Dear M.:
If I could suggest via personal experience, as I am now beyond baby years, with the exception of Grand Babies. :) When our little ones (4 in all) were young, we made a special date night for ourselves at home. Once the darlings were all tucked in, we set up our own bedroom with candlelight w/aroma.
I would usually have a nice hot bath ready for my beloved to soak in while I tucked the kids in, and got them fully to sleep. Then, I had easy finger sandwhiches, cheese and crackers, sometimes summer sausage too; and a glass of wine on occasion, if the budget permitted. If you are opposed to any alchohol, then sparkling cider is a nice addition. We would play soft melodies, instrumental, or Christian love songs. We would share dreams, hopes. Often times as a special treat, give one another a back massage as well, and get totally relaxed in one anothers caring presence. I hope this helps. Valentines Day is not meant for family fun. Have your fun with the little ones, baking cupcakes or something, and perhaps they can help set up the plates in advance with you, seran wrap them and place in fridge, and they will then be ready, and the girls can have fun while Mommy prepares for the day. Just remember your marriage is like a garden. It needs to be weeded, watered and given love and sunshine, to grow strong. Dates are important, be it at home or out. Your little ones will benefit greatly from a Mommy and Daddy who tend to their garden of love and marriage, in far more ways than you can imagine at this early time in their lives. Blessings on your holiday...L. J