Baby Movement W/ 2Nd Baby

I can say that I felt the same way. As for the baby moving, I didn't feel this baby really begin to move until around 20 weeks. So around the 18 week mark I was super paranoid that something had happened to the baby. I am now at 32 weeks and wishing he wasn't moving so much. I think what you are experiencing is completely normal and I don't think it will get any better with subsequent pregnancies but the joy of being pregnant will hopefully overpower the paranoia. Thanks

Yes you are making too much out of it. Every baby is just different. My first 2 were girls and hardly moved at all. I barely started feeling them in the 2nd trimester and I still wasn't very sure? When I was pregnant with the first I didn't understand what people meant about feeling a "fluttery" kind of feel. I hardly felt anything with her. The 3rd was a boy and he moved ALL the time, and pretty early (4 months). I don't think many people feel anything before then? I have to admit it was way fun to feel him more, since he was our last.

Just enjoy and best wishes with your pregnancy!

I felt this same way w/ my first (and only baby so far) I was always trying to push paranoid thoughts out of my head. Like, that something bad was going to happen, or that he wasn't moving, or that I wasn't eating healthy enough or drinking enough water, etc. To get past them I would just calm down, and have "alone" time in my mind, and just relax and think to myself, "Deep down inside do I really feel it's okay but I'm just worrying on the surface? Do I feel normal inside" (in my heart)

I think deep down inside we know if things are going to work out or not. I remember my cross country coach saying something like, you have to dig deep inside you and have faith and believe in whatever it is that you believe in, and that will give you strength. That was her politically correct way of saying prayer can help you focus and do hard things.

PS I was incredibly irrational when I was pregno -it's embarrassing now to think of it...

When I was pregnant wih my second child, I always compared it to my first. Well I felt my first baby move at this week (ex. 17 weeks). Oh is somthing wrong I didn't feel the baby move at my 17th week but maybe at 18 weeks later. I believe it is a little natural. You have to realize that like every child, every pregnancy will be different. Each child developes different and moves different and acts different even in the womb. If you have one child that comes early you will not necessarily have all your kids delivery early. Just try and take deep breaths and relax. Enjoy being pregnant. You will notice different things with your second pregnany that you didn't with your first.

I felt that way about my son (my second). He didn't move much at all. I was diagnosed with diabetes between my first and second and had to do non-stress tests (there's a miss named test if ever there was one!). He would just lay still and not move. I tried all the tricks to get him to move around, but the truth is, he just didn't want to. He is now a very active and healthy 2 year old, but I remember those days of worrying about everything under the sun. That is not helpful at all. We are now pregnant with our third, also 16 weeks pregnant, and I worry about the same things. Why don't I feel baby move yet all the time? Truth is that he/she will move around when he/she decides to. But trust your gut and make sure you ask all the questions you have of your provider.

No real advice, just wanted to let you know you are not alone. I was so sick with my 2nd daughter that I didn't really notice movement much. I am preggo with #3 now and man did I feel like a newby with everything. At around 16 weeks I started worrying about the movement of the baby. Once I felt the baby I was fine and the pregnancy has gone quickly and well. I think that it is normal for that "paranoia" in early pregnancy, no matter what # you are on. :o)

Take a deep breath, relax and before you know it the baby will be moving so much that you will be tell he/she to be still :0).

Have a great Christmas.

-M.

Mother of Mia 3 (Dec 25) Maddie 17 months (July 11) and Due January 12 :o)

I think you are a normal mom. I am now pregnant with my third and I still worry that everything will be all right. I don't feel my baby move a lot in the day time, but at night when I lay down to sleep he moves a ton. Every pregnancy is different so try not to get too paranoid. A lot of stress isn't good for you or the baby. If you just heard the heartbeat that is a good sign that your baby is ok. Not everyone feels the baby move all the time. It is normal to worry, but try to relax and enjoy the pregnancy. Congrats on the baby and good luck.

I don't think your'e paranoid...I think it's totally normal. I did the same thing with my 2nd through 5th. I thought there is no way that I could have more than one healthy baby but you know what I was blessed with five. I think the first time around you are so excited and then there after your'e motherly instincts start taking over and your'e mind goes wild. Either way, healthy baby or not you will love it just the same. It's dificult to deal with the unknown but have faith. Congratulations, think positive.

So I was just going to write what the other moms have already, that this is normal, I experienced it too. The only thing I want to add is that I didn't have a doula with my first and I hired one for my second, and it made a HUGE difference. Such a big difference, that after that, I became a birth doula (and I still hired one when I had my third)! Doulas are awesome!

If you are feeling nervous something may be wrong. Make sure you talk to your care provider and express your concerns. If nothing is wrong with the baby your hormones may just be playing games with you. I know for me I was depressed while I was pregnant, (not after) and that it got worse with each pregnancy.

I just had my second a month ago... & I was the same way!! I thought I worried a lot with my first... NOTHING compared to my second!!! I didn't feel him move AT ALL until 23 weeks!!! & after that I counted the movements religiously because I always thought he wasn't moving enough. I even went into triage one because he hadn't moved in a whole day!!! I think its completely normal to worry, especially because it human nature to compare, so anything that is different from your first time will seem odd!! It will all be fine, though- just don't worry about being "silly"... meaning- if you are worried about something- just go get it checked- even if you may be over reacting- leads to a lot less stress!!!

You aren't irrational, I did this with my first, with the second one I was too busy chasing a two year old I think to worry as much, hee hee.
Try to keep yourself busy and try not to worry. It is normal. Hormones do crazy things to your brain. Just eat up all the time with your 2 year old you can. I found with the second pregnancy it went by so fast! Hang in there, after you get through that first or second trimester it will be easier. I freaked with my second as he was so big he didn't move as much as my daughter did! :) Hugs and congrats!
Try pregnancyweekly.com or a group online, they can follow your pregnancy with you and tell you what to be expecting for that phase. Who knows you may be able to chat with other moms online expecting at the same time. Baby Center has one too.
On the pregancy weekly with my first, I met a few moms, we are still in touch, had our babies within days of each other and got really close, even with a lot of distance between us. Now those babies are seven, but they lent me a lot of support.
Good luck and God Bless.

You are not irrational, you just know too much! My mother used to grin when I would have similar pregnancy worries. She pointed out that in the "old days" women did not know as much about childbirth as we do now. Today we drown ourselves with books and knowledge, and then we freak out about the smallest thing because "this seems similar to that horrible and rare syndrome Mentioned on page 342..." Don't worry, the way you are feeling is normal, but it sounds like everything is okay. Don't stress yourself out with worry unless you have a reason to. COngratulations!

My second moved much more than my first-- I think all babies in utero, like all babies when they are born, are different. Some are mellow, some are wild (my son, my second child, has been much more wild since he was born, too). SInce you just heard the heartbeat and were at the doctor's, and everything seemed fine, I wouldn't worry unless the baby isn't moving at all for long periods. Try drinking some juice and laying down--that always got my kids moving. It is okay to worry. It just means you are a caring mom.