Hi all
Something happened in my parents street the other day which relates to my subject title. There is a family who rents a house - mom, dad + 5 kids the oldest being 6yrs old. The kids were always running around without any supervision, really dirty, playing in the middle of the street. The neighbours were always calling the cops, social workers but nothing was ever done. The 3 youngest were found not too long ago trying to get to the park which is a good 10 min walk on there own!! Well in the past few weeks the neighbours found out that the mom had a boyfriend who would come at night when her husband was out working nights!! She very recently has left her husband and kids. (There are doubts about whether the 2 youngest are her husbands!!) Just the other day a fire broke out in the house, firemen got it under control after getting everyone out.(the kids were outside playing) The fireman found all sorts of illegal drugs all over the house and the 5 kids have been taken away and it turns out the eldest daughter was being sexually abused, they don't know if it was her father or the moms boyfriend. The kids are all out and will hopefully have a good life but will they ever get over this?? Maybe the youngest will forget but that poor 6 yr old, we all feel sick about it. So in regards to my subject title do you know of anything terrible happening that turned out to be a good thing? We all feel that the fire was the thing that saved those kids from a life of misery. I really hope they are all ok and can stay together - 5 kids is it doubtful?
That's so horrible and seems they need another miracle to not be seperated, go back to their parents, or be stuck in the system. I hope they get that miracle.
When I first read your title I was just going to talk about being fired and how it opend the door three years ago to a great new job that was perfect for our family . . . . but seems to pale in comparisson.
A little prayer going out to all these kiddos and IF, if, if that little girl can get into counseling she may have a fighting chance:)
NOTHING that extreme.
I got my husband after his cheating girlfriend broke up with him. WIN! WIN!
How horrible!!! My heart breaks for those children.. Especially for that 6 year old. It is a blessing in disguise that the fire happened and that all the children were outside playing. Also another that they have been taken away and that they can hopefully find some people who really deserve kids and wont treat them the way they have been.
So sad that they will have issues and a hard time adjusting most likely, but at least they will be safe. I hope that those children get the counseling that they need to help get them through such a awful time.
I hate to say but its possible that they might get broken up into different homes but maybe another miracle will happen for them.
But the main thing is that they are SAFE now, and at least they will get food in their bellies, baths, and hopefully all the hugs, kisses and cuddles they can handle.
Poor babies.
I think you got it when you said that "We all feel that the fire was the thing that saved those kids from a life of misery." I think that this may be h*** o* them NOW, but in the long run, they will or can be better off. I guess it just depends on the foster care system and the other family members and who ends up taking care of them. If family A gets 2 kids and family B gets 3 kids, you can only hope and pray that they and the system care enough to get those kids together every once in a while.
Will they ever be the same people they would have been without the trauma? No. Will they have a rough time? Yes. Can they go on to have a terrific life? Yes.
Some kids have broken under much lesser stresses. But many kids are resilient and amazingly powerful. These kids have already proven themselves to be survivors. (No one will take us to the park? We'll take ourselves!) Kids have managed to thrive despite much worse situations.
Give them your prayers, but don't despair. Believe in them.
If you can't offer any direct support to these kids, consider doing some work with/donations to local organizations that provide services to foster kids. The kids who survive this kind of situation are incredible, powerful, brave children who deserve our respect and support.
I'm not going to share all my personal experiences, but I do believe with love and care, everything will be all right for these kids. I was adopted, and although my birth mother has said she visited me until I was 4, and my adoption wasn't final until I was 8, I only remember my loving parents I grew up with. I don't remember more than little flashes of my younger life. As for the 5 of them staying together, it depends on several factors. Each state has their own policies, and space available in the foster care system obviously is a huge factor. I personally knew of 4 sisters who stayed together, and were eventually all adopted together. There were even people who wanted to take them in who were turned down because they couldn't take all 4. But that was in Georgia, about 4 years ago. When I was adopted I had a younger sister who was adopted by a different set of parents, but within the same family.
How sad, but it sounds like the fire was indeed a life saver. Unlikely that 5 kids will stay together. Sad stories about kids are everywhere. I could tell you worse, but I won't. Too depressing.
That is terrible I feel so bad for the kids. The Mom needs to be punished and I am sure the Dad isn't much better. All 5 staying together isn't very likely. I think the CPS or the Police should be investigated to let this go on for so long. Unfortunatley the little 6 year old will be messed up her entire life. This is so, so, sad. Sometimes it takes bad things for good things to happen.
Nothing like that but..
My husband business was in big trouble. (Opened a Chiropractic office, right when the market crashed). So he wasn't able to pay his lease anymore, he had a friend that had a personal training center and offered to set my husband up for half the cost. So my husband moved in. Two weeks before he was supposed to sign the lease for the new place, the friend decided to go to a new building...one that didn't have room for my husbands practice. So just when we were beyond stressed about what we were going to do, he got offered a job that would not only cover his business debts but help us pay them off. Had he signed the lease we would have been stuck.
My parents were trying to sell their house. Within a week they got an offer. During the inspection my folks found out they had some water issues the were completely unaware of under the house. The deal fell through. Two months later they both lost their jobs. Had they sold the house and built a new one as planned, they probably would have eventually lost their home.
So if you ask me things DO happen for a reason.
