Help.....How Do I Stop the Accidents!!!

She is probobly adjusting to the move and anxious. I would ask her if she wants to start wearing diapers again. If she says yes, I bet it won't last long and the problem will resolve itself quickly. See if you can get her to express her feelings verbally, she may be afraid of starting a new preschool or who knows what. If you talk to her about whatever it is the need to rebel by peeing her pants will probobly go away.

I used to keep a "pepe goodies" jar in the bathroom & everytime my son would use the bathroom, w/out having an accident, he'd get to pick something out of the jar. Id keep it full of cheep toys & candy. He loved it & rarley ever had accidents after we started using the jar.

Hi there -

Your daughter is most likely having accidents because of the change in her little world. A change in routine can be pretty dramatic for a child, even though they may not exhibit very many signs. My son was three and potty-trained when we first put him in pre-school. For about a week, he reverted back to wetting his pants until he got accustomed to the new routine at the school. I would just suggest patience and understanding with your daughter. She'll come back around. Blessings to you.

I think all these ideas are great and very supportive. We are a military family and have a 5, 3 and 20 month old and have gone through the same thing. You just need to be supportive, understanding and patient. It's hard to explian to a child about a move and that this is a new home. We have been here for 8 months and my 3-yr old still asks when we are going back to our other house. If it's not a medical issue, then it's psychological. You can try the reward jar and see how it works, but if the issue is really the move and insecurity, this will only be a small thing and may not work. We talk a lot in our home about the move and get the kids' insights and feelings. They feel scared a lot. They insist going to bed with lights on and one in the hallway. We have told them this is a new adventure and have had them make their room their own - decorating, paint, action figures, etc. Still, although most days are great, we still have bad days. I never realized how hard it would be - new house, new neighborhood, new school, new friends and leaving so much behind. And, as some one else mentioned, if you are exhibiting stress and negativity, this will affect her as well. Best to relax about it and have fun. She knows how to potty train, but stress has allowed her to regress and she needs your love, patience and support. Good luck.

Well, i definetly feel your pain. i too have a 4 year old and she can not be out of pull ups at night. i tried a few weeks ago for one whole week and i would wake her up every 2 hours and she would already have had an accident. i took her to the urologist and he said not to worry about it, she would just outgrow it and if not by the age of 6 then we will take the next step. as far as the day, my daughter was perfectly potty trained since 18 months old during the day and then after we went through wonderful hurrican wilma last year she was having at least 5 accidents a day which she really could not help but i was rough on her about it thinking she could, anyways after a few months..duh it finally dawned on me that it was her stress from the hurricane that was bottled up so once we started talking about her feelings about the hurricane and how frightened she was within a few weeks, if not sooner...no more acidents during the day...what im getting at, try talking to her about the move, i can almost guarantee the change and stress of it is the problem...good luck and if you have any luck with the night time thing...PLEASE PLEASE let me know

I would say there's a few possibilities, maybe more than one.

A)She's stressed out by the move, and it may take some time.

B)She's in a growth spurt, and her bladder hasn't caught up.

C)If she's like my 4yo, she doesn't 'bother' at home.

If it were me, I'd actually be a little less persistent. Set a time for every two hours (that should be enough), and make her go then. Or, ask her to go before you begin any new activity- a movie, a meal, going out.

Good luck. Some days are still hard here, too.

Hi I have a three year old and she used to have accidents when she was mad at me, she still goes in middle of night, but one thing that does help is right befor you go to bed take her into the bathroom wake her up when youi get there so she doesnt get totally awake and put her on the toilet and she will go then carry her straight to bed. also for the accidents it is proboly due to the stress of moving I bet after she gets in the routine of school again she will stop.

I bet the change in her routine and the stress of the move have her regressing, whether its intentional or not. I would stay positve and not punitve with her and so some of the tricks you used when training her(rewards, postive reinforement). Also, get her in her old rountine such as the same wake up time, lunchtime and naptime etc. to see if that helps her. If nothing works talk to your pediatrian as it can be a sign of diabetes....

Have you talked to her pediatrician? She may have a bladder infection or something else wrong with her urinary tract.

I think some of this may a control issue as well. (not bladder control!) Maybe she is upset about the move or some other issue. The incentive jar is a good idea; I also think you could explain to her that it's her responsibility to get to the bathroom on time, and that she will have to start changing her own panties when she has an accident. Don't reprimand her or criticize her when she has an accident. Gently remind her that it's up to her to change her panties, and then walk away and let her handle it.(of course, she will need to have access to her panties and a change of shorts or whatever) If she stops getting a reaction from you each time she pees she may decide that it's not worth the bother...good luck!

hi my name is C. and i have two kids i have a boy and a girl when we potty trained her she mainly wore a dress in the house with her underwear off and i would constantly ask her if she had to go potty every half hour or hour you also have to make it into a routine every day or she will go out of wack also at night i would cut her off of drinking her bottle an hour before bed time well hope every thing work let me know sincerely C.

Since she was not having any problems before, it seems that it is due to the anxiety of the move. Try to create a routine for her and talk to her about the move and how she feels about it, all the new fun things that come with the move. Also be sure you feel comfortable with the move because children pick up on things like that right away.

You guys can go out "exploring" together, decorate her new room or draw pictures for her walls, whatever you think will work with your daughter's personality to help her get comfortable with her new environment and make it a good/fun change to what she was used to.

About the do itself, I would focus more on positive reinforcement. Also make it like a game to her and make a big deal with lots of attention when she is successful. Maybe a phone call to Grandma & Grandpa or favorite Aunt, etc if she sleeps through the night dry. What worked well with my twins who gave me a hard time getting potty trained was they each painted their own change bank and then everytime they were successful they got a penny. They were very excited to hear the change and loved to shake the bank to hear all that noise. They don't have the concept of money down yet (although they did offer to fix my car with the money in their banks!!)but were more interested in the noise (boys!) Again most important is something that fits with her personality, that she will look forward to.

Good luck!
A.

I do not really have a lot of advice for you and hopefully you have gotten responses that are a lot more helpful than I am sure this one will be.

I do know that moving can be very stressful and stressful situations can cause problems with potty training or in this case cause a regression. I would probably end up losing my temper and sending her to her room for a time out when she peed her pants. When my daughter was about 3 1/2 (she is now 4 1/2) she started having accidents around the house. I thought that these were just accidents that she was getting to involved in what she was doing and was just waiting to long to go until one day I watched her stop what she was doing spread her legs and pee on the floor. I sent her to her room and told her that that was not okay that we only pee in the potty and she has not had any intentional "accidents" since. I do however know that a lot of "experts" will tell you not to punish is anyway so like I said I am not a whole lot of help there.

As far as the nightime wetting, When my daughter was potty training and we started letting her go to bed in panties I bought some of the disposable diaper changing pads and put those in between her sheets and her mattress. The pads have kind of a plastic back on them so they pretty much stay put on the mattress and they will absorb all of the urine. You still have to change the sheets but they will protect the matress.

I also have a nightlite in my bathroom so that my daughter never has to walk into a totally dark bathroom.

Hopefully you will get some really good useful information and good luck with the situation.

M. N.

I have seen a lot of children regress when they experience any kind of stress. The recent move is a stress for your daughter and the only two things she can control at her age is peeing and eating. These are the two things that you can not make her do. She may be wetting her pants so that she gets some attention from you. Just moving myself with a 9 mo old, I know how stressful and hectic it was for my husband and I and I know my daughter did not get the normal attention she was used to.
Try just reminding her to go, take her to the potty. Do not get upset if she has an accident, as frustrating as it may be. I like the idea about having her change her pants herself. Try to spend a few minutes with her uninterrupted everyday and see if the accidents decrease. It may be worth the 15 minutes of getting nothing done if the accidents decrease and you and your daughter will enjoy the time!
Good Luck
M.

This very well could be in responce to the move. many kids have regression issues in potty training after a move, a loss, a new sibling, etc ... just be patient and be kind (don't punish it will make the control issue worse). Try making it a game, set a timer for every 30 minutes and race to the bathroom to see who can pee-pee first, you or her. its fun for the kid, reminds them to go and helps break those accident cycles.

I would use the reward system.

The move is what has caused the regression, kids that young don't understand change like what we do and therefore she shows her so called acting out in the form of accidents... at least it is only accidents and not any other behavioral issue. Advise... Start a sticker chart... everytime she makes it to the toilet sticker goes on the chart, at thend of a week maybe you reward her with a container of bubbles something small, end of the next week a small box of chalk for drawing on sidewalk, next week, a cool coloring book of her choice

Or if you just say at the end of the month you count up all the stickers and if she X then she can choose something like an item under $5-10 or you go see a movie. By the end of the month hopefully you wont have to rely on it any more! I have started one for small chores for my daughter almost 4 and she is SO willing to help that i don't have to ask twice..

Good luck!

Although you could and probably should have her medically checked out, what is probably happening is she has regressed due to your recent move. Regression is very common with kids who go through stressors like a move, birth of a sibling, etc. So emcourage her, recognize she is probably struggling with this regression too since once they are trained they hate to soil themselves. Be patient, it will go away soon. If not seek more medical advice.

You need to ask every hour and put her on the potty every 2 hrs. I do home daycare and the ones who dont/wont say wont have accidents if you ask them or just take them till they feel comfortable. But it has to be consistant and the same time - same as with meal times. No sippy cups all day - drinks with meals and when needed but not in her mouth constantly. I also use M&M's 1 for #1 and 2 for #2 :). But it is on her time ig she feels your emotions it may delay it. But make a HUGE deal when she does go!

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AT NIGHT PICK HER UP, TAKE HER TO BATHROOM, PULL DOWN PANTIES, PUT HER ON POTTIE, WHISPER HER NAME AND TELL HER TO GO PEE PEE -POTTIE (WHICHEVER YOU MAY CALL IT). WIPE HER, FLUSH, TAKE HER TO BED. EVENTUALLY SHE'LL START DOING IT ON HER OWN. SHE IS UNCOMFORTABLE WITH CHANGE, HELP HER FEEL COMFORTABLE BY GOING THE EXTRA STEP TO LET HER KNOW YOU ARE THERE FOR HER NO MATTER THE SITUATION