How Much $$ to Give for a Bar Mitzvah Gift

Updated on June 12, 2010
M.S. asks from Lincolnshire, IL
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Hello! We are going to a Bar Mitzvah this weekend, both myself and my husband. The mother is a good friend of mine. What is the going rate to give these days? We live in the Northwest suburbs of Chicago ( Buffalo Grove). Thanks!

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answers from Los Angeles on

$100 is a pretty appropriate gift, especially if it's someone you are close to. A lot of people spend the same amount on a bar mitzvah gift that they would spend on a wedding gift.
Have fun!


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answers from Boston on

Hi $100 seems a little high to me, but not outrageous. I just wanted to tell you (in case you're not jewish) that gifts in multiples of $18 are especially nice. In hebrew, letters also serve as numbers (like Roman numerals) and the number 18 corresponds with the word "life." So giving 18+18+18+18 is a nice gift. Have fun.



answers from Las Vegas on

hi there
we usually give $25 per in our case, that would have meant 50...

BUT most recently, we up the anty to $100 as the friend of ours was closer to us.



answers from San Diego on

We are going this weekend and giving $100, but it is all up to how much you want and can afford.

I think anything less than $50, unless you truly can't afford it is a bit low.

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