Bed Wetting - Sparks, NV

welcome to my world. I am a foster mom and usually only take kids under the age of 5. Almost all of them have this issue!!! Stress has to be released somewhere and when kids are under the age of 5 they tend to regress. Toiletry seems to be the #1 area to regress when they have already mastered it. You just need to be understanding and patient. Put her in pull-ups when necessary and just love her. The last thing that you want to do is to make an issue of it. While she is struggling just keep talking to her about her feelings and what you think she could be stressed about.

My first thought as soon as you said she had started wetting the bed when she had not before was that your daughter is feeling a lot of stress. And then you confirmed that with telling about all the difficult changes your daughter has recently faced. My nephew went through a similar phase when my sister had to separate from her husband and move home. It’s hard for little kids to face this stuff and somehow it manifests itself in this way.

Unfortunately, we ALL have to deal with issues that are tough, like changes to schedule...but, the loss of life is something so tough even for adults to grip.

Your little one is dealing with so many emotions, and it's being expressed as bed wetting. Fear, sadness, frustration...you name it whatever you have been feeling over the loss of life and the impending surgery, she is bound to feel it too and be SO much more confused because no one has taught her how to deal with and express those feelings.

You said it started in September, and then you confirmed the reasons why...I think you really answered your own questions. Your little girl needs guidance on how to deal with all the NEW things that have come up in her life. If it might help look into grief counseling for her about loss, and also her surgery. Hiding things from her will only create anxiety and stress, and the bed wetting won't go away on it's own. She is going to need your help and guidance on this one. And, the sooner the better!!!

I think my main piece of advice is to talk to her...create an open dialogue about feelings and what she thinks about things. It'll get better, just be there for her...hugs and love are the best remedies when you know someone is there for you.

Best of luck!

She is undergoing a LOT of stress & anxiety.... remember, a young child cannot cope with all of these things...they cannot carry the whole world on their shoulders. It is an enormous burden for them.

Whenever children has stress or trauma... they regress. Bed wetting every night, is a regression. This is a "signal" that something is definitely wrong.

It seems you are very worried about her, and rightly so.
But, please don't just ignore it or let it go on, and on, and on, and on, and on.... hoping it will just go away or she will "outgrow it."

There comes a point, when, a child needs EXTRA help in coping/adjustment and direction, when they have problems. So, if Parental help does "not" help them... then you should seek out alternative help... appropriate child counseling etc.

When a child is "scared/worried"... they are not just "scared" as an adult would be... because their level of maturity just does not understand fully... and everything is super magnified and ENORMOUSLY "more" and their imagination gets them angst ridden and they don't have the rationality of an adult.

When my daughter started preschool when she was about 4 years old... this was also the time I had my 2nd baby... and on some occasions she started having pee-accidents again in school and at home, and in bed. It was just so much for her to adjust to... school and her new baby brother, and her just developing all kinds of emotions. Anyway, so we talked with her all the time, we spoke to her Teacher (and yes, they are quite keen on understanding adjustment issues for the children), we never pressured her or "scolded" her or embarrassed her about it... we spent extra time with her, we did all kinds of things to help her feel closure and in balance again. And, it helped, her pee accidents went away and did not last long.

Kids DO get stress and anxiety and problems emotionally... it will either impact them for a long time... or they will adjust... their "resilience" ability varies according to the child. No matter what... they have their own time-line in how they "heal" or get back into normalcy. So, the Parent must "let them" be and support them no matter how long it takes them. Kids are tender...

Maybe ask your Pediatrician about positive ways you can "help" her... sometimes role playing helps. I would also speak to her Teacher about it....so they have the head's up. Tell them what you have posted here. When it comes to our children, we can never be too "shy" or reticent in helping our kids... and speaking to the Teacher if need be.

Take care, I'm sure your girl will be fine.... but observe her and gauge her, monitor her and do what is best. Everything in her life is a big deal now. What a full plate she has.

All the best,
Susan

M.,

I heard a story that the Mangosteen Juice has helped in Bedwetting. Since she is also going to have surgery, taking the juice will alleviate the pain in a natural way.

Please research the following websites.
www.mangosteenmd.com
www.marlenebalingit.com

Good luck and let me know if you would like to try it.

M. B