It's a Girl!!! - Clinton,MO

First, talk to your doctor about your family history. Second, don't allow yourself to be superstitious. You and your doctor are going to do the very best you can to ensure that this little girl is healthy. Third, don't let yourself listen to superstitious talk from anyone else.

A new little person, boy or girl, is always very interesting, and it will take you some time to discover this one's personality. Otherwise, you raise boys and girls roughly the same, only with different wardrobes.

And congratulations! I'm very happy for you!

Congrats!!!!!! So happy for you and your family. I love my 2 little girls...

No superstitions, it's nonsense. Don't even say things like "Girls don't last in my family". It's BS.

Enjoy your pregnancy!

Congrats! I agree with Cheryl. Stop worrying, its bad for the baby, J. get consumed with being overjoyed.
Also I was a tomboy and could only imagine having boys and the day I delivered my baby who everyone swore was a boy and they announced "its a girl" laughter echoed the halls for the next 20 minutes. You will adapt J. like you did to a boy. Personality isn't determined by J. gender. My daughter at 1 year would wake up and request tap shoes, a dress, and hair ties, my brothers daughter at a year with the girliest mom would refuse to wear dresses. Emmy was and is the girliest when it comes to dressing up and loves barbies...BUT she was and is also the kid who loves rolling in the mud and collecting bugs in said puffy dress. I wouldn't have it any other way. You wont know what to expect girl or boy until they're here and their personality begins to show. Also imagine how sweet it will be to see your son and husband become so sweet and gentle protective and loving to a little girl. I'm sure that will be amazing to see=)

I just laughed at your comment "no clue what to do with a little girl". I said that exact same thing when I was pregnant with my daughter. My hubby SAID he wanted a boy, the son ALWAYS wanted a brother, and I said "it doesn't matter to me but they want a boy and I don't know what to do w/ a girl". My son was 15 and I was so used to being with him, his friends, and teammates AND there were few girls in the family (as far as kids go). Then I found out we were having a girl....you figure it out....some is just being a parent, some they teach you, but you will figure it out. The one thing I did was I told family that I would tell them the sex once we found out as long as IF it was a girl they didn't go all crazy pink on me. I don't dislike pink but I hate ALL pink and my favorite colors are blue and purple (in that order). Besides, a little girl can wear any color. Then, we had trouble finding non-pink items because that color was "in" that year. Ironically, my girl looked great in dark colors (even more than in pastels). We broughter her home in a white w/ blue flowers outfit.

As for the health side of things, I didn't look at your age to determine "your generation" but just know that advances in medicine have come a long way just in recent years. Do all that you can to stay healthy. Talk to your doctor and express your health history especially as it pertains to females but don't stress on it. You and she will be fine.

Does your doctor know this family history? If not, tell your doctor and stop stressing. Stressing hurts not helps. I can understand being kinda scared; anyone would be concerned. Take one day at a time and follow doctor's orders. Take care of yourself; therefore taking care of your baby!

Charliesmom:

First thing I can tell you other than CONGRATULATIONS!! is to stop worrying. really. it will become a self-fulfilling prophesy if you continue to dwell on the past. Tell your doctor your family history. LET THEM do the worrying. You concentrate on enjoying the pregnancy and staying healthy!!

As to what to do with a girl!! Honey - YOU ARE A GIRL!!! LOL!! She is your precious child - you will find a ton of things to do with her!! I was scared of a girl too - I'm a tom boy - love to mess with cars and dirt...when my daughter was born - we figured each other out. you will too!

Congratulations! Like everyone else has said, you'll figure it out. I didn't think I'd know what to do boy when I found out #2 was a boy. I discovered I LOVED having a little boy and prayed for another one when I got pregnant a third time. I got my wish. I now have a girl and two boys and couldn't be happier.

And yes, stop worrying! Since you have a family history of SIDS, let the pediatrician know and make sure you're vigilant about laying the baby on her back, keeping the house cool (68 degrees), not letting anyone smoke in the house or around her, not having any crib bumpers, pillows, stuffed animals in the crib etc...

Best wishes!

Just because family died with SIDS doesn't mean your little girl will. They aren't even sure what causes SIDS and a new report I read recently said it's maybe nothing to do with sleeping on the back, etc. but something in the child. I'll have to look it up again. Whatever it is, enjoy your little girl and don't treat her like you're afraid all the time. It will come to you naturally what to do with her. I had 2 boys and then a little girl and she was different in so many ways but still a baby. They're fun to dress up and play with and I even curled her hair back in the day when bobbie pins were in. Her brothers loved her and so it will be fun. Just remember you are you and not your cousin. My husband had a cousin who lost a baby to SIDS and we never did. You can't live in fear.