2 Yr Old Pee Pee Issues. Sorry If Too Graphic. I Need Help.

We had similar issues, although not quite so extreme. My son always had to have things talked through with him. So we talked about how yucky and stinky poop is, and not to touch his bum because that's where poop comes from. And then he'd get poop smell and germs on his hands. Of course, he didn't fully understand. We also had a problem with him drinking bath water, but telling him that he was drinking water that his bum was sitting in, "Eeew, Gross!" really worked. As far as his wee-wee, tell him that when he plays with it, it hurts it (which he'll probably understand because he knows it hurts, but maybe doesn't understand what he's done to make it hurt). My issue with DS was that in the bath, he'd try to shove his into the opening of the soda bottles we put in there for bath toys. We told him it would get stuck and would hurt really bad, and he eventually stopped.
Maybe if you keep washing his hands every time you catch him with his hands down his pants, and say you have to wash all the yucky bum smell off, he'll start to understand that it's gross.

We do overalls with long shirts that are hard to untuck. Sometimes the sleeves have to be rolled to meet the goal, but it mostly works. GL I so don't get this not having had brothers, but both my boys seem a bit overly fasinated with themselves. You're not alone, and it does get better if your consistent and remind gently every time.

First take a deep breath. This really is normal. As a woman I understand it is hard to relate to it. The first thing is, don't shame him for it. This is the age where he will do things the more you want him to stop. Every time he is playing with his pee pee in public explain to him that we only do that in private. Tell him that over and over, every time he does it, then turn his attention to something else. If he is busy he won't have the time. He doesn't need punishment. Just guidance. Quite frankly, the fact that it is hurting him will probably slow him down. As for the bootie problem, you should definitely take away the toys every time he does this and tell him that toys do not go in your bootie. If every time he does this he loses the toy, he will soon see no benefit. It will take a little time for him to change this behavior since he is so young. At 2 they have almost no ability to control their impulses because their brains can't do it yet. Be patient and stop worrying so much. I am sure he senses this and it will only make it last longer. Make it no big deal and take the anxiety out and I'll bet you'll see a change. Keep reminding yourself how normal this is for a little boy. Good Luck!

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It is actually somewhat normal, the best advice I have is when you catch him make sure you are stern when you tell him no that it isn't Ok, no other expression, and then redirect his attention, and do it every single time. Try not to overreact, it can be hard but it really is exploration for him, my oldest would do this also and that is how he was broke of it, he was the only one of mine to do it, so not every kid does. If all else fails duct tape his diaper onto him and stay right by his side when he is in the bath. I hope it works out, these things can be frustrating. Good luck!

It IS normal. You've got to lay off your little boy. My oldest daughter liked a normal form of masturbation when she was itty-bitty. By researching this and from experience having worked at a preschool in my younger days, I knew to let her know that is a private thing to do (kids at the preschool used to do this similar thing at naptime...I would tell them the same thing...that is not for sharing in the classroom, it's something to do privately). I never said it was bad or wrong...that's not the path to go on. The way you cope with this is accept it and rely on what people are telling you...that it is normal whether you like it or not and that more damage can come from a lack of acceptance. You don't get him to stop...you leave him alone. Think about the message you are sending him unintentionally...that what he's doing is wrong, bad, gross, something to be embarrassed about, that this normal thing is actually abnormal and therefore HE is wrong, bad, gross, should be ashamed and is not like anyone else.

You can't change a child from being a normal 2 year old, but you can change yourself and your reaction...that's the best lesson I've learned as a parent.

Hope this helps (by the way, little girls do the same thing...they check themselves out...it's their body and they are curious),
S. W. - 35, married 11 years, at-home-mom to Avery - 10, Anna - 7 and Lily - 2