Daycare Drama...keep It to Myself?

Talk to the director, as mentioned before. She needs to know that you have concerns about this woman and it's her job to say something to the lady. If she's a good director, she will welcome the meeting and will be eager to discuss ANY issue you're having with ANY instructor there. Don't wait, call and tell her you'd like to have a meeting. Us working moms have enough on our plate to have a lengthy conversation about someone elses life in the morning when we're trying to get to work on time!!!

Hello S.,

It is very simple, really. It will a bit tough, but you gotta do it.

I would make an appointment with her first (the baby room worker) and just express how you feel about when you are dropping off your baby. First of all that takes up alot of your time and you only have 5 or 10 minutes to give her daily instructions and need to go. I would just be direct, but firm (not mean) and just tell her that you would love to be able to chat, but you just don't have the time.

If it continues, then you need to speak with her supervisor. This is totally inappropriate behavior and simply not acceptable subject matter to be discussing w/parents of the daycare that is being run. You are not her psychiatrist or her counselor/pastor and you really don't have the "background" to offer any help w/her depression or whatever else she is going through. (Again, play sympathetic, but be firm) Please follow the chain of command, speak w/her first, then her supervisor and the school director if things are not being handled. Don't wait long in between to see an improvement, do it quickly.

The Director of the school needs to be notified about this. Each teacher needs to represent themselves in a positive manner whether their day is going their way or not. Each teacher represents that school and that Director. That is why you put your child in their care and you don't want to hear tragic stories and life-altering moments each time you drop off your child.

Your need to know for your own peace of mind that your child is promised a fun and positive day!

Good Luck!

G. B.

to me it's a cut and dry "red flag" It's inappropriate in especially that kink of atmosphere.
S.

You can give it one more try...if it doesn't work...you've only lost a day or two. Try this just to avoid the possiblity of her being offended and making things more akward. When you first get to the room, call her name as if you have something to tell her...and hopefully, she will come to you with her mouth shut to hear what you have to say-hopefully! If not hold your hand up in a nice way and say "I'm sorry,___,but I am really in a hurry." Tell her something like " I wanted to let you know that mornings are just so crazy for me and I don't always have much time to stay and chit-chat. If you don't mind I need to tell you about,_____, and I have to go. I just want to make sure you understand what I need before I leave." Be sure you create a situation so you are in the doorway or your body language shows you are in a hurry and not staying. If it doesn't work in a day or two...tell the director.

From a former day care worker, everyone has problems...most are just able to leave them at home. She is probably just lonely because she's with babies all the time. She doesn't really get any feedback from them. If she's taking care of your child, then it shouldn't be a problem...just an annoyance.

If it does concern you, then I would talk to the director.

Yeah, I agree that this poor lady just needs a friend. I wouldn't worry a whole lot about it, especially if you like her. I always tell my child's teachers special instructions, however, I do tell the receptionist at the front desk the instructions also. Sometimes they have a little more down time in the mornings and can actually write down whatever you say. Also, my daughter's teacher from last year is a great help. Sometimes I'll poke my head in her door and just ask her to keep an eye on certain things for me. She's usually happy to help out. So if you have other teachers that you know at the school, use them as resources. They are all there for one purpose and they all usually come in contact with all of the children anyway.

I think I would talk to the director and I would say what you wrote here. I would praise her for the care she give the kids and just tell them how uncomfortable some of the extra conversation makes you. You may find that other parents feel the same way and maybe they can just talk to her without effecting her job. She may not even realize how uncomfortable she makes others feel. Good luck, I hope you are able to find a resolution to your problem.

try writing your important info (caugh, etc) on a note on your son's backpack so you know she didn't miss anything. i do this sometimes anyway. Just because a person isn't talking a lot doesn't mean they are listening. sounds like the poor lady needs a friend, good luck!!

As a former preschool director, I would say, talk to the director about it. They need to know this type of information and it is their responsibility to make sure that this type of thing does not happen in their facility. (The woman probably feels so comfortable with you and might not have other support outside of work to talk with her issues about- BUT, it is still inappropriate!) The director should then deal with the situation and NOT let the teacher know who had the concern. Some people are just unaware of what is inappropriate and need it to be pointed out to them. Hopefully the situation will improve!! Keep the communication open with the director to let him/her know the progress- good or bad!! Good luck! A.