26 Weeks Pregnant and My Husband Refuses to Cut the Grass

That's a pretty jerk way to react. Eventually, the city (or HOA, if you're in one) will cite you house for it being too long. Let it grow. When he finds out losing money is involved, he'll stop being such a wuss about it.

Let it grow. I totally understand not being able to afford having someone do it for you. When you get a citation from the city, he will get off his butt and do it.

I had a boss whose husband was perfectly fine letting all of the neighbors see HER mowing the lawn while she was 8-9 mos. pregnant. It spoke volumes about him. Call a lawn service. I'll bet it only happens once.

If you pay someone to do it or do it yourself, he will look at it as it was "taken care of" and that is that. He will learn that he can not do stuff and you will get it taken care of. Trust me, I live with this every day.

Let it grow. Don't mention it one more time. He sounds JUST like my husband. It has to be HIS idea or he isn't doing it. And if I ask, I am a nag.

Seriously - please trust me and my experience - don't pay someone else to do it or do it yourself. Even if you "cut his funds" to pay for it, it is still clear that when he doesn't do his chores, you find a way to get them done.

I know it is hard to just sit back and watch it grow, but trust me - it will be worth it! Hopefully he gets fined!

Good luck!

I am with the folks that say don't do it yourself, and don't hire someone else to do it (you can't afford it anyway) - then he's just getting off the hook. There is no reason why any guy should not be expected to mow the lawn, especially with a pregnant wife! Mowing the lawn is not my hubby's favorite thing to do either, but I never have to remind him to do it, because he would never allow it to get out of control. If he gets some kind of complaint, it's his own damn fault, not yours! This is why boys should start being expected to help mow the yard when they are 12 or 13!

I hope he doesn't think he doesn't have to change diapers or give bottles either!

Gee, what a ... jerk?
Sorry.
That is really childish of him

Is this your first child?
How will he be when the baby comes home?
Have you talked to him about how HE has to help with you and baby too?
I hope he knows.

Does he shave his face everyday or just lets his face grow into a beard?

Chores are chores.
You do it even if you don't want to.

NO you should NOT be doing it.

Or, can you have a relative come over and help you or a friend?
Another guy/friend you know???
If another "Man" does it, for "You"... then gee, won't that be embarrassing for your Husband?
He will look like a selfish egocentric jerk... making his WIFE... do it and take care of it and having another "Man" do it.

Try getting someone else's HUSBAND to help you?
I would.
Then if my Husband bitched about it, I would tell him "You said I nag you about the mowing. So I stopped and took care of it myself. I am pregnant and cannot do it myself. So I got help."

Gee, if he can't even mow the SMALL lawn, what else does he not do, at home for his family and Wife and kid(s)?
Ahem.

Go on strike.

My first husband acted like that. I mowed the lawn up until giving birth. I mowed the following Summer and would have to get up at 6 am and quick do it before he left for work so someone could listen for the baby to wake up. I just did it and grumbled to myself but when he eventually wanted to "see other people" I was like go for it and never looked back. Living with a lazy, selfish, juvenile person wears on you and eventually you will get fed up. Tell your husband my story. He may think twice before letting you do all the work.

Sorry, but your husband is extremely inconsiderate to say the least. No way would I cut the lawn while pregnant - why take a chance? I'm sure you have enough to do inside the house since I'm assuming he isn't much help there either? I wouldn't do or say anything about this. He should be embarassed, not you. The overgrown lawn is a reflection of HIM (probably the only thing that's a reflection of the guy - lol). I would encourage the neighbors to call the city and complain - hee, hee. I'd also invite his family over - there has to be someone who will say something, but I doubt he'll care. Just hope that after the baby comes he won't feel the same about pitching in and changing diapers - good luck with that!

I would just let it grow...forget it...you have other things to worry about...I bet a neighbor will say something to your lazy husband one day when he is outside...and then it will suddenly be taken care of!!! OR the city enforcement people will come around and give him a warning...that he has so many days to mow it before he gets a hefty bill for the city mowing it and then he will get up and get out there.
Don't make this into a major battle...as someone else said...the grass reflects on HIM not you!!!

If it were me:

You know his position on it. I wouldn't say anything. Let him deal with it. He'll understand that soon it's either that HE has to do it or he can let it go and hack away at it with a weed whacker first, or he can call someone to do it.

I would take it off your list of things to worry about. IF anyone says anything (neighbors), you can say "You know, I thought the same thing. Maybe you could mention it to my husband if you see him. He seems to forget when I tell him."

Do you have any family or good friends close by? I bet if your hubby hears they are coming over saturday to mow the lawn he'll have it done tonight!

Wow, I'm really amazed at all the damsels in distress on this page! While I understand that people who live in Texas have legitimate concerns about heatstroke, you live in Illinois like me, and I see no reason why you couldn't mow the lawn yourself. Just do it in the morning before it gets hot. And make sure you talk it over with your doctor first. Don't listen to people telling you good or bad stories about other people's pregnancies & what happened to them. Every pregnancy is different, and to make this decision right, you need to listen to your own doctor. Your husband sounds like a bit of a jerk, and his attitude over this matter sounds like a bad sign of things to come. The "to do list" after you have a baby gets completely out of hand, and if he's not willing to do his share and compromise with you now, that's not good. But, like another poster suggested, he could be going through his own insecurities and panic, and this is how it's manifesting.

In any case, I don't see why mowing the lawn is automatically the man's job. I'd be insulted if my husband expected me to do something simply because it's "women's work". You should both sit down and figure out which tasks you want and which can be divvied up fairly, and expect to adjust that list to accommodate your pregnancy & postpartum period. I wish you the best, & hope it works out for you!

EDIT: I just saw your "So What Happened" post, & your situation is making much more sense now. Yes, if your husband is working THAT much AND it's outside, you really shouldn't expect him to mow the lawn. And the fact that you have a toddler to watch, coupled with your previous high risk pregnancy really doesn't leave room for YOU to do it either. I think your situation definitely warrants hiring someone. Good luck to you!

I know you're embarrassed, but guess what? The lawn reflects on HIM, not you. Let it grow into the amazon; let your husbands male neighbor friends ask him if he's broken ;)

BTW, when I was super pregnant with #3, I can't tell you how many people stopped their cars or stopped while walking their dogs because I was outside raking leaves (granted, I was doing hard labor on purpose trying to induce labor, but THAT didn't work, all I got was a sore back!!)... but loads of people stopped to ask where my husband was, or offered to do it themselves ;)

When I was pregnant, my OB said it was fine to cut the grass as long as I felt okay doing it. If I were you I'd get up early and do it before it gets hot. Don't get me wrong, I still think he should man up and do it, but if he won't and you want it done this may be your only option!

I was mowing our lawn (in the middle of the summer in South Florida) in my 9th month of pregnancy. It was a GREAT workout! The only physical limitation you really have with pregnancy is that you should not be lifting heavy weights or do any high impact workouts. Otherwise any kind of low impact workout is totally acceptable and lawn mowing is a good low impact work out! Sucks that your husband is lazy about it, but there is no reason why you shouldn't be able to do it.

Is this the only duty he is derelict on, or is this indicative of a larger problem? I have my lawn mowed every two weeks, and it is fine in between. If the neighbors mow theirs on the 13th day, mine might look a little straggley in comparison (depends on how much rain we've gotten.) So, my biggest suggestion may be to Let It Go. Men don't nest like women do. If the interior of the house is clean and safe, let the lawn go.

Or.... Tuna Noodle Casserole. When I was little and we were poor, we had that so much, because it was cheap. If I ever make it for my family, it will be a dark day in our pantry. Tell him you're going to cut some corners with your grocery shopping so you can afford a lawn service and stop nagging him about it. Won't be too long before he's out their chewing the grass down to an acceptable length. :-)

I would just let this go. Easier said than done, I realize that. However, it's just a lawn. Your husband perhaps is being stubborn because he feels you nag at him about it.
Quit nagging him.
You're pregnant. The neighbors know who isn't mowing the lawn.
Let your husband figure out how to get it done. The longer is grows, the harder it will be or the more it will cost to get a kid to come do it.
Let the man handle the lawn. (Or not).
Put it out of your mind.

Best wishes.

So annoying. My husband did the exact same thing two years ago when I was really pregnant. Although he didn't mow the grass for about 2 months. Granted we were in Alaska and not in a "nice subdivision" and no one really could see our house. But I could see it. And I felt like we were living in the crazy house. He never did cut it till he was good and ready. It didn't really have anything to do with me - he just was busy and hates cutting grass. It pissed me off though. I have no advice for you, but I wanted to say I've been there.

Can you rent a few goats and tie them in your yard till they've grazed the grass down?
You should be able to find a teenager who'd mow it for a reasonable price.
A small lawn won't take long and shouldn't cost much.

That's just ridiculous. He needs to man up.
Is he too busy? Does he work long hours?
Or does he just not want to do it out of laziness?
Good Grief- you said it's a small yard, right?
I wouldn't put up with it.

Personally- my husband is bad about not taking the trash out (country- so we burn it) but as Rachel D said everyone who knows us knows it's his problem and the pile outside our house doesn't reflect on me our our kids.

Wow I am surprised at all these super women on here who cut grass prego!! Go girls!! I however am not in your ranks, I am like you girlfriend, NO WAY, would I haul my pregnant butt out and cut our grass!! I have nothing to prove, I can't do it all and I don't feel the need to attempt to, you are not lazy, you are totally and completely reasonable;) I do enjoy watering our tree and plants, and that's all baby and I only do that after the 100 degree + blistering heat of the day has passed....but I digress, I am pregnant too and I wouldn't even consider it. So I totally agree with the mamas who said to let it go. He doesn't need to be reminded, (according to his man logic), he wants to procrastinate so just let him. If anyone says anything about it, just tell them, oh that's my husband's thing, talk to him with the most blank expression possible. If your home owner's association tacks something on the door, just pass it to him nonchalantly and get on with life :D If they fine you, maybe that will cause him to realize that paying a lawn guy is cheaper and less irritating than getting fined. Anyway, pass the buck, look at the sky when you walk out to your car and be at peace. It will be ok, it's just grass ;) Have a beautiful rest of your pregnancy!

I found someone a high school kid to cut our grass for $20 a week on craigs list. I say hire a kid for one week...don't say anything to your husband about it serve raman noodles for dinner that night. When he does bring it up....mention that to afford the kid to cut your grass that you are serving rameen a few times a week. Tell him you hope that you won't have to do this all summer. Then hopefully he will decide to cut the grass. I think it is increadibly lazy of him. Yes I have had this problem at our house and yes we have a kid cutting our grass now because I am not going to fight about it and I am not taking care of both the inside and the outside of the house. I draw the line there. Good luck.

I'm sorry your husband won't cut the lawn for you! I remember when I was a kid, my older brother would (around 14 years old) would make a few extra dollars mowing the neighbors lawn. If you have a kid in your neighborhood, maybe you could pay him a little bit to mow your lawn once a week? It would be cheaper than hiring a gardner.

If you just had this argument with your husband, I'd wait 2 days and do nothing. If he doesn't mow it, I'd find a neighbor kid 12-14 years old that wants to earn a couple of extra bucks. Explain to the kid you would like to pay for a one time mow, and you are not yet sure, due to finances and your husband's interest level, if you are able to continue to hire him/her to do it regularly. Find some kind of household expense (treat food, newspaper, entertainment etc) to cut back on if you need to if this is super important to you. Don't wait around for your husband. The lawn is obviously more important to you. If he gets mad, I'd just say you decided to take care of it yourself (by finding a kid) instead of nagging him, because it IS something that is important to you, and stresses you out when you need it the least. Tell him what you paid the kid and ask him if you can talk about continuing to use the kid once a week just so it's one less thing you both need to worry about. Good luck. BTW, I am a SAHM and I HATE mowing the lawn, and all the outside jobs, but DH works 60+ hours/week, so I'm starting to force myself to do more of it just to keep the peace.

I had the same problem once. I solved it by crying. It's cheating but it worked. When you sob like that, they'll do anything to make it stop... even mow the lawn.

Or cancel cable to hire someone to mow the lawn every week. When your husband plops down in front of the TV and finds it missing tell him you reallocated the funds to the lawn. If he wants the cable back, mow the lawn and fire the help.

I kid you not I mowed our yard in Arkansas in May about 3 days before my son finally decided he was done. LOL I was so tired of being pregnant at 3 days over my due date I told my husband I was going to mow the yard whether he liked it or not. He said as long as I felt ok he would let me but the minute I looked sick or hurting he was taking over.
You are 26 weeks pregnant and as long as your Dr has oked it you are perfectly able to mow your yard yourself. Let the neighbors see you and talk about what a lazy husband you have and I wouldn't be surprised if that is the last time you have to mow the yard.

Well, honestly I think it's terrible that your husband won't cut the grass when you're pregnant and that he actually flies off the handle when you ask him to. Probably not a good sign of things to come from him.

But anyway, I'd go ahead and cut the grass yourself. I didn't want to do it when I was pregnant either, so I totally get that, but it won't actually hurt your or the baby. I'd just do it and not say a word to him about it. If it needs to be done again next week and he never noticed that you did it in the first place, this time I'd do it again, but I'd just go outside and do it while he's home and in plain view. But again, don't say a word about it. If he happens to say anything just say "oh, well, it needed to be done. i'd rather not do it while i'm pregnant, but whatever." Act very non-chalant. Hopefully that will guilt him into getting around to it more often.

But you seriously may want to consider what kind of a man you've chosen as your partner in life here. Doesn't look good.

Hide the TV remote in the yard. When it takes him an hour to find it, maybe he will be more willing to mow the yard. Sometimes I am just mean. :)

Do what we're doing: put down a weed barrier fabric and mulch the whole front yard and fill it with attractive perennials and native species (these return year after year and once established, only need occasional watering), winding paths, and a little hardscaping. Check the Craigslist for free bricks and pavers people are getting rid of, and just start accumulating them. Check with your local Freecycle (it's a group on Yahoo). Post for a bench, bricks, pavers, planters, and even plants or a water feature! Sometimes people re-landscape and get rid of plants. The Freecycle is all entirely free things people are getting rid of. Your local city compost center probably has free dirt and compost, and maybe mulch too. Get friends to help. It's amazing what you can get done for free or very little money. You can even get small plants (more economical that more mature specimens), or start them from seed.

However, if you're really bent on having grass, you might try just peeling up all your grass up and trying a variety called Pearl's Premium. It's a grass blend that creates 12 inch long roots, and once you get it established, it only needs water and a mow once a month in the summer. They have a sunny blend, and also a shade blend. The seed is extremely reasonable in price.

In some of the hotter parts of the country, a native grass called Buffalo Grass is a very good option. It's not a green grass, but a gray green, and it almost never needs watering.

Xeriscaping is becoming very, very popular. The Ladybird Johnson Wildflower Center in Texas is all centered around sustainable gardening and lawncare.

First, congrats on the baby. Second, do not mow it yourself and do not hire a service to do it. Call his best friend up and ask him, or ask his dad, brother, or a neighbor etc you get my point. Or if your Dad is like mine, ask him to do it. I guaranty he'll give your husband a lesson in how to treat his daughter afterward.

If you are feeling especially spunky, take it one step further. Cancel his gas card, his premium cable / satellite, or his cell phone (whatever is important to him) and use that money to hire someone. when he says something, you sweetly say sorry dear, i used my best judgment.

One other option: check yourself into a hotel until it is mowed andlet him know that. I know you cant afford it but he needs to feel an impact of his actions. Keeping them guessing as to what crazy thing you will do next when they don't act right is the only thing that keeps some men in line ;)

Good luck!

I know you said you can't afford to pay anyone but maybe a young man in your neighborhood would do it cheap- I know in our neighborhood my 11 year old mows several lawns and only charges 15$. That might be worth not having to argue with your husband!

I definitely would NOT mow the lawn that far along. If you were under 20 weeks, I would think you'd be fine, but at 26 weeks, your belly is probably big enough (unless you don't get very big!) that it could have stretched your muscles out enough that it could strain you too much to mow the lawn yourself. Plus, the heat could cause heat stroke (prego women get it REALLY easily).

For those who are suggesting you do it yourself, I have a few stories:
- My friend decided to reorganize her garage and was lifting boxes (this would be equivalent to pushing the lawn mower), and she ended up going into labor and the baby was born at 33 weeks.
- Another friend decided to mow her lawn at 34 weeks. It was October in Texas (hot). She had a doctor appt the next day, and her amniotic fluid was very low. Low enough that it was critical and she didn't get to leave. They had to induce and take the baby then to save his life.

You should NOT mow the lawn when you are that far along. Please make sure you don't follow the suggestion of other women and do it yourself! Plus, the heat can be overwhelming to a pregnant lady as far along as you. I'm 25 weeks along, and there is no way I feel safe enough to mow the lawn myself.

Anyway...enough of that rambling...

Your hubby should mow the lawn, but it sounds like he's not interested or feels too nagged. I'd give him a few days, with no pestering, and if he doesn't do it, then your only other option is to not care...or to hire someone else. A teenager might be a good option - $20-30. Or if you have another family member nearby, maybe they'd do it.

Teach him a lesson- When he is home- go outside like you are going to mow the lawn. He should jump of his rear and get out there and do it.

That sucks though. I am 35 weeks and there is NO shot my husband would let me cut the grass. He wouldn't even let me shovel snow in the winter- or pull weeds for that matter. But my husband is a bit overly crazy when I am pregnant. Irregardless, you shouldn't be out there doing it. Act like your gonna do it. If that doesn't get him out there- then demand that he do it. 2 weeks is a long time not to cut it.

I agree with S H.'s comment! Sorry some of these people are rude on here but it's not uncommon anymore. I don't think it matters if you are high risk in you're pregnancy or not. You shouldn't do. Plus like you mentioned you have another child that no one could watch while you did it.

Get one of your neighbors' gardeners to do it. When you see them out mowing your neighbor's lawn, just run over and ask how much to do yours, too. Probably $20. So cut the sports package out of your cable bill to pay for that this week, then cut out your DH's Starbucks money to pay for next week's lawn service, make him pack his lunch to work to pay for the next week's lawn service after that...

Girl, this is just the beginning. Draw the line in the sand here and now, or pretty soon you will be stuck with ALL the child care duties, ALL the cleaning, ALL the gardening... it's a slippery slope. Take away his favorite stuff to pay for the chores he doesn't want to do, and pretty soon he might decide it's worth it to him to start cutting the darn grass!

I absolutely HATE that husbands (generally speaking) think they get to pick and choose what they do and leave the rest to us. We don't get to pick!!! Sorry, just a rant there...

I would urge you not to mow it yourself if its getting hard to start the crank, you could get hurt. But you may need another approach. Don't nag, but ask him to please do it for you (big strong hubby save me type), your pride might be hurt a little in the process, but it will work!

Im getting into this late. But in regards to your "So what happened" posting... you are just going to let it go? and have your yard look trashy? Not the route I would go I would figure out a way NOW to pay a neighborhood kid.

Disregard what Brenda M. says...you stated perfectly well why you dont want to do it. High risk pregancy! She is just unhappy she had to all that through her pregnancy!

just hire someone to come in an do it...a teenager would LOVE the small job!!!

stop stressing over it and just call someone to do it. You say you can't afford it - but a teenager might not charge you much....it will be much more expensive if the county places a lien or other negligent homeowner fee for it....(this happened to my friends who left their home vacant and moved across the country....the county fined them for having grass too long...)

nip it in the bud now. find the money and hire someone to do it.

I cut grass and played volleyball until 3 weeks before my babies were born. I refused to to accept to be handicapped when I was pregnant...nothing stopped me. Plus I was moving gas cylinders in my lab at 40 weeks, because my co-workers were jerks.

Jennifer S....I WAS high risk pregnancy, and I did it cause I wanted too, because I like exercising..I am not a helpless person.

Catherine is right. Ask one of your neighbors gardners or even better one of your neighbors kids. and pay for it. when he asks why there is no money to go out or whatever just say you used to to pay the kid. its a very passive aggressive thing. my husband did it in a different way. he left his crummy muddy work boots and clothing in our bathroom each night for me to trip over. I finally started just pitching the shoes to the garage and the clothing to the basement. he will get over it.

Stop nagging and ask one of your neighbors to help you start up the lawn mower. If you have to "crank" it up, it's more the just a push mower. If the neighbor is a gentleman, he will do the job for you or you can give it a go yourself. If you have been doing it all along and you are not a "high risk" pregnancy, there should be now problem. OR......you could push the mower out on the lawn after your man goes to work and when he comes home you can tell him you tried to start it up, but then felt a pain and went in to lay down.

Does your man intend on helping with the baby or will you be on you own with all the work?

Blessings....

I think that you should pay a kid from the neighborhood. You shouldn't stress yourself out. It also let's you husband off the hook.

Tell/ask your neighbours to put a call into the city about how crappy your lawn looks and they (the city) should contact you and tell you that there is a certain expectation of everyone in the neighbourhood to keep their lawn in a presentable state. That should get his butt in gear when he is told and not asked to take care of it

Do you have a friend that could do it? Ask them. When your hubby sees it is cut--you can say, you wanted me to stop nagging- I did. You didn't mow it, so I found someone who would! Or if there is a teen in the neighborhood that would like some extra cash--you could offer them to mow it once a week and be done with it. Thats what I would do.

GL!

M

That's harsh Jenny J! I've known ladies who mowed their lawns throughout their pregnancies, but I never did it myself. I never do it when I'm not pregnant either. Just make yourself an iced tea, and try to forget about the lawn. He'll get to it sooner or later.

Sounds like your husband is kind of immature and inconsiderate. Pay a neighborhood kid $5 and they'll do it.

I agree w/ hiring someone. How much could someone charge you for a one-time mow? Not much. I'm betting your husband will come home, see the mowed lawn, ask you about it, you tell him you hired someone and poof! He does it going forward.

I ended up getting a reel lawnmower. Spent 50 bucks on it. It's not electric, so there is nothing to pull. I can mow the lawn and not worry about the kids getting something thrown out at them. Stick them in the play pen outside and mow the lawn or I do it during nap time. The down side of it is you have to do it on a weekly basis so it doesn't get too long.

I say mow it and make sure all your neighbors see you doing it! Then tell him 'yea I stopped n talked to so n so while I was mowing the yard"
Hopefully it will make him ashamed of himself!

Anyway, mowing wont hurt you, just don't get too hot.

id wait until the village starts giving you fines and then maybe hell agree someone should cut the grass

Could you trade a neighbor a batch of cupcakes/muffins for a lawn-mow?

Sorry, I know you've gotten a ton of responses and maybe someone has already suggested something similar, but... what if you got your dad or his dad to do it for you (if they are around, capable). You would think that that would really make him feel ashamed if his FIL was doing a job that should be his. Honestly though, when I was pregnant, I would shovel the snow on our walk. One, it wasn't too much and I was really just pushing it away and Two, it would make my husband feel bad to see his pregnant wife out there doing his job.

find a teenager to do it for 15. If you really can't afford it and he finds out that you paid someone to do it maybe that will make him do it himself. 14 days seems like a long time considering how much rain we have had here in the Chicago area. Your grass must be really high. I have cut the grass pregnant (we have a self propelled mower) but if you don't want to, you shouldn't have to. Is this your first pregnancy? Are you the one that has always cut the grass before? Are there any male neighbors that you are friendly with that will cut the grass and make him realize what a jerk he is being? Seriously, I love cutting the grass. I hate when my husband does it because, he doesn't like doing it either, so it never looks that great. My neighbors are always making comments about how come your husband doesn't cut the grass or they will make fun of him for letting me cut the grass.....lol I started having to tell people that I like cutting the grass and I don't like when he cuts the grass. Then the guys want me to cut their grass or teach their wives how to cut grass. lol One older couple (wife has passed away now) on the block would walk by and the wife would say, "The grass could be up to the windows and I still wouldn't cut the grass" she cracked me up. Find a teenager and pay him 15-20 dollars...that just might do the trick! Good luck....I would be mad and embarrassed as well.

You have every reason to be upset - if you get cited by your village - which is a poss. if the neighbors complain - they will cut your lawn and charge you around $100 or more. How does that sit with him? What other tasks around the house is he not wanting to do? What happens to the heavy tasks when you are 35 weeks or close to term?

I know you have resolved this issue I just want to say that YOU DID NOT deserve that nasty remark from the ignorant Brenda M. over there on her high horse. You DON'T sound like you're a wimp to me--you sound like a good mom. Glad you decided not to let the whole thing give you high blood pressure. Keep taking good care of you and that precious baby!

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Blessings!

If it were my husband I'd calmly remind him of the rules for your town (I imagine they have rules as to how tall the grass can get). I'd tell him if it's not cut XX date then you will have to pay someone to do it otherwise you risk a fine that would cost much more than paying someone. You don't have to nag him, just tell him what you are going to do and he can make his own decision on what he is going to do. But you have to follow though - just like with the kids :) I know my husband would be motivated by not having to pay someone or getting the fine.

I understand why you want him to do it - it's more about him being a partner and doing his share than doing the "man's work." Hopefully your husband decides to step up. My hubbie freaked out a little before our first came - he got real funny and panicky about having enough money, eventhough we were fine. He may be feeling overwhelmed. All the best.

Awww! Well I hear you on that! When I was pregnant I went through the samething...BUT my husband also worked 7 days a week and I barely seen him.. So I understand how u feel! We ended up hiring a company to come out and cut it for us and yes, it does cost alot especially with this economy. How about any neice's or nephew's? Or maybe even some kid's that live on your block? Try that out...But don't sweat it, it'll get done sooner or later! I'm sure that once it starts to look like a "jungle" then he'll give in as my hubby has in the past lol! Congrat's on your pregnancy! Good Luck!

I agree with Kim M, get a neighbors kid to do it. I am not pregnant I just don't like doing it/have the time to do it so I get My dads friend to do it. He refuses money so he gets a nice cool drink and some cookies to take home. :-)

You absolutely should not risk mowing the lawn during pregnancy. If you live in a neighborhood where people notice your grass, they also have noticed you are pregnant, so no reason to feel shame on your part. 60-80 hours /week sounds like a nightmare work schedule for your husband. I'm sure you also find a way to get things done at home when you are feeling 'dead on your feet' so I'm not buying the excuse from him. A couple of thoughts come to mind: 1) is it the mower he doesn't like or the mowing? maybe you can get a mower that's easier for him to use. A used one on Craigslist might be in your budget. Perhaps your husband could forgo a favorite expenditure he enjoys until you've saved enough to buy a mower he's willing to use. 2) is there some sort of barter arrangement you could work out with a neighborhood kid or a friend? He gets a discount on movie tickets or sporting events at work and trades for a regularly mown lawn. Is there a job your husband enjoys more than mowing such as washing the car or taking the kids somewhere on the week-ends? Perhaps there is a creative solution. Look for needs your neighbors or friends or their kids have that would be easy or more enjoyable for your husband than mowing and suggest a barter/trade agreement. In the meantime, just letting it go sounds like a good choice for you for now. you can only do so much in your current condition and you only have so much energy in any given day. good luck!

Unplug the tv and computer and make his lazy but get out there. And if he wont do it then, if your dad or brother lives nearby, ask them to do it. he will look like a ***. Or when you get a citation for an over grown lawn and have to pay the fine. he mit do it. he just being lazy, because he wants to be lazy. i have been there and it suxs. and no you dont need to be cutting it. maybe going crazy on his butt, and then blame it on the hormones. lol. i hope this was helpful.

We have a used electric mower, and all you have to do is plug it in and turn the switch. Just have to deal with the cord.

yeah thats annoying, i wouldnt even cut the lawn "not pregnant", id find another man in your life to do it, you shouldnt be, or offer a neighbor boy a small wage and cut the budget somehow that wont effect your kids, maybe just him.

I bet you out there 'trying" in full view of the neighbors might make him "man up" as well

I would just let it go for now, and see if one of the local kids will do it for a small fee, they usually do not charge much.

Working out in corn fields were the corn holds the moisture and can about choke you to death. Placing asphalt (240 F degrees) on anyday can be extremly draining and h*** o* your body. My husband would take a 5 gallon cooler and put a big bag of ice in the water. Then he would drink it all day as he was drilling.

Anyway, I don't know about her neighborhood but there are no teens around to mow the grass. It is surprising in our society today you could live next to your neighbors for decades and know nothing about them.

Is anyone close to Beezle who could run over there and do a "Be a Good Samaritian" and mow her grass for her. Maybe, she can trade baby sitting.

Just a thought.

J.

I would let him pay the price. If he isn't' willing to spend 20 minutes a week on the yard to keep it looking nice then he needs the city to give him a red ticket on the trash cans for the yard being overgrown. Just stop nagging him. He has eyes, he can see the grass. It only makes him mad at you. Eventually he will have to get out and do it or pay someone to do it for him. That is his choice. I stopping rescuing my husband and he pays a neighborhood kid $20 to mow. It takes him about an hour but for a kid that is nothing.

I'm with Stephanie here, if you call someone else you know, maybe you have male family members or friends ask them if they dont mind.

Call one of HIS friends and ask haha, then he will hear about it and get it done pretty quick I bet.

You probably wouldnt even have to ask anyone, pretend you did and tell him so and so is coming over this weekend to the lawn, hope you dont mind. And see what he says.

And like everyone else says, try not to worry, people arent judging you because the lawn isnt mowed, you are pregnant. Obviously you arent going to, or shouldnt do it yourself.

If it gets bad enough, a neighbor will come by and offer :)

Dont stress!

I would mow it myself! You are pregnant, not handicapped. Go slow, do it in the AM before the heat of the day.

Live with the high grass. This is the "small stuff" people are told not to sweat. It sounds like he is tired and works hard, and if you dont feel that you can do it, or pay someone else to, I would just live with it. Be thankful that he works hard and for all the other things you like about him.

Look in to paying someone to do it. In Dallas, for a small yard, its about $20 - maybe you can carve that out of your grocery bill or entertainment bill.

In any case, if you have high grass, its not the end of the world. Enjoy the little amount of family time you have.

Sounds like your hubby is a good guy and works very hard to take care of his family. Instead of "teaching him a lesson" or nagging him, make his favorite dinner and give him some extra "lovin" and whisper how much you appreciate him and how important it is to you to have the lawn mowed. Men do not like being treated like children but will do so much more when they are respected for how hard they work. It's worth a shot and will be less stressful for both of you.

That sounds really annoying. Maybe if he gets an HOA fine he'll find the time. Hopefully, he'll do it before it comes to your HOA having to give you a citation. I would hire someone though or find out if anyone knows a teen that cuts grass. Best wishes!

Ho-ly cow. Explain to the neighbors that you are too pregnant to mow and your husband is too lazy. I'll bet your yard gets done, if not by him, then by the neighbors!