Funeral Night/ Date Night/ Announcing Pregnancy-uhhhg

Good Lord. woman.. your all over the board and I do not know how you are not just spilling the beans right now!! I am so excited for you!

Here is my suggestion.. Drop by the memorial for just a moment to give your sympathy.. Send a card expressing your condolences and share a nice memory of your friend.

Then you and your husband go to a special date night and for goodness sakes tell him!!!!

You can tell the family in the morning. Your marriage is #1 priority..

Wow. What a crazy combination of things.

Personally, I would go to the memorial service for a short period of time. having had multiple deaths in my immediate family in the last several years, it is actually very comforting to have "unexpected" people show-up to express condolences. I know that sounds strange, but when my nephew died and my colleagues (who didn't know my in-laws at all) drove an hour to be at the wake I was so touched. The same when my FIL passed away and they again drove to be there, despite an even further distance and a rainy night.

I would do something as a family tomorrow. Maybe leave little clues around the house when the kids get home from school and daddy gets home from work! Make the sharing of happy news something the family can celebrate and entirely separate from the loss of a young mother.

CONGRATULATIONS!

Just do it when it feels right.

I wouldn't put so many arbitrary rules in place about when and how you have to tell him. Just tell him when it feels right. There's virtually no wrong time to tell him except during a funeral service or wake.

I would do it this afternoon, or after the service when you go on your little date. The tragedy is very sad, but no reason to not have some good news shared for your family. But I'm not big into special announcements. For baby number 3, I texted him a pic of the pregnancy test. It was a total shock but a huge fun surprise at the same time.