Daycare Worker Yelling at Children

I would go directly, but kindly, to the director. He/she needs to know. It's possible that the worker may be having personal issues,etc that are causing her to behave this way, and temporarily, I could perhaps make allowances for that myself. That would be something you and the director would have to decide for yourselves. But, if it was a regular on-going problem, she needs to be told that this is not an appropriate way to handle ANY job. If she doesn't like dealing with 3 yr olds, then she needs to find another line of work.

I would definitely address it with the teacher first. If her response is anything but satisfactory AND you don't see immediate improvement then go straight to the director and discuss your concerns. It does not require screaming to controll preschoolers. It may be that you have a good teacher with very poor classroom management skills and that can be a lack of training. I hope that is the case and not that you just have a screamer. yuck.

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I would address the situation with the facility director. Aside from your child picking up the yelling habit from the teacher, it is likely that the children will eventually begin to tune out the teacher altogether. If you have seen the Supernanny show on ABC, the nanny teaches the parents to get down to the childs' level, look them in the eye and lower the tone of their voices when addressing the childs' inappropriate behavior. It seems to work on the show and I am sure it would have a more positive effect on the children in a daycare setting, as well.

I just read this email from S. .I am having a similar kind of problem with my son . He is 2 and a half yrs old and just started attending daycare 1 week ago . I enrolled him so that he would have fun with the other kids and be able to learn something alongwith discipline , as he is the only child i have i also enrolled him so that he could interact with other kids of his age. But ever since he has started going , i am shocked at how his behaviour is becoming at home , he has been coming home and throwing enormous tantrums by crying , screaming and yelling for no reason at all . I do not work anywhere , i just enrolled him so that he could enjoy himself and learn something but the total opposite is happening . I think he's learning to go wild after seeing all the kids over there and his teacher's also pretty much yelling all day long , but she doesnt have a choice , 2 yr olds are hard to control . My husband and i are very concerned . M sons personality is becoming even more cranky and ill mannered . ARE DAYCARES GOOD OR BAD FOR 2 YR OLDS ???? Some experienced help would be highly appreciated .

I have taken care of many children in my home and I don't use yelling to get their attention. You have to get down on the child's level sometimes. Look them in the eyes to get them to understand but yelling is not the way. A child will express the environment in which they are accustomed to. I would approach the teacher as well as another person in the daycare. Have a sit down and ask them to explain the yelling. If they can not give you a reason that satisfies you. Then I would yank my child out of the school. Just some friendly advice. Hope it helps.

I had trouble responding to your message so I hope you already received many answers telling you that this is NOT normal. The school should have a written discipline policy (and I can guarantee there is nothing written about yelling in there) and they should follow it. Experienced workers have so many tools for getting good behavior that they never need to resort to yelling. I think this person is in the wrong job or needs training. I have a strong-willed child so I educated myself on how to handle her. I currently use 1-2-3 Majic, timeout and limited choices.

I think you answered it yourself. I can't believe a lead teacher or any teacher would yell at their children! That really upsets me. I am an ex-teacher and I have never had to raise my voice. You should report her immediately to her supervisor and if you don't see any change very soon, then I would take my child out promptly.