Hang in there! You are not alone!!!