At What Age Do Kids Become Night Potty Trained?

Updated on February 28, 2012
T.W. asks from Winter Park, FL
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My son is only 3 1/2, he's fully potty trained during the day but not at night. If I put him in underwear, he may go a night or two without wetting only to start having "accidents" again at night. So, I'm still regularly putting him in a pull-up or diaper. Several moms in his preschool class tell me their son's no longer need to wear a diaper at night. My son will ask for water in the evening because he's quite active, and I'm not comfortable in withholding liquids just so he'll make it through the night. I'm wondering at what age do they start waking up to pee rather than just "letting it go" in their sleep? I'm not really in a rush to get him night trained, just wondering. Thanks.

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T.S.

answers from Washington DC on

Totally depends on the kid. My son was never much of a night pee-er even before he was potty trained (never woke up with a soaked diaper, mostly seemed to pee first thing in the morning while he was waking up). Once I was able to have him use the potty before bed, he was pretty much "night trained" as well. (He was 2). On the other hand, a good friend of mine growing up had to sleep in a diaper (they didn't have UnderJams and stuff back then) until we were 6 or 7.

It'll happen when it happens. Keep him in the pull up until you notice he's waking up dry every night. Then ditch it.

HTH
T.

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L._.

answers from San Diego on

All 4 of my girls started waking up dry around age 2 and we didn't even start potty training until this had been going on for some time. I thought it's normal for most kids to wake up dry on their own. That used to be at the top of the list of signs of readiness.

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C.T.

answers from Santa Fe on

My son stopped with having night accidents near the end of Kindergarten. I heard that was normal and most friends I had said their son did about the same.

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H.D.

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Every kid is different. My first one was around 5 when he finally stopped wetting the bed and my second one, she is currently 5 and still has a rare accident here and there.

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D.F.

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The majority of boys still wet the bed well into the school age years. It's very common. Don't make a big deal of it. Both my brothers wet the bed one until 12 the other stopped around 9. My 4 children were all different one child stopped at 2 yrs, another not until she was 4, my son 2 1/2 and my youngest a girl stopped at 20 months (I know REALLY early). Sometimes when a child gets a chill during the night they wet, also my one child use to insist she got up at night to go potty however every day her bed was wet. I personally think she was dreaming about going. Talk to your Dr. I bet they will also tell you not to worry. If he is still wetting after kdg then the Dr. might want to check him out.

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B.C.

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It varies.
My son was day trained at 3.5 but he was 7.5 before he could stay dry through the night.
Some of his friends were 11 or 12 before they could manage it.
There's nothing you can do to age his bladder any faster.
To get an idea how it runs in your family you might ask your Mom or you MIL how old you and your husband were when you guys stopped wetting the bed.
I just didn't want to deal with a wet bed all the time so he stayed in pullups at night till he stayed dry till morning for 2 weeks in a row.

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C.P.

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Some children are as old as 13. It depends on the muscle maturity of the child. My children were always able to stay dry at night at the same time that they were able to stay dry in the day. Holding liquids back will not help. Keep using the pull-ups with him at night and when his body is ready it will happen.

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G.B.

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Please use the search option at the top of the page. This question is asked about 2-3 times per day.

They don't get potty trained at night.

Kids do not wake up and go during the night.

Limiting drinks has NO influence on whether he continues to make urine once he is asleep or not. Being dehydrated actually makes him have more accidents.

Keep your life simple, keep him in pull ups so you don't have to add 2-3 loads of laundry per day to your already busy day plus the extra cost of all the water, detergent, gas, electric, fabric softener, dryer sheets, etc...it costs more than pull ups by about $5-$10, maybe you think you can save some money by buying cheaper stuff but seriously, taking time out of your day is not fun.

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A.H.

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My son turned 4 in December and just this month I can finally say he is completely potty-trained. Each child just has to get the hang of it in their own time. It sounds like your son is right on track!
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B.B.

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I think night training is more about individual physiology than anything else. My son night trained first, several months before he turned three. He poop trained right at 3 and then a few weeks later perfected pee. In a year, he maybe had 3 accidents at night, two of which happened in a row. I told him to try not sleeping on his stomach and that worked. Keep putting pullups on him as long as he needs and don't withhold water. It is normal at his age to not be able to hold it at night.

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C.O.

answers from Washington DC on

it varies with each person.

Seriously - being night trained is a biological thing versus the day time potty training.

Just let him wear a pull up and let him figure it out. The more you pressure him - the worse it will be.

My sister wet the bed until she was 12. She was a VERY heavy sleeper. My girlfriend's son is going to be 11 this year (May) and he's STILL wetting the bed. However, if brother who is 6 - is totally dry. Can go the night through without an issue.

ETA: I can say that my daughter was harder to potty train than my boys. She was 4 when she finally got the day time down. If I remember correctly, she was 6 or 7 when she stopped wetting the bed at night.

Greg was 2.5 - for both. he was ready. Nicky was 3 for day and 4 for night. As you can see - each child is different.

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C.W.

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Both my kids were around age 4. But I have a friend who has a 6 yo that still has accidents at night. It can take until age 7 before they are nightime trained. If he will allow it, continue to put the pullup one and don't make a big deal out of it. When he is dry for 2 weeks non stop, then try without it. My son refused to put one on at age 4 and would pull it off at night if we tried to put it on. He would then change himself if he had an accident.

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S.W.

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Anywhere from age 2 to 12. There are sites that show the percentages for different ages. My daughter wet the bed, less and less frequently, until she was 8. Witholding liquids will not help. Their bodies just need more time to mature in this area. It tends to be genetic, if you or his father wet the bed, he is more likely to.

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S.B.

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It's different with every kid. My son was completely dry at night when he turned 4, and from 3 1/2 on it was very few accidents. My daughter turned three in October and she stopped wetting the bed last month. I have NEVER withheld liquids. In fact both of my kids go to bed with a thermos of water next to their beds. Like their father, they feel dehydrated at night and need it. We have several friends who and 6 and 7 who still wear pull ups. It's one of those things that happens different for each kid.

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T.M.

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Every child is really different. My kids were between 18 months and 2 years and 4 months. (i have 4 kids) My girlfriend has a son that is in middle school and still occasionally wets the bed. Maybe it is hereditary? I dont know. But i dont think there is an age....

L.M.

answers from Dover on

Just like with potty training, every kid is different. Some pt early but may take longer with nighttimes, others take long and get both at once, and others get both right away.

My son was day trained early, struggled with night time (which actually runs in my mom's family w/ the boys so he did much better than my uncles) and my girl was early or late but about average w/ day and was night trained almost immediately. She did have a few accidents but it was always when she had drank too much too late and/or was totally exhausted so she slept too soundly. We would notice that she would get really restless in the middle of the night if she needed to go to the bathroom (and just wasn't completely waking) so we would take her to the bathroom and she would be fine and go right back to sleep.

Things that worked for us was that while they still wore a diaper or pullup at night, we started be cautious how much they had to drink just before bed, had them always try to go to the bathroom again a bit later, if we were still up for a while we would take them again (even though they were asleep), and when they 1st woke in the morning we would take them again. Immediately upon waking, regular underwear went back on...my nephew is the same age (5) and may wake dry but w/ his pull-up on he knows it's ok if he has an accident so he doesn't go to the bathroom right away and will the nighttime pull up on will end up wetting in it. You will start seeing that they are dry in the morning...then you can stop w/ the pull-ups.

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K.D.

answers from Dallas on

As soon as my daughter was totally potty trained during the day, the night clicked for her also. It was a month before her 3rd birthday.

J.✰.

answers from San Antonio on

My 3 1/2 yr old still wears pull ups at night too. His friend, 9 months older than him - so 4 yrsold - has been one of those boys who sleeps all night and stays dry (he doesn't wake up to pee middle of the night). Sorry I don't have an answer for ya, as mine's not night-trained yet either.

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K.B.

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Every kid is different...I know a lot of moms whose kids are 4 right now (the same age as my daughter) who still have them in pull-ups at night because otherwise they will wet the bed. My cousin's daughter was in some kind of pull-up/diaper at night until she was 6 (turns out she didn't empty her bladder completely when she peed, even though she felt she had) and for some kids it may be older than that.

My daughter did not potty-train until she was 3 years 8 months but then not only was she day-time trained in 3 days (for pee - poop took a while longer) but she has never had accidents overnight either. I still put a pull-up on her at night for the first month or so but it was always dry in the morning (and usually her diapers had been dry in the morning too, even prior to potty-training). Seems she has freakishly good bladder control for a 4 year old, because she can drink a bunch of water right before bed, get up in the morning, drink a couple cups of juice, and still have it be an hour before she actually has to go pee. She drinks plenty of fluids but can often still go several hours, or all day sometimes, without having to pee. My friend's daughter, on the other hand, can't go 30 minutes without having to pee - her mom is the same way and she thinks it may be because they have really small bladders, so their capacity is less.

I think it's a mistake to refer to it as "night-time training" because it's not necessarily something you can "train" a child in. There is a hormone in our bodies that naturally causes us to concentrate our urine more at night so we are not having to get up all the time to pee, but young kids are not making much of this hormone so they can't always really help that fact that they need to pee during the night and can't control it. It just has to happen on its own. Every child is different as far as when this hormone starts to kick in, which is why some kids still need some kind of pull-up or absorbent underwear until up to age 8.

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J.V.

answers from Chicago on

Both of my kids night trained at 21 months. They day trained at 18 and 19 months.

I used cloth diapers. I really believe cloth diapers taught them to wake before they had to feel all that awful wetness at night. That or it is biological, which would make sense since they both literally started waking dry at the exact same age.

M.J.

answers from Milwaukee on

Just to reiterate that every child is different - my son at 7 and my DD at 2. :)

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R.Y.

answers from New York on

It varies a lot depending on the kid. Some kids are fine as soon as they are potty trained at 2 or 3 some still have nighttime accidents until they are much older (the oldest I knew personally was 12).

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M.G.

answers from Chicago on

As others have said, it's different with every kid. One of my twins started waking up at night crying because he was wetting his diaper. From the time we starting truly potty training, he was done both day and night within two weeks. He was almost three. His brother still soaks the pull-up and he's almost 3.5.

K.M.

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It will come when he is ready - my son was fully trained in a week, but he did not train at all until a little over 4 years old.

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