Punishment: Older Child
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What Do You Do for Punishment?
Asked by J.S. from Minneapolis
on March 1, 2011
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Hi,
I have 3 kids, aged almost 6, 4 and 2. The older two are boys with the almost 6 year old in 1/2 day Kindergarten. I'm going to start this by saying I have gre...
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- I think you did the right thing-I think you handled it well-you were crystal clear about where you stand on spitting-and you are lucky to have a united front with your...
- We follow logical consequences when punishing our kids (7 & 9). For example; our 9 yo is allowed to play out front by himself. Yesterday he knocked on friends door...
- We've done grounding, fines (basically making them hand back their allowance), taking away the cords and essentials but not the console of a video game, taking toys/ga...
Corporal Punishment
Asked by K. from Chicago
on April 2, 2009
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My 9 year old son has been having behavior issues at school. He has been suspended several times for acting out and being mean and/or physical with other students. W...
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- Hi K., Kim and Jen both give great advice....it sounds like there's something more going on than just a kid acting up that needs punishment. I would have him asses...
- I believe you need to enlist the aid of a family counselor or some kind of therapist/doctor to get at the root of your son's problem. Until you do that, I don't think...
- The book (or DVD) MAGIC 1,2,3 by Thomas Phelan is a book we have used as parents, and I know several teachers that have used the method in their classrooms for problem...
Proper Punishment
Asked by A.R. from Columbus
on April 5, 2007
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My 9- and 7-year old sons broke an expensive glass candle holder of mine...one on display in a room where they have been told REPEATEDLY not to play. I was in the sho...
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- Hi, I wouldn't be too harsh on them. If they had lied about it, that's a different story, but I have to say, you have done an amazing job raising your kids! The f...
- Hi A., It sounds like you are doing a super job with your boys to have them come and immediately admit what they did. My adivise is have them work off the value of...
- As I read the other postings... I agree in that the boys should be recognized for their honesty but, also made to earn the money to replace it. Extra chores are good ...
10 Year Old Punishment
Asked by T.H. from Washington DC
on November 1, 2009
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I found 2 porno movies in my 10 year old backpack. How do I confront him and what is a punishment for him>
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- I agree with several people, punishment is not the answer, education is. It is perfectly natural for young boys to have questions, and if you don't help them find the...
- He is going to be probably more embarrassed than you. I would sit him down and ask where he got them. Are they even his? Have you had a discussion about sex? About...
- First you need to find out where he got them from. At home??? Lock them up. From a friend??? talk to the parent(s) of that child. They may not be aware. He's eithe...
Appropriate Punishment???
Asked by S.R. from St. Louis
on December 14, 2009
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Hi Moms!
Oh, am I mad! One of my 6 year old twins has always been a challenge when it comes to his behavior. He does all the typical things that boys do and more. He ...
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- Hi S., I would suggest that you make an appointment with your childs Doctor and clear up any medical issues before punishing him. It sounds like he is very aware of ...
- I hadn't responded previously because I wasn't sure what to respond. Still really don't know, but I can say I can sympathise with the draining part. My youngest (now...
- It appears that he is looking for your attention. Children will often act out just to get the parent's attention. You have other children and are expecting another. ...
Suitable Punishment
Asked by A.R. from Kansas City
on May 3, 2010
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My daughter is in 1st grade and rides the bus every day. Earlier in the year we had a problem with her not following the rules (staying seated, facing the front, etc....
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- I make my 9 year old write essays when she gets in trouble for stuff like that. She HATES it! She tells me that she'd rather be grounded, lol! Also, when I was younge...
- I agree with Sherry. Good for you for taking her behavior seriously. Lying is a big issue and needs to be dealt with seriously, as well as her disrespecting authority....
- When I was little, I always got in trouble for fighting with my younger sisters on the bus. Finally, my mom made me and my sisters write "I'm sorry Mr. Hanson for figh...
What Is a Good Punishment For....
Asked by B.D. from Richmond
on June 24, 2009
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My 5 yr old son is giving me a time because of his behavior and the things he does...well i need advice on what kind of punishment is a god idea to fit the "crime"...l...
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- I used to make "useful" punishments. That is, I would make him sweep the front porch, vacuum, or clean something. Serves three purposes: punishment, helped me out, a...
- I am going through this exact same thing with my soon-to-be 5 year old son. Well, several nights ago I was at my wits end and I was desperate to try anything. A whil...
- Something that I picked up from my son's school is the stoplight method. Red, yellow, green. If he does something minor he gets a warning. 2 warnings and he moves to ...
Appropriate Punishment?
Asked by L.T. from Cincinnati
on September 9, 2011
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While I was at work tonight and my hubby was home with my kids, my boys took off. They had been playing outside in the yard, but then hubby didn't see them and began ...
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- How close is the neighbor? I would ask the neighbor to keep an eye on the boys and simply take off (both you and hubby) on them be gone an hour to hour and a half and...
- Wow. So glad your boys are safe and at home now. I can imagine that you have mixed feelings about being so grateful that they are safe and being very pissed off that t...
- I think they might have learned their lesson. Tell them next time to make sure that dad hears them, and that they are not allowed to take a walk like that again until...
10 Year Old Defiant Son
Asked by J.F. from Minneapolis
on January 10, 2008
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I am so desperate for any advice from other parents of 10 year old boys. My son is not at all respectful of my discipling him, he doesn't care what I threaten him with...
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- maybe he just wants more attention from you- sounds a lot like my 8 year old son- the other thing a lot of us moms just threaten and we don't follow thru so that's a l...
- Sounds like you are dealing with ODD-Oppossitional Defiant Disorder and possibly ADHD-Attetion Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder. I strongly suggest you get your son help...
- I am a 52y/o mom of 8 from ages 16-31, 4 of them adopted from Russia. 5 girls 3 boys. The first thing I see is that you are threatening him. Get parenting with love...
7 Year Old Discipline
Asked by J.S. from Austin
on August 10, 2009
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My 7 year old girl will not do her chores. I have a list of chores on the refrigerator and she knows she is suppose to do those chores everyday, the same time everyda...
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- Wow, okay, with all due respect to some of the responders, 7 is very, very young to expect to just give her a job and leave her to it. Developmentally that is just to...
- J., I also have a 7 yr old and 9yr old. The personality of both of these girls is totally different. My oldest is a pleaser she will do whatever she needs to do to ma...
- When I feel like I'm doing all the work with my kids, I feel like I'm doing something wrong. I'm there to teach and not control. Truly give the responsibility back t...
