I have had some medical problems lately that have made my sex drive go down I have a boyfriend who is very patient in the beginning he used to tell me all the time that he loves me but here lately he does not he just says dont you know I tell him it is nice to here from time to time though what do I do.
We did communicate I let him know how I felt he is really starting to improve he tells me he loves me now we cuddle and we smile and joke around alot now I really appreciate the advice great job everyone
First, how old is your boyfriend?? and have you ever thought that he might be cheating? its harsh to say but it is something to really think about or has it already passed threw your head?? Well for your sake I hope not.. If he really loves you he should be willing to say I love you back, and understand that you are going threw a hard time right now. MEN.. sometimes there not even worth the stress.. goodluck..
One thing that I learned with relationships is that everyone is going to have advice. No one will know if the advice is actually good or not. Who is to say what is right and what is wrong? No one is perfect.
Anyway, do what you feel in your heart is right. If you have a feeling that something is wrong. Something IS most likely wrong. You should communicate with your boyfriend and search within yourself to find out what the problem is and then find a solution. If he is not willing to help you by communicating, then maybe he is not the one for you.
Good Luck
Isn't it frustrating!!! I've been there and most of my problem was from birth control pills. Either too high in a certain hormone or on it for too long. And up till just recently I was so paranoid about getting pregnant that I just couldn't get in the mood or enjoy sex at all!! But I got my tubes done a few weeks back so that has taken a lot off my mind in that department. But I'm also tired all the time and hubby doesn't understand that I'm up 2 hr before him during the week, take care of my 6 yr old, chase a 10 month old all over the house, keep up with the house and go to bed when he does. He gets way more sleep than I do a week and probably doesn't work half as hard as I do!!! You didn's say what your condition was that is keeping you from getting frisky but all I can tell you is comunication, comunication, comunication with your man!! When you feel sad about it, let him know, tell him you love him all the time, get him to open up to you about how he feels about the whole thing. Try to find other ways of spending that time together-back rubs, snuggle during a movie. For some reason guys think we can be turned on with the flick of a switch like they are- try to get him to fool around more, go to an Adult store (if you don't have any, I know of a website you can order from) together and get some message lotion or something silly to use together. But you two just need to be open and honest with eachother with your feelings, that is the most important!
Good luck
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