I Feel So Guilty!!!!!

I think you're doing the right thing. Please take care of yourself first, then when you feel up to it, help out your daughter. She probably doesn't want to understand you because she's very young, seriously stressed out and needs major help right now. But be reassured that you're doing the right thing by going to your Dr and taking care of yourself first. Once you get everything worked out, then you can offer help. She is an adult and will get things figured out, but I know this must be h*** o* you. Hang in there!

I think you are very responsible to make this difficult decision and do what's right for your own mental health. I know that I would probably be the same with feeling guilty but as a person that has dealt with anxiety an depression in the past myself I think you are making the right decision. Hopefully it will be temporary and you and he will get to spend alot of time together. It's great that you are doing what you can to help your daughter but every relationship needs certain boundaries. She has to respect where you are right now too. I'm sure that it's very difficult for her since she's struggling. I feel for both of you. I know it will work out. I hope you feel better really soon. I know it can be really difficult.

V.,

iam also a grandmother and understand what you are going thru, you should not feel guilty about not being able to take care of you gandson right now and your daughter should understanding the situation, and that you are trying your best to get better to be there for her, let her know that if you dont get better than you wont be there for her or your grandchild (your health is very important)whom you love very much. We only can do the best we can. Sometimes my daughter needs me to help her with both her children but when I dont feel well I let her know and she understands completly, also I think the other grandparents should be involved even if the dad is not, they may want to help out also.

Hi V.,

I agree with everyone else. Take care of YOU 1st. That is the most important thing to do. Seems like your daughter is testing you but not doing the ADULT thing by taking your advice and getting assistance for herself and the baby. I understand why you feel guilty but I believe that its a tactic your child is using so she doesn't have to step up to her responsibilities. Keep strong and follow your intuition by saying you need to take care of yourself first.

When you fly on a plane and the flight attendants say, if an accident should happen oxygen mask will drop SOOOO please administer the oxygen 1st to yourself before helping others!!!!! Right now I believe you must put yourself 1st.

Take care!!!! We are all praying for you!

You are allowing your daughter to make you feel guilty; when there is no reason for it. You've given her sound advice and need to focus on yourself at this time. So, hang in there. You'll find the help you need through constant prayer and opening your heart to the Lord. He'll guide you through all of this torment. No one can *make* you feel anything unless you let them do it to you. You can choose to ignore it and choose your battles. You'll be there for her and your grandson when they really need you.

Good luck and God Bless

It's time for you to take care of yourself. If you don't nobody else will. Your daughter created that child and now she has made her bed and she has to lay in it as they used to say. It's tough love but she has to learn how to stand on her own two feet. If you were not there she would find a way to take care of things on her own. So now it is time for her to do that. Step back, you are the grandmother NOT the mother. You have raised your children. Stop feeling like you have to do everything for everybody else. What do they do for you in return? Nothing.

Take time out to get you back together. Take time to do the things that you love like your crafts and other hobbies. Learn how to say "NO"; become selfish and don't feel guilty you will like the feeling of freedom.

Good luck on getting your life back together.

V.-
I get the feeling that you've spent years emptying yourself out to take care of your family. Now you have to fill yourself back up. You've already tried to do this in many different ways, by living in nature, surrounding yourself with the unconditional love of animals, and creating beautiful things through your sewing and crafting. Let me guess...things in your house have gotten cluttered, too, right? This is where feng shui comes into play. Stop feeling like you have to "save" everything. In order to give yourself mental clarity, you need to give yourself the gift of de-cluttering. I'm glad that you are seeking professional mental help, too. It's time to let your daughter stand on her own two feet, and deal with the situation she created.

Imagine what you would like your reality to be. Create a Dream Board with pictures of that new reality, and put it in a visible place. This will also help you to stay focused on YOUR needs, not everyone else's whims. Good luck!

B. Biehl
www.TheIntuitiveInterior.com

Anti-Depressants can have very bad side effects, like hallucinations and weakness. I have seen people do crazy stuff because they thought they where seeing things or that events took place, that never actually did. You also hear on the news of many people that where taking this meds and ended hurting someone they loved. I don't mean to say that all meds are bad, you just have to find the one that suits you. I'm very sorry that you're having a difficult time right now, I know guilt is one of the worse things a person can feel, it can really bring you down. We all have our dark moments. Just remember that you have to forgive yourself first, there's always circumstances beyond our control or just bad decisions that we make in life because we where not at a good position in life at that time, and sometimes the outcomes can seem endless, it can feel like we keep having to pay for one bad move and it puts a big weigh on our lives. It is never too late to make a fresh start. Is there any other way that you can help your daughter, financially or looking for another person that would be willing to watch her child?