"Where Do Babies Come From" D. B.

I would sat down with him and allow him to question me more on the subject, I would be honest with him about the answers but I would also tell him that a lot of kids have not talk to their parents about this so you need to allow them to have this specail parent child talk with their parents, By allow him to led the talk you can talk him what he wants to know but not more then he needs to know. I would began that when two poeple like a mom and dad love each other very much they have a specail time together, And out of their love a baby sometimes comes.

My fiance found a book "Its Perfectly Normal" by Robie H Harris, about changing bodies, growing up, sex and sexual health. Its a helpful guide for both parents and kids (warning, it is illustrated too). There is a section in there about making babies among all the others. Mebbe that would be a useful tool in helping you and junior discuss the more hairy things in life. My girls are 8 & 9, but I havent been brave enough to have "the talk" with them yet - are we ever? I hope this helps :}

I think you had better find a way to tell him enough to satisfy him you might check with you doctor or go on the internet to get some suggestions but you need to find a way to tell him something not a lie but something for his age group cause he will find out and it may not be the way you want good luck I just told my kids the truth for their age level but thats been 30 years ago forgot what I told rhem

I agree with the two previous posters. If you can't afford the books, I would simply sit him down and tell him it takes boy parts, and girl parts to make a baby....God developed a way for the parts to join....I wouldn't indulge more than neccessary...answer what he asks and nothing more. Good luck.

Get the book "Where Did I Come From?" I forgot the author, but it should still be in print because a current website recommended it the other day, and it is the same book my mom gave me when I was a kid, but it's not outdated! It makes it so much easier.

I JUST had this conversation with my 8 yr old. I think it's the age where you can't put it off any longer. I was honest, my husband and I also decided I should take the opportunity to reinforce morals and why God instituted marriage...so there'd be a Mommy and a Daddy to help care for a baby.

I also explained that it was a priveledge for me to talk to her about this, and it was my responsibility in preparing her for being a grown up, and for that reason, she should NOT talk to her friends about it...she was instructed to let her friends parents be the first one to tell them, because it is a very private decision and a priviledge for the parent to be the ones to handle it. She responded well to this, but I also privately let her teacher know what she knew, and asked her to keep her ears open for any chatter. Later, she told me that my daughter had acted in a very trustworthy manner as far as she could tell. Hopefully this will help your son keep a lid on it. Let him know that all of his friends might not be ready to hear all of this yet, and it would be inappropriate to tell them.

The REALLY funny thing...
After she was done being grossed out that "Mom, YOU'VE DONE that??" She told me that she'd like for my husband and I to have sex "just one more time" so she could have a baby brother. Heehee.

Good Luck!

You don't have to give a child the full gory details as an answer. you only need to give them as much info as will satisfy their curiosity. Your son should already know that men and women have different parts. Explain that these are special baby making parts and when a man and woman love each other the parts come together and each baby making part puts what needs to create a baby in the woman's belly. you don't have to be graphic or explain sex completely. Most kids are satisfied with just a little bit of knowledge. Hope this helps!

Hi D..

I remember that tricky question! What I did was to go to the library and get a book on just that subject for young children. It tells in simple-to-understand terms where babies come from. I don't remember the name of the book--it's been over 20 years--but I'm sure there are a lot more by now. I would also recommend the book for that age about 'good touch, bad touch'. It's never too soon to learn to keep them safe!! Good luck!

A.
Gulfport

Our family bought the most beautiful book series entitled:
God's Design for Sex Series,
By: Stan Jones, Brenna Jones
The First One is called "The Story of Me" it is for age 3-5
The second is called, "Before I was Born" It is for ages 5-8. We also bought the last two, called, "What's the Big Deal" and Facing the Facts". We read both of the first two books to our 8 year old daughter, 6 year old son, and three year old daughter. As of yet, it hasn't been appropriate to read the third one, as it is really more for when they start asking more specific questions. My 6 year old son actually thanked me, profusely, after reading the two books to him. He took them and read them both a couple more times. Since then, the subject hasn't come up at all again.

The books handle the topic beautifully. They use proper anatomical terms. They approach the topics from a very Bible centered way - explaining God's perfect plan for us and our bodies and our future family. I can't say enough about how well written, illustrated, and informative these books are.

They can be found at CBD.com

http://www.christianbook.com/Christian/Books/product?item...
and I am sure any other online bookstore. I hope this helps.

Blessings,
D.

As a mother and grandmother, I have told mine and mine has told his, "You are not old enough to understand this fully, when the time is right, I will tell you." Sometimes, they find out from others, if you feel him out and find this is true, then explain in your own way about the beauty of love and fulfillment,etc. explaining only what he has already found out. from Mommo C.

My favorite line from a movie where a child asked this was
"well, they get out the same way they got in!"

And leave it at that. LOL
R.

Others have given you some great advice. I just wanted to add that at about this age, I was first told about what a pad and tampon are used for, and at 10, we were watching "health ed" videos in school that explained the menstrual cycle. I'm 32, so my point is that it's not odd or even early for him to be asking about it. Good luck with your first phase of "the talk"!!!

How did you answetr his with your daughter? I have always thought to be honest with my children woudl be the best approach, my kids are oldest 5 1/2 she has started to ask and as of right now she thinks from her own interpretation they come out the belly button,loolol. But by the time she is 8 I am sure she willknow the truth she is very smart as well. I also think by the time I was 8 I knew what most of the birds and bees were from a childs eyes. He probably will be like ill and not ask again,hahah.

In my case I faced as a child, the frustration of trying to talk about the subject of sex and babies with my mother, and she wasn't ready for it. I got the information from my science teacher during class and I was releave to know that when couples kiss, that doesn't give then a baby afterwards!
But I didn't discuss the matter with my parents anymore and faced many sad experiences.
I have 2 already married daughters, my 2 little ones and one of his/her way now. When the 2 oldest were little, I used to answer their questions and used books and children's videos as an aid. I tried to be honest and straight to the point and they were in general honest with their mom.
As a teacher I learned children guide you with their questions. You answer their questions with simple answers and as they grow their questions will be more mature and detailed.
My 5 years old has been very interested in learning how the baby in my womb is growing. I used the online development pictures to show her starting with the first one where a man's cell get together with a woman's cell becoming a tiny baby. At this point no more questions have been ask and she is enjoying the experience.
In Head Start I used to explain birth to the children using a rubber to explain how the vagina is small and expands so the baby can go out into the world, and then the opening goes back to normal (almost;)and we call every body part by the right name without embaracing attitudes. But my daughter has seen my last c-section and she hasn't ask questions for me to explain that some babies don't come out from Mom's belly!
Be aware that trust is something you want to develop and mantain with your children no matter the age, and you, like me, already faced seeing one growing into adulthood.

We are facing difficult times, TV presents the kind of "sex" that portraits lack of responsability and many times violence.
Children, including boys, have to face predators at times among their relatives and their neighbors and many times start exploring their bodies with other children of their age early. I mentioned this because of the other mothers (not only you) that can use some awareness to talk to their children and try to protect them. I see trust as a delicate plant, we parents must preserve!

Many hugs!
R.

Good reply from Debbie H

Nothing to it - the next time he ask just tell him the truth and that is - God gives you and your husband the act of love and with it he gives you the miracle of having a child.

And that is where he came from, and that is how a child is conceived and born.

God Bless

I would give him the biological facts, using standard clinical vocabulary. Kids are usually not that fascinated by this weird stuff once they understand the basics.

I'd start the conversation by asking your son what he already knows (or thinks he knows, LOL) By letting him start off, hopefully you can avoid giving too much information. But I wholeheartedly recommend you be honest and straightforward. Don't be cutesy or evasive, it will just lead to more questions. My son is 9 and has asked several times about this subject. As he continues to ask, I cover more and more information. The old "birds and bees" talk just doesn't cut it anymore. Good Luck!!

I've always told my children the unadulturated truth (using the scientifically correct terms). Eight years old is old enough to know. Best you tell him before he receives some misinformation or a very crass explaination from his school chums.

Go to your local book store or library and see what kind of books they offer on the subject. I have never personally had to approach this question, but I am sure there is age appropriate material out there that will help you answer this question to his satisfaction. Good luck!
J.